Have them when you are old

@mom210 (9036)
United States
September 17, 2015 7:22am CST
I was reading an article today in the Doc's office that was saying women who have their last child after 33 are two times as likely to outlive most of their peers that have completed their family by age 29. Amazing! We ladies have been told to have them young, in fact anybody who has been pregnant in their thirty's know we start to get that speech about that magic age of 35 when you suddenly turn into a pumpkin and should not have kids because our eggs are just so OLD. The article also said that for each year over age 33 that a woman has her last child, she boosts her chance of out living her peers by another 5%. Research says whatever it is that keeps a woman fertile longer also helps them live longer. I say it is simple, kids keep us young! In my opinion, once again the medical community doesn't have a clue. They try hard to put us all into a mold of "this is right for everybody" I say just do what feels right for you!
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
18 Sep 15
I am 38 and still not a Mom. If my eggs go bye bye, so be it. I am a firm believer in what will be, will be, if I am meant to be a Mom I will, if not, then we all have a different path in life.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
I have a friend that got her tubes tied when she was 23, she knew she never ever wanted kids. She likes kids, just did not want any of her own. Some people just not not want their own, and that is okay. If we were all the same life would be so boring.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
@bluesa Thank you, he is doing well. He still had a feeding tube but does better and better each day.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
22 Sep 15
@mom210 , so true, and if I was meant to be a Mom I would be a Mom. I do hope all is well with Tiny, it is good to see you here. Have a great day by you. :-)
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• United States
18 Sep 15
I guess I won't be living all that long, for I had my last one at 23. I had the mind set, I wanted to enjoy my children, and then life once they ere grown. Not raising a child in my retirement years.
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• United States
22 Sep 15
@mom210 I sure would want to raise kids after retiring. Call me selfish. Yes, you do have a point about the genetics.
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@sofssu (23662)
23 Sep 15
@TexanTornado Mycousin has adopted a baby after retirement and looks so haggard and tired all the time.. Now she keep saying she may have made a mistake. She has two grown up kids of her own.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
I do think it would be hard to enjoy retirement while raising kids. I thin it is funny how they did not even calculate family genetics into the whole thing, some families live a really long time others have shorter life spans.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
23 Sep 15
Grandparents are having a tough time with their grandchildren as they are too old to care and/or enjoy them. Late marriages of their children is a result of this
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Sep 15
i think no matter how old you are, you either are the type that enjoy them or you don't want bothered. that is true with any individual person.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
24 Sep 15
@mom210 That ofcourse is there but because of age they are not physically fit to do what a normal grandparent would do with their grandchildern
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
24 Sep 15
I have noticed Some grandparents forget how to be stern, I guess because it is their grandchild, not their kid.
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@sofssu (23662)
20 Sep 15
I agree that taking care of them keeps us young.. but then with my second I feel I have less energy and patience.
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@sofssu (23662)
22 Sep 15
@mom210 He is a teen now.. I need so much more patience to deal with him at this stage. I guess babyhood was a cake walk with my second son.
@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
@sofssu Oh yes, I know about teen boys too, If only we could skip the teen years and get them back when they turn human again.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
How old is that one? I find the "baby" period gets a little harder to deal with with each one. I like my sleep.
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@jaboUK (64362)
• United Kingdom
17 Sep 15
You are right - do what's right for you, and don't let this sort of thing influence you.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
18 Sep 15
I know a lot of ladies want them early so they can go on the their careers, others want them after their careers are established. Whatever works.
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
1 Oct 15
Kids may keep us young but they also cause a lot of gray hairs
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
2 Oct 15
@mom210 Lol...I used to do the same thing to my kids.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
2 Oct 15
@simone10 Just one of the little perks in aging
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
1 Oct 15
I like to point at them (the grays) and say "see you gave me this, now stop it!"
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@suziecat7 (3350)
• Asheville, North Carolina
24 Sep 15
Medical opinion seems to change from year to year. I agree we should do what we want.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
28 Sep 15
Yes it goes change, think of all those ti mes they have changed about eggs, they are good for you, no wait, bad, good. I like to read this stuff for a good laugh.
@celticeagle (158723)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Nov 15
This article you read nearly makes me want to go out and get pregnant. The active word here is 'nearly'. Hehe
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@celticeagle (158723)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Jan 16
@mom210 ...Sure she can outlive her friends. If she can with stand child rearing she can withstand anything. Hardeeharhar!
