Throwing Stones From A Glass House

United States
October 25, 2015 11:28am CST
The world is made up of all kind of people. That is a given. For the most part diversity is a good thing, and some people absolutely welcome it. It tends to make things quite a lot more interesting. Take mylot for instance, it has a wide diversity of people. Within those people is more diversity, with; religion, political views, parenting, and the list goes on. It's what makes mylot such a great place to be, to meet others, to learn things and to interact. However, with certain things lately. I am growing tired of those whom keep throwing stones when they themselves live in glass houses. I have a major issue with contradicting people. Do people in glass houses bother you? Can you simply ignore them? Or do you feel the need to call them out?
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29 responses
@topffer (36363)
• Djibouti, Djibouti
25 Oct 15
One should better live in a cave covered with an animal skin to throw stones. It is not for civilized people. If I hurt someone in a response, it is not deliberately, or it is self-defense. It is the right discussion to quote the Bible : "You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."
9 people like this
• United States
25 Oct 15
OMG!! I got to say I absolutely love your response. Not only does it state valid points, it holds such valuable logic. You also picked the absolutely best Bible quote to back everything up. Thanks Topffer, you are a gem.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
And you give me so much material here to work with as a response, but I am trying extremely hard here to stick to the discussion.
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@topffer (36363)
• Djibouti, Djibouti
25 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I thought immediately at this Bible quote when I read your discussion. @purplealabaster If you cannot stick it to this discussion, you can perhaps stick it to another discussion where you will stick to the discussion.
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@jaboUK (55201)
• United Kingdom
25 Oct 15
I think that on here I would just ignore them, though in real life I might confront them.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
Yes, I understand what you are saying. Online and real life can have it's difference. But seems like online everything is right there in black and white, so no one can deny the facts.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@TexanTornado @jaboUK Sometimes it is difficult to deny the facts, especially when they are in black and white. However, we are now allowed to edit what we write, so they can take out the incriminating parts and say it was never there.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@purplealabaster Hmmm you know I didn't think of that. You do have a point.
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@Rollo1 (16685)
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Oct 15
People who live in glass houses, should not take showers. I think that people often forget that myLot has members from all over the world. It's fine to state your opinions, and there may be many people who disagree, Disagreement is fine, but being insulting is not.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
Yes, you do have a very valid point in your statement. I find something things within the walls, can teeter on a very fine line. A lot of the time, it depends on how one wishes to view things in it's entirety.
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@Rollo1 (16685)
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Oct 15
@TexanTornado It's not always easy to know the person you are talking to. Some may take things more to heart than others,. Some may be able to deal with controversy easily . Unfortunately, I think there are a few people who really just like to be insulting and enjoy upsetting people.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
@Rollo1 That is all so very true. I know sometimes things can be mistaken, and can be interpreted in a different way entirely as how it was meant. I try to give the benefit of the doubt. However, when such a person has it all spelled out in black and white, it's hard to misunderstand such. You are quite accurate in your assessment.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
I would hate living in a glass house, because it would feel too much like a fish bowl. I like my privacy, and that would certainly not be very private. I guess if you live in a house reinforced with bulletproof glass, though, then you really do not need to worry about the stones.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
I do like you analogy, for it holds a lot of truth. I too like my privacy, however, why put things out there for all to see if you only gonna do the opposite, when it suits their needs? OMG!! You nailed it in your last comment, or should I say, when their actions are reinforced it makes them think they have free reign. A delusion is all it is.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I certainly agree that some people are delusional. I think that they do not accept or recognize faults in themselves, so they feel free to point out the ones that they see in others, even if they might have the same ones. I think it is rather like the discussion we had the other day about being able to make fun of ourselves as we know and embrace our own flaws, which takes the power away from others. I think they feel more powerful pointing out these things in others rather than accepting it in themselves.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@purplealabaster Ding! Ding! Ding! You win the prize (to be determined later). You got it exactly. That is basically what it all boils down to in a nut shell. I also think it a lot of case, those evil emotions come into play such as 'jealousy and envy'.
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@Jessicalynnt (47879)
• Centralia, Missouri
25 Oct 15
do they mean it, or are they stirring the pot to see what kind of storm they can rile up? I know of one person on here at least that likes to play devil's advocate because it gets people talking (if you see this I have no doubt you know I mean you [insert name here, lol]), and normally doesn't mean anything by it (I think, lol), I don't see much of this, but then again, I am careful who I follow, and don't spend tons of time, on new people, so maybe I miss it.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
There are certainly people on here that do it to start people talking and see what everyone has to say. I think that those sorts of things can be beneficial at times, especially when they bring awareness and open dialog to a discussion regarding a specific issue. I know somebody that started one of those kinds of discussions about serious allergies in school, and it produced a wonderful (and sometimes heated) discussion of the issue.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
You know Jessa you bring a very good point to light and after ponder it for a bit now, I think that is it exactly! Which seems to irk me that much more. I know I will get over it, I always do. I think I will be following a lot less people here soon enough.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@purplealabaster Things like that I have no problem with. Nor do I have a problem with debates even if they get heated. What I have a problem with is, someone saying 'Don't do this' and yet they do the exact same thing.
