Writing a letter to those we miss

Centralia, Missouri
October 23, 2015 11:13am CST
I guess I started a series on loss, and depression, and sadness, without even intending. Something else you can do is write a letter, even if the person you are writing to is gone. Here is my letter to my grandpa-- Dear Grandpa, It's been along time since I was able to hug you, since you left this earth, more than a decade ago. Can you believe that? It has been more than ten years since I got one of the worst calls of my life. I brag about being your favorite. I know you loved all of us, but secretly, being the oldest, I think I maybe was. I can't taste anything malted without a tear forming in my eyes, because they will always remind me of you, of trips to the ice cream store and me sneaking bites of your vanilla malt. I even get one now and then in your memory. I can't see a western without thinking of you, and reading Louie L'amour now makes me cry... I miss you so much. Really we all do. But I only can know how I feel for sure. The months after losing you have holes in them. I have lost my first real love, and my favorite uncle since then, and neither one hurt as much as your loss did. I think there are actually very few even now who's loss would pick up my soul and break it like losing you did. You should still be here. You should be making jokes and wearing ugly ties, clashing with pride in your dress. I often wondered if you were color blind or just loved horrible color combinations, or did it just to get under grandma's skin. We should be going camping together, or playing cards. We should be joking and living... And instead I'm here. And you are not. People say time heals all wounds. I don't think that's really true. I think that time eases the grip of the wound, the pain of it. Maybe time heals some wounds, granted they scar, but they heal. I don't think all wounds though. Some wounds never do heal. You just learn to work around them, and sometimes even forget about them for a time, until a sound, a smell, a stray though, brings you right back around to it. I love you grandpa. I always will.
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• Preston, England
23 Oct 15
A very moving letter I'm sure your grandfather would love. Makes me want to write similar letters to people no longer in my life some of which I might post here too
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• Centralia, Missouri
23 Oct 15
It helps sometimes when you are missing someone.
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@kevin1877uk (36976)
23 Oct 15
@Jessicalynnt it does and thank you for the idea.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
23 Oct 15
I had even posted one of those, literally. And trust me, this is one of the easiest ways to recall the good memories No matter how depressed you are, if you can get the good memories on these letters, you would find yourself back up and running
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• Centralia, Missouri
23 Oct 15
writing is often a good way to bleed off the extra feelings.
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• United States
23 Oct 15
I lost my grandfather when I was 10 - he spoiled me like crazy. Someday I'll see him again.
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• Centralia, Missouri
23 Oct 15
I got to have mine longer and am sorry you did not. sad I still have a living one but... he was never close to any of us. At one point as a kid I thought he was an uncle.
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@kevin1877uk (36976)
23 Oct 15
Sorry to hear about you grandfather, that's a wonderful idea to write to our lost ones even if they aren't here no more.
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• Centralia, Missouri
23 Oct 15
It's good therapy,
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@Tampa_girl7 (25707)
• United States
23 Oct 15
What a heartfelt letter.
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• Bangalore, India
6 Jul 16
writing is one way of getting over worries
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• Centralia, Missouri
6 Jul 16
sometimes it helps, sometimes not
• Bangalore, India
8 Jul 16
@Jessicalynnt true as some medicines may shoot some may not
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@sofssu (14462)
24 Oct 15
A very moving letter.. shows how much you loved your grandpa and how much you miss him.. but then you have great memories to remember him by.
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• Centralia, Missouri
24 Oct 15
I have tons of them, and am glad for it! We used to take family vacations all over the place.
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@Drosophila (16711)
• Ireland
23 Oct 15
:'(
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• Centralia, Missouri
23 Oct 15
It's ok. This happened in 2001 give or take, it's been long enough I can remember now without crying. Still sad though
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• Canada
23 Oct 15
Beautiful letter, Jessa. I have been writing letters to my family members who are still living. It's an important, though nowadays rare, event to get a letter in the mail.
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• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Oct 15
Actually I do this.
@Susan2015 (20579)
• United States
24 Oct 15
writing a letter or writing in a journal can be good. It gets it out.
@sueznewz2 (9997)
• Alicante, Spain
23 Oct 15
That's beautiful...., written from a heart of love, what a good idea...., thank you for sharing it with us.... I hope it helps others as it has helped you....
@Samanthavv (1386)
• United States
23 Oct 15
I am so sorry for your loss.