Rehoming Herself

@GardenGerty (90290)
Marion, Kansas
October 4, 2015 8:51am CST
I suspect Princess has rehomed herself. She was upset my sister left. She was disturbed the new owners removed all the trees and shrubs. She was eating very little but was not losing weight. Each morning she would ask out the front door, and look in the direction that we saw her last. It is the same direction she may have been seen. We have gotten no leads, we have found no dead cats, her or anyone else. Bob has walked and driven this quadrant of the city. All we can figure is that someone has her and is mostly keeping her indoors. Books I have read about cats have said that "place" is more important to them than people. I am not sure of that, but I do know we have messed up her place here. I think it is likely she has found another place to live.
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@LadyDuck (118864)
• Switzerland
4 Oct 15
I believe you are right, the cat of my neighbor prefers to come into our garden and ask for food than to go into "his" house and eat what his owners offer him.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
4 Oct 15
Sometimes cats prefer to have multiple homes in a neighborhood. I am thinking this is what Princess has done and her alternate home is less stressful to her.
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@LadyDuck (118864)
• Switzerland
5 Oct 15
@GardenGerty Cats love to be petted, when they find people they like they prefer to have multiple homes, this is so true.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
@LadyDuck I was evidently wrong. She came home this morning and she is thinner, and seems to have a bump on her head.
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@Rollo1 (16693)
• Boston, Massachusetts
4 Oct 15
My sister brought a cat with her when she moved up here from PA. She shouldn't have brought the cat, because my father was very allergic. So the cat stayed in her car overnight for a bit, then it got cold and I took it to my house during the nights but one morning I returned it to them and it wandered off and never came back. Was never seen again. I think the cat just found a home where it could be allowed to sleep in the house, etc. I hope that is what happened, anyway.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
4 Oct 15
I have had at least four cats disappear that way in the last thirty years or so. We only knew for sure where one went. Each time it was during stressful times in our house. The one we know about adopted a family from our church who did not believe in having pets or holding animals captive. At least that is how the dad felt. He said they could keep her though, because she chose to live with them. I was cool with that.
@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
Princess came home this morning. I was wrong about the rehoming.
@jerzgirl (7807)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
11 Oct 15
Was she your cat or your sister's? She might be trying to find her. But, it's true. If you mess with their established home and routine too much, the more sensitive types will sometimes leave for the "greener grass". Keep your eyes open around homes that have similar landscaping to what she was used to. Post flyers in those areas. She may be in one of them. Some people can't take major changes in their lives, either.
@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
12 Oct 15
We did get her back. I think I put a discussion up about it. We kept leaving the porch light on for her. She showed up at 4 one morning.
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@jerzgirl (7807)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
12 Oct 15
@GardenGerty Oh, wow! Maybe she was in someone's home, but finally got back outside. I'm glad she's home. I didn't realize the date of your post until just now.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
12 Oct 15
@jerzgirl The other day, after watching the neighbor's cat investigating things hubby speculated she may have been accidentally locked in a shed. She is very content here in the new house and is not acting so anxious.
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@Juliaacv (22211)
• Canada
4 Oct 15
That could quite possibly be, the very least she could have sent you a change of address card. Silly kitty!
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
4 Oct 15
Silly cat, no manners at all.
@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
We left the porch light on and the welcome mat out, and she came home this morning.
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@Juliaacv (22211)
• Canada
5 Oct 15
@GardenGerty Oh that is a good ending to this discussion! We had a dog that wandered off once, we think that he got into somebody's garage and they accidentally shut the door on him. Our son was really young at the time and he didn't eat his supper but put it out on the front porch. My husband plate and the dog on the front porch early the next morning. All's well that ends well!
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@Asylum (46839)
• Manchester, England
4 Oct 15
I was always led to believe that cats associate more with their home than their owners, but I am no more certain of that than you are.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
4 Oct 15
That is what I read in a book by an animal anthropologist, and I am choosing to believe that we had made Princess' home intolerable so she went to an alternate family.
@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
Well, she came back this morning, a little worse for the wear, and more attentive to me than to hubby.
@Asylum (46839)
• Manchester, England
5 Oct 15
@GardenGerty She has most likely been living wild for a short time. If she ventured too far then she may have struggled to find her way back, especially if building works etcetera had changed some reference points.
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@NeldaHoxie (1422)
• United States
5 Oct 15
My mom is on opposite end of your spectrum. A neigbhorhood cat has adopted her. She spends most of her time at mom's, walks around the neighborhood and sometimes even visits her previous owner. She often spends the night with my mom, but I see her out exploring everywhere.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
The more I think about the total circumstances the more inclined I am to believe this is what has happened. We have been making her miserable here by several of the necessary actions we had to take. Funny about your mom's new friend.
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• United States
5 Oct 15
@GardenGerty My mom is a cat whisperer. They love her. Cats always seem to stop by for a free meal and to purr. Then they are on their way My niece and her wife now have three rescue cats. I think it runs in the family.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
@NeldaHoxie Hubby has the ability usually to charm any animal, including skunks and possums. I guessed wrong about the kitty, though, she came back today.
