Understanding Men

United Kingdom
September 27, 2015 4:59am CST
People think women are difficult to understand. My other half says that the most difficult thing he's found with me is that I'm not like other women he's dated. He says it confused him, at first, that I said what I meant and didn't say one thing and mean another! He also told me that I think 'like a man' at times. What he meant was that, upon asking me what I was thinking, I said 'nothing'. He said that when men say that, women tell them they must be thinking something. He knew that I was genuinely not thinking about anything, and if there had been anything on my mind, I would either just tell him or tell him I was thinking about something but wasn't going to tell him. So yeah, apparently I'm pretty easy to understand once you realise that there isn't much to understand, no games, no need to interpret or translate, and no meaning the opposite of what I say. I've just sent a message to D. I often send him messages with questions (eg. asking if it's OK to go over or if he wants me to pick him up anything on the way). I know he has trouble answering more than one question at a time :P Well, I said to Mini that it's a good job I understand D because he'd just replied 'OK'. Now, considering I'd actually sent him two separate messages, that response could have applied to either or both. Earlier in our relationship, I might have had to ask him to clarify but now we've been together for 14 months and I'm pretty good at working out which question he's answering! My older son, Midi, is just the same. Ask him an 'either/or' question and he'll just say yes. Sometimes that's because he wants both eg. if I ask if he wants sausage or bacon, rather than asking if he can have both, he'll say yes meaning that he wants both. Other times, he just hasn't listened properly, or he's ignored/not heard one of the questions. I usually understand what he means though. So that was just a little anecdote that occurred to me. I hope you're enjoying your day. I'm still feeling rather pumped from yesterday. I've been looking up other challenges. There's a wind tunnel thing about an hour's drive away from me. All the fun of a free fall but without the thwump (yeah that's a word :P , I can't think of another word to describe the feeling) of actually dropping from a plane! There are also a few zip wire things around. I'd like to do that. There's one where you're sort of flying, another one which is underground. I'd also like to do some climbing/abseiling and anything else but not running. That's boring and I have strength but not stamina! I might get in touch with the charity for which I've raised money with the skydive, and ask them about arranging a zip wire challenge. :) TTFN
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@bluesa (14130)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
27 Sep 15
I think after the skydive, zip lining could still be fun, but slightly calmer on the nerves after. Got to love those one word answers, good you understand D so well. I hope you are enjoying your day too.
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@bluesa (14130)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
27 Sep 15
Oh my goodness, pardon, I meant to say zip wire, not zip lining!
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• United Kingdom
28 Sep 15
@bluesa It is actually known as both but, having had to look it up in the online urban dictionary, I realise why zipwire would be preferred :)
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@Fleura (7194)
• United Kingdom
7 Oct 15
It's so funny reading your comment about thoughts, that has reminded me of a post I wanted to write, thanks!
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