Rebound relationship?

@ricki_911 (18711)
Toronto, Ontario
October 2, 2015 8:36pm CST
I have never had one of these to be honest, I can break up and take time to recover. I know right away you still expect a relationship to be like your last. I know a handful of people who literally roll out of bed the next day, and dating someone new. It may last a few weeks, few months, even a year but eventually they break up. I have a friend who preaches to me about how I should date guys and never know who I will meet. But she's the sameone who broke up with her boyfriend after 7 years, and rolled out of bed to a girl. Someone she has been talking too who is friends with a guy I was seeing is the same way. Both of them keep standing behind us pushing us yet they are the two who have had more relationships in the past year than I have in my life.
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10 responses
@allknowing (60221)
• India
3 Oct 15
That is what I always argue about. Falling in love has nothing to do with making a marriage/relationship work. Situations change over time and being ready to accept those situations no matter what and willing to move on is the true essence of a lasting relationship,
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@vandana7 (61026)
• India
3 Oct 15
So you are saying if people are married, they can fall in love with people outside their marriage, and that is ok?
@allknowing (60221)
• India
4 Oct 15
@vandana7 There are exceptions to every rule.
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@vandana7 (61026)
• India
4 Oct 15
@allknowing ..You are right actually. If we verified through lie detectors, at least 90 percent of arranged marriages would be proved to be unsatisfactory for at least one of the two partners, meaning one is adjusting for the sake of the other, or children. Is that how life should be? 90 percent married people unhappy.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
3 Oct 15
something I don't understand too.. why for some people it's so easy to jump from one relationship to another and why for me it takes time.
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@swissheart (6246)
• Romania
3 Oct 15
it depends: sometimes such relationship work but most of the times they don't and it's because the person who just got out of a relationship didn't really recover. those are people who are afraid of loneliness but at the same time I see it as a proof of selfishness
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• United States
3 Oct 15
i always recommend to folks that ask they need to 'take a year off'. it takes time to get a broken relationship put into prospective 'n to accept one owns blame in such. those who jump from one relationship to 'nother aint doin' nobody any favors - not 'emselves 'n not whome'er they get involved with.
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@kevin1877uk (36945)
3 Oct 15
I can't jump from one relationship to another it takes me forever to find someone else. I just can't do it I don't know how someone can break one day with some and then start seeing someone else the following day, just isn't right.
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@cherigucchi (4092)
• Philippines
3 Oct 15
Its not my thing as well. I am just amazed how others can go over a relationship and find a replacement right away.
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@Theresaaiza (10454)
• Australia
3 Oct 15
When I broke up with my BF for 8 years, I guess my only means of coping was to talk to other guys. I guess I did it too soon. Cause eventually I started dating this American ex-pat, which only lasted about 2-3 months and he just suddenly stopped talking to me. We obviously had past issues still tailing behind us. Only after we broke up did I realize that, yeah, I had been reckless. Didn't know what rebound meant until after the "rebound"relationship ended. I think what your friend is trying to recommend is for you to go out there, meet people, go on casual dates (innocent or naughty, up to you), dinners or movies, or just chatting online - maybe to get you off your miseries. Last thing you want happening is to succumb to depression. I know I nearly did had it not been for my adventurous side kicking into gear. My advice? Don't rush. Enjoy the ride.
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@Freelanzer (7730)
• Canada
3 Oct 15
There is strength in not running from one relationship to another. It is OK to take some time off after a relationship
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@cgalavia (1406)
• Philippines
3 Oct 15
Things turn out to be like that when the person who goes out in a relationship does not want to be left alone or don't want the feeling of being hurt and so they are the one who made a first move especially when the relationship is going astray.
@vandana7 (61026)
• India
3 Oct 15
Everybody is different. What works for one person may not work for another. You are the best judge of who you are like in nature, and what worked for them or didn't.