Dead People Are Not All Alike
October 9, 2015 7:34am CST
I read the sad story of Liz Page this morning. Liz got the call from the hospital that no one wants to receive. The call that said that her mother had passed away. Liz went to the hospital where she was taken to say her goodbyes to her deceased loved one. She kissed the old lady on the head, said goodbye, and went home to make funeral arrangements. Then she got another call. The hospital told her they had made a mistake. Her mother wasn’t dead at all. The body she kissed goodbye belonged to some other dead woman. I agree that this was a traumatic event. It’s always traumatic to be told a loved one has died. It would be traumatic to receive that phone call, traumatic to be taken to see your mother’s body and traumatic all the way up to the point where you look at the body and say “That is NOT my mother!” Except, Liz didn’t say that. She didn’t notice that it wasn’t her mother. Now, I have worked in a nursing home and maybe to someone who doesn’t know these people, all old people look alike. But to someone who knows them, dead or alive they are not indistinguishable. Liz is telling her story to highlight the trauma of hospitals making mistakes. And again, I agree that there is no excuse for a hospital mis-identifying a corpse. But, on the other hand, there’s not really much of an excuse for a daughter doing the same when the dead person is supposedly her mother. On this one, I think the hospital and Liz are even.
"I just said simply 'goodbye' and kissed her forehead."
17 people like this
9 Oct 15
This just shows her up as a daughter who does not really care for her mother. If she has visited her mother regularly, she would not have made such as mistake. When a person is sick, especially old people, they undergone changes rapidly. Their hair may fall out faster, and they may lose more weight than usual. Even then, a daughter who visits her mother regularly will not mistaken her mother for someone else.
• New Zealand
10 Oct 15
It smacks of victimology when you're blaming someone else for the same mistake you made. Similar story from India recently:
9 Oct 15
This is so unbelievable! I know my Mama even with just a glimpse of her hair! To go near her & smell her perfume is more! Kiss her goodbye? That would have definitely gave me the feeling of serenity, despite overwhelming emotions...
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Oct 15
I would say that maybe she didn't look, but she describes the body in the article, so... I think that if I identified the wrong body as my mother, I would just keep quiet about it. Not tell everyone on social media that I didn't know my own mother.
• United States
10 Oct 15
folks like this make my head hurt. i've been faced with many deaths through my years 'n dislike sayin' it...but i'm gonna anyhow. the schtuff folks do 'n then shout out fowl play to the media jest sickens me to no end