The perfect solution to the major problem……….Suggestions!!
By Ann LeFlore
@poehere (15126)
French Polynesia
October 20, 2015 2:58am CST
Today I have seen more than one new discussion about suggestions. I happened to have started a discussion yesterday about liking suggestions. Today I see many posts about people not liking them. I have come up with the perfect solution to make everyone happy here on MyLot.
First – we can all contact the admin Alex and ask the site to put a block function on each of our profiles under suggestions. This way anyone who doesn’t like to get new notifications about discussions can block them completely.
Second – You can block the person who keeps sending you too many suggestions. This way you won’t receive them anymore.
Third – You can send a polite message to the people that send you too many suggestions. Politely ask them to stop. If they don’t – stop following them. If you don’t follow thenm then you won’t get their suggestions.
Fourth – Use one post in all of this to tell everyone on the site if you like suggestions or you don’t. This way everyone will know what to do. As it stands right now there are so many posts here and not one that has all the answers on it. If we knew if you liked or disliked suggestions it would make it a lot easier on all of us.
I personally feel the site is an interaction site. Suggestions are there to let your followers know you have written a new discussion. Suggestions are not there to send the same discussion to a follower 10 times.
Furthermore, suggestions are there to send interesting discussion to your followers. If you feel you are giving some great advice and want all your followers to know about it. Then send them a discussion. But if you just want to brag about your earning, say good night, or tell us what you have eaten – don’t send us a suggestion.
So now everyone on MyLot what is it? Will we all use one post to tell everyone on here if we like or dislike suggestions?: Will we all write to Alex and ask the site to add a new feature to our dashboard that allows us to block all suggestions? Or will we nicely write the people who continue to send us suggestions that don’t interest us?
Think about it this is the perfect solution to stop this problem before it gets out of control. Waiting to hear back from you on this one. Thanks everyone.
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15 responses
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
This is a personal choice. Why not ask them in a message to stop. Or as you say you can unfollow them if they send you too many.
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
20 Oct 15
Actually, I am fine with the suggestion icon to be there as is. It's up to us if we read all the discussions being suggested to us or not. But if many wanted it to be abolish or block them it is still fine with me.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I don't mind getting suggestions. There are many times I wait for certain people to follow and send me a suggestions so I can see what they have written. To me getting suggestions from my followers saves me a lot of time searching for their new posts.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
21 Oct 15
@Macarrosel Yah please do it won't offend me at all. I don't do it anymore after reading all the negative feed back either. But personally I like them and will respond to all of them.
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
20 Oct 15
@poehere Yeah, I agree with you. As a newbie, I prefer to look into all discussions being suggested to me rather than taking much time in searching for discussions.
@GardenGerty (157545)
• United States
20 Oct 15
I have suggested from time to time, but I feel it takes away from my interacting and posting time, I have lots of followers from old myLot and new myLot. I do go into suggestions often to find out what my followers and connections are doing.I guess I just do not feel that it is anything to get upset or bent out of shape over. I am in charge of whether I open a suggestion or delete it.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I like receiving your suggestions. It makes it so much easier to find your new discussions. I enjoy receiving them and when I have time I go through them and leave a message or like and then delete them. You can send me your suggestions if you like.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I agree with you on this one. I wish it was easier to find all my followers posts without having to search through and scroll through people to see what they have written. If your following me I ask you to please send me a suggest of what you have written so I can read it. This is so much easier and faster for me.
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
20 Oct 15
Every time I log in here,I always have too many suggestions and most of the time I responded to all of them as long as I have a time,some user at least send two to three of their discussion,two is okay for me but when it comes to three going five,I don't like it anymore.It's okay to suggest but as much as possible not often.As for me,I think it is better to politely message the people to at least suggest one topic per day..
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I can see this one. I get a few but never a lot. Mostly it is from 2 or 3 people. I thought if I suggested them to read my work they would suggest me to read theirs. I see now I am wrong on this line of thinking. I personally would rather have one of my followers send me a suggestion to see their work. I can't always remember who is following to find what they wrote. I like to see what my followers write and most of the time I don't have all the time in the world to sit here and scroll through people and explorer to find them. That's why I said to send them to me. Others don't like them and consider this self promoting your post. Guess the only way to not look like your self promoting your post is to find out if one of your followers likes or dislikes suggestions and you can then send or not send to them.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
20 Oct 15
@poehere I understand that a lot of posts are suggested in good faith - but then the same could be said about some of the bizarre stuff my mad aunt in Australia tags me on over on facebook. I am happy to take responsibility for finding or not finding posts and I prefer not to be nudged.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I can respect this one completely. What if I read something that is funny and worth while to read. Would you be offended if I sent something like this to you in a suggestion? Just don't send my work in a suggestion because you don't like it. I got it and can respect this.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Oct 15
Your suggestions about suggesting new discussions are noteworthy.
First suggestion - I am not in agreement with your suggestion that there should be an option to block the 'suggest' option. Then, many will choose these option and we just cannot convey about an interesting discussion (whether our own or someone else) to our friends.
In the older version, there was an option to receive a notification from your friends (in earlier version, there were 'friends' not 'followers) when s/he used to start a new post and we had the option to turn it 'on or 'off'. Something like that could be thought of or worked upon by the admin (provided it is feasible).
Second suggestion - Instead of blocking the person, one could 'unfollow' him/her and this way s/he won't be able to suggest post (I did in one case and I do not receive suggested posts from that particular user after I 'unfollowed' him/her).
Third suggestion - I feel that if I send such a message to a user whom I've been following, it will be impolite on my part, so I won't like to send such a message. On the other hand, I could check his/her suggested posts and decide to respond or to skip it. Alternatively, if there are too many suggestions, I have the option to 'unfollow' him/her.