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@deafdiva (248)
• United States
4 Oct 15
Oh I didn't think about places being more important than people to cats!
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
4 Oct 15
I know that was something I had read. I just know we have been messing up her life lately.
@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
She did come home this morning.
@deafdiva (248)
• United States
5 Oct 15
@GardenGerty Oh I am glad she came home!
@Pegasus72 (1904)
8 Apr 16
That is so sad did you ever find Princess? I know I would be lost if our Princess went away it is bad enough she is now 7 with lots of grey growing in life span is 8-11 years.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
9 Apr 16
Princess came home after four long days missing. We suspect she may have had a concussion and been confused, or she got locked in someone's shed. She had a raised crease on her skull. She is ruling the roost here in our new house and is an indoor outdoor cat again. She thinks the one bathroom sink is her water bowl and that if she goes out and comes back she gets a treat and if we leave and come back she gets a treat. Cat logic. I always liked big dogs, but I know they have a short life expectancy.
@Pegasus72 (1904)
9 Apr 16
@GardenGerty somehow I didn't see all of the comments but there they are. Our mama cat expects me to put water in the upstairs bathroom sink in the morning when I get up and before I go to bed. She is funny. She comes down during the day to eat and drink out of her bowl but she still expects water there for her too.
@rebelann (31215)
• El Paso, Texas
8 Oct 15
My past kitties were dragged everywhere I moved to and none ever wanted to go back to a place I wasn't (hope that made sense) in fact all I ever did for my own piece of mind is keep them locked up for a couple weeks after a move and then they could go out again. They were happy to stick with me. Whew.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Oct 15
She has not even wanted to go out until two days ago, but I am not allowing it in the pre Halloween season.
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@rebelann (31215)
• El Paso, Texas
16 Oct 15
I wouldn't let mine out either @GardenGerty but then this kitty is never allowed to roam free, the others I had I wouldn't let out anytime from Oct to January.
• China
7 Oct 15
Over here it is well known that a cat isn't as loyal to its keeper as a dog .My lost dog came back after 15 days.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Oct 15
My cat was loyal but was probably trapped somewhere. She returned home after four days. Yes it is usually said that a dog is more loyal than a cat, but you know, they have individual preferences just as people do.
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• China
17 Oct 15
@GardenGerty yes ,that shouldn't be lumped together .Glad to learn that your cat has returned home !
@kevin1877uk (36118)
5 Oct 15
Oh dear sorry to here, hopefully she's ok.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Oct 15
After being gone for four days she returned. We have completed our move and she seems very content here. She has regained the weight she had lost.
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@kevin1877uk (36118)
16 Oct 15
@GardenGerty That's good news :)
@RasmaSandra (12674)
• Riga, Latvia
4 Oct 15
@GardenGertty I believe the place they live in and the people are equally important to cats of course every situation is different. We adopted our cat Sid in 2009 it took him about 2 years to be really comfortable with us. Now when my hubby goes away on a business trip Sid stays glued to my side until he is sure I am not going anywhere also. So it upsets his world when one of his loved ones disappears. I know when hubby will return Sid will be stuck to his side until he sees that he has really returned home.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
4 Oct 15
When my sister moved away into her own place, Princess would come check on hubby and I in bed. Each evening at bedtime she would " call" and tell us to go upstairs to bed, but we moved the bed downstairs and she did not ever adjust to that, so I am thinking the massive changes in the last month caused her to want to live elsewhere.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
@RasmaSandra she came home this morning. We are going to get her to the new house today and let her begin to get used to it, and not bring her back here. She needs to have one place that seems like home to her.
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@shaggin (25528)
• United States
9 Oct 15
Aww well I hope that you find out soon that she is in good hands. It would be nice to know that she is safe and in a caring home being taken care of. I am glad that so far you have not gotten any bad news about your sisters cat. We get a lot of strays around here. They usually do not bother anyone unless they spray on their doors or tires etc.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Oct 15
Princess returned after four days absence. Thinner, and with a crease on her skull like an injury. She is liking her new home here in Florence, Ks.
@Susan2015 (18341)
• United States
5 Oct 15
I hope that you find out what happened to her. Dogs and cats can get upset when things change.
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@GardenGerty (90290)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Oct 15
My latest theory is that she had a concussion or at least a head injury. She is back, thinner, and has a crease on her skull. We had been leaving the porch light on so she could find the house.
@bookbar (1638)
• Sudbury, England
21 Oct 15
Our cat went missing on my daughter's wedding day, which was held in a Marquee at the back of the house. Having searched high and low for any trace of him, we had given up on ever seeing him again, but one night 5 wks later, when I couldn't sleep, I heard his strange meow at the door, in he trotted and settled himself on his favourite place on the sofa, looking very bedraggled and worse for wear, but happy to sleep...we never knew the why's /wherefores of where he had been, but certainly hadn't been cared for.