Positives attract. perversity stimulates discussion.

@GardenGerty (96645)
Marion, Kansas
October 20, 2015 2:39pm CST
Positive discussions attract followers, but negative discussions ALSO pull in a lot of interactions. I have a friend who basically issued a challenge by telling people what she does not want to see on the site. I observed people who jumped in immediately and did what she did not want to see. I read people who pointed out the positives. And finally I saw people who ignored the topic completely and tried to simply interact. Tried to keep people polite. It is a lively discussion, and I am sure the intention was not to get lots of attention, but was rather meant to encourage us not to be negative. However, it was phrased in a negative way that just challenged many to pop up and make the negative comments. That is life. If I were to tell you NOT to do something, you would probably at least be tempted to do it. My husband of eighteen years does not eat pasta. The smell of the pasta boiling, without sauce, makes him feel sick. My darling sister-in-law says with a smile "my first thought whenever you are coming is that I need to make spaghetti." she doesn't, but it just illustrates human perversity. What kind of challenge makes you want to do just the opposite?
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@just4him (109654)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Oct 15
I have a feeling you're talking about my post. I didn't intend it to be negative. I haven't gotten that far in answering comments yet.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
I think you are entitled to your say, but found it funny that some people just jumped on it in a hostile manner. Others were reasonable, reminding us of the good and others totally ignored what was going on. I hope you are not offended, you are my friend and you are entitled to tell people where your limits are. I was trying to be vague.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
And I agree that I will not be one bashing other sites. I wrote there, I still visit there, and it would make no sense to put it down, for me. It makes me sad, though.
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• Midland, Michigan
25 Oct 15
Hmm, I guess I don't have to go far to find the post she was referring to. I'll stop by and look for that in the near future, maybe after church and a bit of sleep on Sunday.
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• Midland, Michigan
28 Oct 15
Ahh, now I remember, this was the post we were talking about. I'm catching up on my older notifications and came upon your reply here. Otherwise, I'd never have found this again I don't think, lol. (Gerty, I'm talking to @just4him here, and I almost forgot to mention her as I forgot this wasn't her post).
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
28 Oct 15
You were talkiing about this post with someone?
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• Midland, Michigan
28 Oct 15
@GardenGerty With Valorie. I asked her which post you were referencing, and she told me which one which I'd already read. By then, I'd forgotten which post referred me to hers and how until I followed the notification she left me just a bit ago. Actually, we weren't talking about this post per se, only as far as it spoke about one of hers.
@Jessicalynnt (47791)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Oct 15
hubby needs the switches on the outlets to always go the same way, I spent years going out of rooms oddly just to make them not match and then chuckle to myself watching him run around to fix them before he caught on
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@jaboUK (53413)
• United Kingdom
20 Oct 15
That's so good! @Jessicalynnt You made me laugh.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
Oh, so funny. I hope he took it well.
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@TheHorse (62027)
• Pleasant Hill, California
21 Oct 15
When people talk like they know more than they do, I like to challenge them. I better stop there.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Oct 15
Oh, me too. That was not the case with her, she was just expressing her preferences.
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@sallypup (26291)
• Moses Lake, Washington
21 Oct 15
Heh. Mean me. My sister says she won't eat birthday cake so a devil in me itches to make her a chocolate gooey cake.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Oct 15
Exactly. My sister says she does not like muffins, but when she lived with me I would make muffins. She called them cupcakes and ate them anyway.
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@sallypup (26291)
• Moses Lake, Washington
22 Oct 15
@GardenGerty Store muffins are this side of being a cupcake cause they are so sweet.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Oct 15
@sallypup when I make stuff from scratch I try to include lots of healthy stuff. She said it is a "moistness" thing and muffins are not as moist as cupcakes. Bananas or applesauce make the muffins moist and naturally sweet.
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@poehere (17729)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I like that. I see here now all to often that if a person comes up with such a good idea that many people now try to copy their idea to get a lot of interaction. I like first time posts like this and I sure don't like copy cat posts. Good for her that was a great idea and discussion. I think I need to dig a little deeper to find this one. If you can find it please point me in the right direction. I would love to read it and the comments. Thanks
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
My friend was just expressing herself, but it seemed to hit some buttons for a few people. I have another friend who always reminds us to read his posts with the sarcasm filter on.
