Would you let financies ruin your relationship?

If she were my friend, I think I'd tell her that there's nothing I can do to help the problem. It doesn't sounds like the financial issues are being addressed in therapy, but that's not your problem to deal with either. I'd limit my involvement to suggesting that she pick up a copy of Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover from the library or possibly attend his Financial Peace University, since it's something she could probably benefit from. Buying the You Need a Budget software might help them out, too. Aside from that, there really isn't a lot that you can do. She's going to have to want to change her habits and actively work toward doing that.

Money causes big issues in relationships. We've been on a big push lately to try to get our debts paid down and fix up our credit. My husband is on board, yet he hasn't actually contributed to paying down the debts. He pays the regular bills on time, and I'll tell him we have some extra and should pay on a debt, but then that little extra gets flitted away somewhere. It's never anything big... but when he's working he'll go out and buy food where as I'll bring food with me or go hungry instead of spending money. So I am getting frustrated at his lack of commitment to getting the bills paid and it's easy to start thinking about how different things would be if I could handle all the money without his input because then I could pay the things I want and not spend money on things I don't want to spend money on. But that's not how a marriage works. You have to meet somewhere in the middle.

When there is a breakdown of relationship , at some level or the other mine is involved, that's what I have seen..I feel that the couple in question should have an honest talk and make some future plans and set goals which would make their future secure , probably would curb their extravagance...