Fourth suggestion - It is a good suggestion but you see if someone starts a post, each and every user cannot see such a post at the same time, therefore, many user may miss to see the post and it may not serve the desired purpose.
You could continue to suggest your posts to me, I love to receive suggestions and I love to respond to posts suggested by my friends. 
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
21 Oct 15
@poehere - There is a post from mylot admin today about 'suggest' option and you have already commented on that post.
If mylot admin decide to do away with 'suggest' option, as far as our own posts are concerned, then it will not be possible to suggest our own post. However, till such time it is implemented, you could suggest me your post without any hesitation. I check your posts and I try to respond as many as possible.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
OK if one person doesn't like to ever receive a suggestion why not turn it off? I see no harm in this. then just this person doesn't receive a suggestion.
Yes on blocking I see your point. I don't block people either. I also don't unfollow them if they send me suggestions. If one of the suggestions doesn't interest me I just add a like to the post and move on. If the suggestion is interesting I comment.
this is a personal feeling. I didn't do it at first. Then I started to get a lot of suggestions. Then a member who is also a friend and been on the site for over 7 years told me to send suggestions for my post. Then I did. Now I see not everyone likes them at all.
You could be right on this one. But in top or interesting the post with the most reaction is normally there.
I'm like you I like suggestions and I like getting them. Not all of them interest me so I only read the ones that do and like the ones that don't interest me.
Suggestions received are more of a personal like or dislike. Maybe the followers you love to read you can send them a message and ask them nicely to send a suggestion to you when they post. Maybe this is another idea to fix the problem.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
21 Oct 15
@dpk262006 You have made a lot of very good points on here. I no longer will use this except for one person who I am very close friends with. If others send me their suggestions I will like it and do my best to read them all. It saves me a lot of time and like I said I do like them.
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@celticeagle (158958)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Oct 15
Suggestions is an option. I have had only one person tell me they don't want to be suggestioned and I took them off my list. I think it is something that is subject to each person's perception. I use it on each of my discussions and if people do not want that they need to let me know. Some have actually asked me to do so.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I agree with you on this one. It is an option for everyone to use. I personally like them to find what my followers post so I can keep track of their discussions. Other's don't like it. It would be nice if we knew who doesn't like them so we never send them any at all.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Oct 15
I like them. they don't bother me as I answer/read what I want then delete what I don't want what is the problem? I say
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
22 Oct 15
Don't know but they are gone now. You can no longer send your followers a suggestions about something you have written.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
20 Oct 15
I think we each have our own way of dealing with this. I have my new game plan in place. Suggestions is not the only way to let people know you started a discussion.
@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
20 Oct 15
I am not familiar yet with suggestions . . . I will go over it and learn. It is just my 4th day here.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I had no idea about it either and just followed others on what they did. Now I just read that Alex has addressed this issue in FAQ. Heading there now to read what he said.
@Ceerios (4698)
• Goodfellow, Texas
20 Oct 15
Ms Ann ( @poehere ) - I think that what bothers some people about "Suggestions" is that they are called "suggestions." Kind of pushy way to put forth a list of what your Followings have newly produced. Why not change the name of that section to something like "New Posts" or some other neutral wording (less "pushy stuff")
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
21 Oct 15
That's an excellent idea. I know on another site I wrote for when we followed someone we received an email when they posted. I loved this and saved a lot of time searching the sites looking for new work that was posted. I followed certain writers that wrote some very interesting articles and I loved to be notified when they did post. I had the option to go or not it was my choice. I also had the option to follow or not and I chose to follow some who were excellent writers.
@MarshaMusselman (38652)
• Midland, Michigan
21 Oct 15
What I've been doing is just simply deleting most of the suggestions I've been receiving. There are a few people that I don't mind getting them from, but that is because they don't write all the time and they don't send me a suggestion for each and every post they write. There are a few, though, that do send me a suggestion for every discussion they write, for those, I simply delete them.
As far as I'm concerned the best way to let someone know you're writing is to comment on their discussions. I don't just read discussions, or just like them, I always will comment. If someone isn't bothering to make comments on my discussions, then I probably won't be around to both with their suggestions either. I don't see or understand why they'd want to send suggestions to anyone they don't bother to visit with in the first place.
I don't know that I would bother to block all suggestions, for i might get one from someone I didn't know was around or hadn't been here for a while.
I've been going to write something about this myself, but my computer has been in the shop until tonight, so I haven't been able to as yet.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
21 Oct 15
I know the admin has a major post now on this one. They are looking for a solution on how to fix this. I am new here and a person told me to send out suggestions and I did not knowing they bothered people. I got a lot of them and thought wow this is nice I like it. Plus the ones I got the people always seemed to comment on my discussions so I figured it was a two way street and why not. I don't know everyone here and I am always happy to meet a new person. I am always looking for some new and interesting discussion that don't talk about dinner, waking up, or how are we today. I like to read a lot of different things so it does take a lot of time for me to find something interesting I like to comment on.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
Yes I agree. An older member suggested to me in a message to do this. That's when I started. Now I see there are many people who don't like this. A few people do and asked me to send them. So now I send out 1 or 2 not like before. I guess it's a personal like or dislike and I had no idea it was so frowned upon an people didn't like it. I am new so I guess it was a major learning experience and one I won't continue to do at all.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
20 Oct 15
I love to receive suggestions from supportive connections but when too many suggestions come from someone who does not even show in my posts, I solve this problem by simply pressing the unfollow. I believe those we follow are the only ones who can send us suggestions.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
Yes I have seen a few of these too. I just delete their suggestion and move on. But all of my suggestions so far are from people who show in my posts. If you follow me send me your post through suggestions. It makes it so much easier for me to find you. I tell you at times I hate to find good posts and discussion because it takes so long. I find that suggestions help me find them so much quicker.