@poehere (17729)
• French Polynesia
21 Oct 15
@GardenGerty I can see how it might. I think it was an excellent idea to do this. I like it.
@PatZAnthony (12344)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
27 Oct 15
Nothing comes to mind at the moment, but it does seem many humans would think like the sister-in-law you mentioned. Hope most are not that way!
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
28 Oct 15
She tells me this, and laughs. It would not be to big a deal, he would eat the sides and make a peanut butter sandwich.
• Midland, Michigan
25 Oct 15
Maybe after I read her post I'll know more how to answer your question posed here. I think it's human nature to think about doing what one was told not to do. The hope is that it doesn't matter one way or another whether one does them or not. Just like little kids, when you tell them not to do something, they tend to do just those things. That may be why in the Bible, in the old testament the people were told what not to do, but in the new testament they are told more so what to do.There are still a few of the others, but not as many as there are of what we should be doing in life to bless God and get the desired results.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
28 Oct 15
I had not thought of it that way. The only thing is, many people want those "thou shalt not" type rules for a yard stick, so they can mark things off and say "see, I am good"
@NeldaHoxie (1388)
• United States
23 Oct 15
To me it's more about interesting than positive or negative. If someone has generated a lot of comments, it's fun to see where people are coming down on an issue or what has them riled up. I am often amused at what upsets some people online.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
23 Oct 15
You are right, it is interesting to note our differences and our styles, and yet we can be friends.
@Morleyhunt (19539)
• Canada
22 Oct 15
We joke about that in our family. Try telling us that something is impossible.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Oct 15
Yeah, it is just wrong, right?
@vandana7 (62278)
• India
21 Oct 15
Lots of things actually. lol. I don't like people crying unnecessarily. I think crying is essentially for helpless folks. So when they do that, I find a way to hit back. Like there is this guy who was asking me to join his office because there is something fishy going on - girls are spending time with guys and he wants such things to stop. I politely decline. An year later he says it is his father who is misbehaving with girls, and is now after his wife. Oh yeah, then why did you want me to join your office if you knew the environment is so bad? He did not expect that coming for sure. He thought I would be taken by his sob story.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Oct 15
Oh man, he was sure trying to put you in a bad situation. You were smart. He was not paying you to be the virtue police.
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@Juliaacv (28830)
• Canada
21 Oct 15
I usually do not have any problems following someone's requests like that. I cannot do it all of the time, but I try. I don't like the negative comments that people leave that they try to dress up but in the end are worse then ever. We've all had those.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
I will tend to open my mouth and say what I think. Sometimes I put my foot in my mouth. It might be possible that I would write a negative post about the site but I doubt it. I was just astounded that people jumped in immediately into her post to do exactly what she did not want. How perverse is that?!
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@DianneN (73933)
• United States
21 Oct 15
That's the human race! People can't help being polite, positive, negative, perverse, contrary, etc. It makes life interesting.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Oct 15
We are all individuals, as well. Not boring for sure.
@jaboUK (53413)
• United Kingdom
20 Oct 15
I suppose that being perverse is a way of showing that we don't blindly follow the herd.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
Could be, and that is a good thing, for us each to have an opinion and act on it, as long as it is not hurtful.
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@DeborahDiane (19889)
• Laguna Woods, California
20 Oct 15
I agree that a lot of people are perverse. I'm not sure why, but I think I have a little streak of it, myself!
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
We need to admit it. It is there for all to see.
@Susan2015 (20164)
• United States
20 Oct 15
Not sure I saw that article. For me it would depend on the situation. At work I would use reverse psychology to do the opposite of what one expects of me.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
Keep people on their toes, so to speak.
@nonersays (2688)
• United States
20 Oct 15
It does seem to be human nature to always want to do what is told NOT to be done. Even as children. I'm not sure if my toddler gets perverse pleasure from it or not, but he sure does head for all the NOS ever chance he gets.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Oct 15
The core of the beast, the ornery child. Sometimes it is just irresistible to have our own way.
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• St. Petersburg, Florida
28 Oct 15
I am of the opinion that we get a bit too concerned about other's behavior and opinions, and don't pay enough attention to our own, sometimes. We all have opinions, and that is part of life. What gets me going is my efforts to get someone to see both sides, when they are too invested in only one viewpoint. They may not agree, but at least it gives them something to think about.