Would you give her money?

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Canada
September 24, 2015 5:22pm CST
As I exited my car in the Walmart parking lot I was approached by a well dressed middle aged woman. I thought she wanted to ask me a question but then she asked for money. I didn't give her as something seemed off. She was not the typical beggar. On another occasion, the same woman ambushed me as I was leaving my car in the same Walmart parking lot. I went on my way without stopping but she was quite insistent asking me to stop. I have encountered previous women asking for money in a parking lot. I gave in the past until I realized she was a regular and it was her way of making money. Have you given money to someone in a parking lot and would you if they asked?
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@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
25 Sep 15
I'd rather donate my money to a charity. There are places that will help people who really need the help, and I suggest these people use those places if they truly are desperate. Otherwise I will not help people just begging on the street because I don't know the circumstances or what they'd be using the money for, and I worked hard for that money.
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• Canada
25 Sep 15
In my city we are encouraged to give to shelters that provide meals and help for those in need
@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
25 Sep 15
Agreed, too many beggars feed their addictive habits and won't work. She's obviously not disabled and is well enough walk around all days, so why not suggest her to work for her money and be a productive member of society?
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• Marikina, Philippines
8 Aug 16
@Freelanzer That's great! I wish our place could also o the same way.
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@simone10 (21650)
• Louisville, Kentucky
25 Sep 15
No, I have never given any stranger money. I have offered to go and buy them food which some accept and others don't.
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• Canada
26 Sep 15
The fact that they reuse a meal means they want the money for other things which may not be in their best interest
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@simone10 (21650)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
@Freelanzer Exactly! I can't stand it if someone is going hungry so that is why I offer to buy them something to eat. I will not support their habis though.
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• United States
2 Oct 15
've ya noticed some get downright ticky when ya offer 'em food instead'f money?? had an american indian couple come up to me last week, sayin' they needed gas money to get to albuquerque. i told 'em i'd fill up their tank 'n followed 'em to a station. it held $3.23 worth 'f gas 'twas all. then they told me they needed money fer food (its 250 miles) so i offered to buy 'em some bread 'n such. talk 'bout spittin' fire in my face....they were jest downright rude :(
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@lingayako (238)
• Marikina, Philippines
8 Aug 16
In one bus terminal in the Philippines, there's another scenario. There was this old man with a guitar who serenades passengers to ask for money. I gave some coins one time but one of the workers in the terminal said I shouldn't have given because he already makes serenading a way of living. But can he blame me? The old man seemed too be sickly to look for another way to earn money.
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@rebelann (42001)
• El Paso, Texas
9 Jul 17
I think tipping an artist because you enjoyed his music is ok, but I don't like those who just ask for money without doing anything in return.
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• Canada
9 Jul 17
@lingayako I don't mind giving money to someone who is doing something for it but I have to like what they are doing
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• Canada
11 Jul 17
@rebelann I feel the same way
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@Tampa_girl7 (25868)
• United States
26 Sep 15
It really just depends on the situation.
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@rebelann (42001)
• El Paso, Texas
9 Jul 17
But if they are well dressed and look neat and clean wouldn't you suspect they were just scamming people?
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@Tampa_girl7 (25868)
• United States
9 Jul 17
@rebelann perhaps.
@sharon6345 (131260)
• United States
25 Sep 15
I just past the regular begger on my shopping street. I don't give her a dime. I know her family and she has no reason to be out there. A young child asked for .50 and I thought of him as my child in need. I thought what if he needs to call him mom. I sure did give it to him.
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• Canada
26 Sep 15
I know that many "professional" beggars make a lot of money in a day and it is all ta free so if I know that I don't think I should hep them scam the government.
@lady1993 (18708)
• Philippines
25 Sep 15
never, we should not encourage people who beg in the streets because it will become a habit. people break their backs just to earn money and some people, who are perfectly able just beg?
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• Canada
26 Sep 15
Great point. A lot of us work hard for what we want and some of us can barely get by. Especially in places like Canada, there is really no reason to beg since anyone who can't work gets social assistance. But at the same time I do know that some people have a difficult time making ends meet even with a paycheck but there are better ways to help - through agencies.
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@lady1993 (18708)
• Philippines
26 Sep 15
@Freelanzer yes, there are agencies that help them in our country too, but most of them choose to beg on the streets if they go to NGOs they would be fed and clothed i wonder why they choose to be on the streets
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@Salamnda (479)
• United Kingdom
24 Sep 15
normally i dont but sometimes you feel you should give , depending on the person and what he need , i remember ones a young lady in a train station in Germany asked me for some cash to complete the ticket price, she was short of , and i remember i gave her
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• Canada
24 Sep 15
Yes in cases like that I would give. The first time this happened to me the woman said she wanted bus fare and I gave t to her until I saw her regularly hanging out in the parking lot and approaching others with the same story. I recon she made a lot of money each day
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@Salamnda (479)
• United Kingdom
24 Sep 15
@Freelanzer i wouldn't give her any thing in this case , since this is her full time job , and i bet she is making a lot of money
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@Salamnda (479)
• United Kingdom
24 Sep 15
@Salamnda i remembered , an old man who stood up in one red light begging to buy a buss ticket for 2 years :)
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@Bluedoll (17063)
• Canada
24 Sep 15
It is so difficult to know what is going on with the person since you don't know them. Sometimes the time of the month will cause people to be short of cash and food.
