Am I real in love with him?

@jessyu (132)
Chengdu, China
September 23, 2015 3:47am CST
Before I met him, I set up many rules for my future bf. But after I stay with my him, I find that I have surrendered to many things. For him, I am willing to try to share the burden with him. For him, I even tried to do things I do not like.For him, I even begin to have secret and cannot even tell my parents who I love the most. I used to think of leaving but I am worried of him, I hate the feeling of having him feel sad.
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6 responses
• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Sep 15
I think you're not really in love with him you're just afraid of what will happen next. It's like you've found something amazing and you want to hold on to it forever and every second after you have it you fear the moment you might lose it. Try to think critically and decide for what is right. It is not about him but about you. You should think of what would be the consequences of this incidents.
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@LadyDuck (126136)
• Switzerland
23 Sep 15
This is something wrong here. Why do you have secrets with your parents about this man? If you fear him, this is not a good relationship. Think about this and think if you would like to live all your life in fear.
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• Pune, India
24 Sep 15
Asian parents are a bit hesitant towards their children having relationships. According to them, all you should be focused about is your academics and i can't blame them. In a market as competitive as Asia for job-hunters, its not your love life that will give you an edge, its your academic life
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@LadyDuck (126136)
• Switzerland
24 Sep 15
@Kchitij2007 This happened in the past in some European families. Now they are more open minded.
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• Pune, India
24 Sep 15
@LadyDuck I've been to Switzerland- Bern, Interlaken and Zurich. People are of a liberal mindset, that's good. Problem occurs when you mistake general principles or traditions for concrete rules of behavior. We've had that problem here coupled with the extreme job hunting scenario here ( Just cleared an exam for country's largest bank and a Fortune 500 company- SBI. 2,000 vacancies and candidates that applied? somewhere between 22,00,000 to 24,00,000! ) so you get the idea
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@MALUSE (33671)
• Denmark
23 Sep 15
You don't want him sad? And what about you? Can you imagine living with him your whole life like this?
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@jessyu (132)
• Chengdu, China
23 Sep 15
I do not know.I am so confused and need an answer although I know no one can answer this question for me.
@MALUSE (33671)
• Denmark
23 Sep 15
@jessyu Why don't you talk this through with a relative or close friend you trust? Anonymous people on the net certainly can't help you.
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@Freelanzer (6561)
• Canada
1 Oct 15
are you happy with him? If you are you wouldn't think of leaving. Seems you give a lot to the relationship but you don't get much in return.
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• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Sep 15
If he really loves you his the one who should make that sacrifices not you.
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• Pune, India
23 Sep 15
If he is your first bf, your probably more excited because of that fact than for what it really is. If he isn't and you seriously love him, make sure he not only feels the same way but also with the same intensity. Remember, Napoleon did love Josephine but that didn't stop him from marrying another.
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