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
9 Jan 16
I agree, I dislike when they throw us all in a little box like this.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
9 Jan 16
@celticeagle loss of sleep, stress, working long hours to pay for the little rugrats.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Sep 15
i had my last one at 32 yrs. but my first at 1 day after i turned 17yrs. lol
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Sep 15
@mom210 it worked great with my 3 oldest because i was still able to play with them (now that i think of it, i still played some with the younger ones) plus the younger ones may not have had my full attention like the first 3 but had had more provided for them. in both cases i have some that preferred the stay at home approach and some that liked the "things" better lol. i don't think it makes a differeence. i think they turn out how they will no matter.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
18 Sep 15
I have seen older parents with their kids and they seem to appreciate them so much, maybe because they waited. I have also seen young mothers in the store SO frustrated with their kids and not seeming like they appreciate them at all. I have also seen a few families that have a few early and few later for various reasons. I have a friend that was told she could never have any and she had six, that doc was surprised (so was my friend). I thought it was really funny how they thought they could just stick us all into a box and say... this is the way it is. hogwash. These studies all tickle me.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
28 Sep 15
@bunnybon7 MOm's are very adaptable we will work it out however we need to. Kids young or old we make it work, sounds like you enjoyed your kids
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
10 Oct 15
I had the twins when I was 39 so I guess I get a bit longer to live. Now I did have my older children when I was very young. I wonder if that will affect my outcome? LOL Our kids do keep us very busy.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
10 Dec 15
@mom210 Well I am sure that the twins and the 6 year old keep me young. They wear me out and give me lots of grey hair but I am still young because of them. I like the idea of those extra years (as long as I am sane during them).
@mom210 (9036)
• United States
15 Oct 15
I started when I was young and kept on until I was old, I don't know how that works into the equation either.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Sep 15
I gave birth for the first and last time when i was already 31 . Hmm , i am a bit short of that age , but i hope i still can reap your aforementioned benefits .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
28 Sep 15
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
24 Sep 15
This was just some "experts" opinion, I would not put to much into it. I thought it was a bit humerus.
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@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
6 Nov 15
I gave birth to my youngest when I was 34. What does that mean?
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
6 Nov 15
In my opinion, that you were smart and had them when you wanted them. I think their numbers are entertaining.
@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
17 Sep 15
I think it's whatever suits the individual these days. My sister had hers young and has always enjoyd being active with them. I had mine late twenties but wouldn't have had the patience when a little older.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
18 Sep 15
I see that patience thing happening as I get older, now I know why grandparents enjoy their grand kids so much, they give them back when they get tired of them and get short on patience.
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@jstory07 (134291)
• Roseburg, Oregon
18 Sep 15
@mom210 I helped raise all of my grandchildren and enjoyed watching them while the parents worked.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
@jstory07 I bet they really appreciate that too, it is so nice to leave the kids with somebody that loves them instead of a stranger.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48890)
• United States
9 Jan 16
I had my son a few months before my 31 st birthday.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
9 Jan 16
You fell into their window and should live a nice long life. I am not sure where I fit in since I have several over a long period of time.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
8 Dec 15
In my family babies well into the 40s are the norm. I mom had 3 children after she was 35, my grand mother had 3 and my great grandmother too. Me I was done at 22 but that is another story!! My daughter had her last one at 39 and the doctors gave her such a hard time she decided to not have more.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
12 Jan 16
@mom210 Hard work, good genes and only eating when you are hungry. Also eat butter, dessert and lots of fun food. She ate meat, bacon and cream. She still enjoys her food and has never been overweight.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
9 Jan 16
Oh I know how that goes, when I turned that magic old age of 36 and was pregnant you would have thought I had one foot in the grave. They make us feel really bad. I had my first at 23 and had my twins at 42, wonder how long I will live.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
11 Jan 16
@BelleStarr We need to ask her her secret to a long and healthy life, that is fantastic.
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@jstory07 (134291)
• Roseburg, Oregon
18 Sep 15
I am glad you came to my lots. I adopted four of my children and two when I was in my forties. children do keep you young at heart and very active.
@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
Fantastic, I have 2 sets of friends that adopted their kids, and another couple whose kids are all grown and they decided to start again through adoption.
@marlina (154166)
• Canada
20 Sep 15
I don't pay attention to those useless articles.
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@mom210 (9036)
• United States
22 Sep 15
I read them to entertain me, they are very funny sometimes.
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