Should I start dating
October 13, 2015 2:09pm CST
Should I start dating If you have read back through me posts you know that it’s not too long ago since I had relationship break up from my partner. We both lived in different counties, long story so I won’t go on. I’m often feeling very lonely and in need of some adult company. I don’t like dating websites and I don’t know anyone here in Plymouth, UK Maybe I should join a club and get to know people. I’m also thinking that it may be too soon to start dating, just wanting someone to be with. Should I start dating? Maybe that for me to decide if I’m ready or not to start dating. How soon after a relationship break up have you waited to start dating? Over the years, it’s been months in not years before I have. Maybe I shouldn't go looking for love and let love find me.
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16 Oct 15
The website is still there/going, it's undated and everything. Good place to share your photography work, I'll probably stay single for a time. Being with someone for 50 years is awesome, well done, my parents were together for 42 before my mom pasted away.
13 Oct 15
You shouldn't start dating just because you're feeling lonely and you feel like you need to. If you are feeling lonely, why not just go out or hang out with friends or family. Do not rush things. Resume dating when your heart is ready and stable.
14 Oct 15
I don't suppose there's anything wrong about having company after a breakup and one can be totally in love without going through the stages. So, there's really no issue and the need for further consideration as far as having a casual company over some drinks, meals or even a party.
15 Oct 15
@kevin1877uk I think the only issue you need to address would be if you are jumping into the relationship out of other reasons other than looking for someone to love. I'm sure you are aware what is a rebound relationship, which is a distraction than a real relationship. Also, you will find that instead of allowing your new partner be who she really is, you try to impose, expecting your new partner to make up for the shortcomings and mistakes of the old partner. In a relationship, one of traits that makes it work is being responsible and as such, you will need to constantly reflect if you're on a rebound or in a true relationship which is founded on love - to do good to the other, lookout for the other, wants the best for the other and does not spare an effort to recollect back a favor or sacrifice.
• Manila, Philippines
14 Oct 15
Well to answer your question, you must try. Breaking up is opening to a new life. It's part of life and it make us strong. Don't think too much just learn to find a good woman who can stick with you through thick and thin. Date me hahahha joke.
• United States
14 Oct 15
I've not had many relationships so I'm really no expert on breaking up. I've really only ever had 1 big break up in my life. I had been with that guy for a year. It was a difficult break up, and it took me a few months to move on. After that I met my husband and have been with him 14 years. But I feel like if you're lonely you might as well start looking. Perhaps focusing on a new relationship is just what you need to get over the last one. Just try to get out more and see what happens.
14 Oct 15
If you feel ready to then yes, of course start dating and meeting new people. There's no need to feel embarrassed or insecure about groups, dating sites etc because they're full of like-minded individuals. Aim to go at a pace you're comfortable with but be open minded about it changing, because you never know what you'll find. Relationships are fantastic things, I hope you find what you're looking for :)
13 Oct 15
If you have even considered this question, then I believe you are ready to move on. As somebody suggested, dating can be for many reasons. You can check whether it is friendship you need or more. I say go ahead. Life is too short to be spent doubting at every step. All the best. :)