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• Canada
25 Sep 15
True, you never really know but there are also con artists who are really goood at what they do. One just has to use their judgement.
@Bluedoll (17063)
• Canada
25 Sep 15
@Freelanzer Not something I would want to be good at.
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@mythociate (15605)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
31 Mar 17
I might have in the parking-lot of a restaurant---they're out front begging, I invite them to come in with me and I get them a burger or some other food. I say "might have" because I don't usually have any spare-cash
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@rebelann (42001)
• El Paso, Texas
9 Jul 17
A lot of people do the same thing if they have funds they can spare, I'd rather buy them food than give them money.
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@Shellyann36 (10863)
• United States
11 Oct 15
Normally I don't give money to people in this type of situation. I did try to give a homeless man a meal from McDonald's once. He was sitting on the side of the road with a sign that he needed cash. I drove though 5 o'clock traffic on a military payday Friday to McD's and waited in line to get him some food. Fought the traffic back to him and tried to give it to him. He took it and threw it down when another car pulled in and was handing him some money out of the window. He took it right to the strip club in the shopping center! I said no more after that.
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@rebelann (42001)
• El Paso, Texas
9 Jul 17
Damn, that was really rude of that man. I remember a friend of mine (a cop) telling me that a lot of college students beg on street corners because it's easier to make money that way than actually getting a job.
• United States
2 Oct 15
no ma'am, i don't give folks funds. if'n they're hungry, i'll take 'em some place 'n feed 'em. if'n they've a home 'n place to cook, i buy 'em groceries. i've e'em paid some folks utility bills who were in need. folks like the gal ya write 'f? nah, i'd not give 'er one thin dime.
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@rebelann (42001)
• El Paso, Texas
9 Jul 17
That's smart and generous. Sometimes I'll give pennies to those guys that really look dirty and homeless, no one who has funds lets themselves get that dirty.
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@mrdprince (293)
• United States
1 Oct 15
No. I would not give in a situation like that because the situation could easily turn bad. Never bring out money, wallets or purse when a stranger is around you. It is too easy to grab and run.
@rebelann (42001)
• El Paso, Texas
9 Jul 17
That is a very good point. I have never given anyone money but I will get them food if they look down and out.
@jessyu (132)
• Chengdu, China
30 Sep 15
I would not. There is a story. One day a girl tried to purchase a commodity in a price of $0.5 from an old woman. The girl was trying to leave but a beggar got close to her for money. She then offered the beggar $1. The girl will never forget expression in the old pedlar's eye who tries her best to make a living with dignity but cannot accept the equal respect like the beggar.
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• Canada
1 Oct 15
Sometimes you feel guilty if you don't give but I think there is a right time and place to help the poor where you know they can benefit from it
@MALUSE (41320)
• Germany
29 Sep 15
I recognise your pic from the B site.Welcome! I've been here for a week and have already earned more than on the other site in two months. -- The woman doesn't use a good method to convince people of her neediness.
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• Canada
30 Sep 15
Yes I notice the bank is moving much faster here, Great to see you here.
• Midland, Michigan
26 Sep 15
You may want to let the service desk in there know. I'm sure the management wouldn't allow this to happen as it could steer customers away from the store if word got out in the community. No, I wouldn't give to them. I might talk to them about what they are doing and suggest other means and methods to make the money they're looking for. I don't think anyone in our community does that, but maybe I've just not seen them yet. We do get the poorly dressed men with signs standing at major intersections periodically, but they usually aren't there all the time, so I don't know if the law moves them along or finds them places to live. We had some customers that lived with bed bugs. Once the cops found out they hooked them up with the Red Cross so they could get into a better living situation.
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@valmnz (12755)
• New Zealand
25 Sep 15
Fortunately I rarely carry cash with me, so when I answer I have no money on me I genuinely mean it. But I wouldn't give it anyway!
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• Canada
26 Sep 15
I too don't carry change around so I am never tempted,
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• United States
25 Sep 15
Maybe the first time I'd be tempted but if I ever saw her again I'd be mad knowing this was a scam
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• Canada
26 Sep 15
That is the same way I felt when I found out the person was a regular but not as bad as I would have if I had given any money
• Avenel, New Jersey
25 Sep 15
yea seems weird to me. i mean, if someones suffering that much, you can generally tell. but if she can walk around at walmart all day and can buy clothes and keep them clean, she could go get a job (or a second job). she might be an addict, and you cant always tell with addiction by what they look like. maybe ive seen too many episodes of intervention but thats my first thought.
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• Canada
26 Sep 15
I think that is part of the scam. They feel itf they dress up and look like a regular productive member of society, one may be more inclined to help them out.
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@marlina (74946)
• Canada
25 Sep 15
Would never give them my money, they can work like everyone else.
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• Canada
26 Sep 15
Some of them do look able bodied nd it takes a lot of effort to walked the parking lot all day
@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
25 Sep 15
In all honesty, I would not give her money. I think she's mooching. I'm low income so I can't really give money away, and often I'm short at the end of the month anyway, and I'm blunt and honest with beggars. I don't know them so why should i trust them? I'm not saying don't help someone in need, but if you don't know the person, you have to be wary and protect yourself. If you *REALLY* want to help, then invite her for a coffee and hear her out. But usually one can tell if a person's lying kinda like "there's something not right" type feeling, so go with your gut instinct.