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@hereandthere (32983)
• Philippines
25 Oct 15
sometimes i don't know which is harder to deal with and avoid - people who contradict you and insist they're right, or people who contradict themselves
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• United States
25 Oct 15
I think that I am allowed to contradict myself, but then again, I am always right so there is no need for that.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
Wow! You do state a very good point. This is something I will have to ponder on for a bit to try and figure out which one does irk me more.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@purplealabaster I don't think that is what she meant at all sis. And I think you know that too.
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@thesids (22357)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Oct 15
Those who matter, bother me - glass house or no glass house. For the rest, I have other things that I more important. I am one of those people who lives in a shell. For those who are not in this shell of mine, it is real hard for them to hurt me. If still they somehow manage doing it, I have no issues. That said, I am still a human and there are times, when things go beyond my bearing limits. And if that happens, I can be dangerous (again, here, on many such counts, my heart wins, and I forgive and forget to move on)..
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• United States
25 Oct 15
You do have a good point and it makes sense to me. For the most part, I am the same way. But when that ridicule or back lash comes back to those I care about, then I tend to take it more personal, even if not done directly to me. I am the type of person who will have a 'friends' back.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
You are no longer Sid but just a number. What has happened to you, my friend?
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• United States
25 Oct 15
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• United States
25 Oct 15
lovely bunch 'f responses below. i ought to ignore such, 'twas raised to do that sorta thingy. unfortunately though, i seem to lack that 'mount 'f self-control these days.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
You lack self control? I think your self control is quite remarkable. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but I won't turn a blind eye either if it become more and more apparent.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@TexanTornado seems my patience fer shenanigans wanes with each passin' year, my friend. but, i do the best i can
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@crazyhorseladycx I know exactly what you mean. Seems in some things, I let roll off no problem and other things I grow less patient with it as I grow older.
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@Drosophila (16697)
• Ireland
25 Oct 15
I'm being a bit dense, trying to figure out the "glass house" analogy. Does living in a glass house means someone who's very public about their lives? Or does living in a glass house means someone who's worldly views are very easily shattered? Or both?
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• United States
25 Oct 15
It's a famous proverb. It means that people shouldn't do or say things in a negative way to others, if they do the same thing themselves. 'Glass house' means a reflection on yourself.
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@Drosophila (16697)
• Ireland
25 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I see, that makes sense. I read it as an instruction to others not to criticise people, which in itself is criticism. Isn't English just marvellous? The same expression and we can get several takes from it.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
@Drosophila @TexanTornado I can see it from both ways, and I think that you both have valid points. Texas, you see it as an opinion or words of advise for people. Wendy, you see it as a criticism of people who like to criticize others, which in itself is a criticism. I think that it works both ways depending upon how you view it. It could be a criticism based on personal experience even. Either way, it is still sound advice, in my opinion.
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@Dragonairy1 (1413)
• Newcastle Upon Tyne, England
25 Oct 15
Mostly I ignore them and believe in karma
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• United States
25 Oct 15
Oh very nice. Karma does have a way of making things right.
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@Shellyann36 (11269)
• United States
2 Nov 15
Well in my opinion some folks just want to stir the proverbial "pot". I just call them trolls. Of course I have many family members that want to throw stones and I just laugh to myself when I start silently recalling all of the things that they have done similar to the things the other person done to warrant their stones... Sure leads to a nice chuckle.
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• United States
3 Nov 15
I agree with you about the 'trolls'. . Oh I know what you mean about family members being 'hypocritical'. I don't mind pointing them at all.
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@rebelann (42997)
• El Paso, Texas
16 Nov 15
I agree with both of you @TexanTornado & @shellyann36 and it does become just a tad bit comical when the one throwing stones is the very same way as the one they're throwing stones at. Have a couple in the family but I've decided to "divorce" them, I don't need that kinda family.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
@rebelann I think it's only comical for a while, then it just becomes unbearable. I myself can do without it all. Divorce them huh? did you get half of the settlement?
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@Samanthavv (1386)
• United States
26 Oct 15
There's a lot of it in relation to parting. I work in the birth field and I can tell you, there's never a lack of judgement and condemnation, no matter what your choices are. All sides of the fence will be met with disdain and awful behavior.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
Oh I couldn't even begin to imagine the things you hear or the on goings of such. There are so many fields of work, that I would be down right awful in.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I delivered my last baby myself, without medical assistance, on purpose. People had a hay day with that that one. But they don't know or understand my reasons and what my alternatives were.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
@Samanthavv Oh wow. I can't judge you for that. I however would have been scared witless. I don't know if I have enough gumption to do something like that.
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@sofssu (14567)
26 Oct 15
I guess its about taking things personally.. this is just a discussion forum.. discuss and let it go.. why take things personally. I always tell people that I do not subscribe to their ideas or write something funny or just not comment. The other day I found a discussion that was not so acceptable to me.. I chose to respond to the one I had already responded to and moved on.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
You do have a point sweetie, and yes, I guess I take it personally. I can only turn a blind eye for so long before I reach my limits. Perhaps I need to work more on 'fuse'.
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@sofssu (14567)
26 Oct 15
@TexanTornado Hmm that makes things difficult for you.. I used to take things very personally and feel hurt a lot of times many years ago.. that would make me unhappy a lot of times.. Until I learned to detach myself from these things and move on with total indifference.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
@sofssu I understand. For the most part I can do that. However, I will admit, I do fail miserably at other times. It just depends on that 'fuse' at the time.
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@allknowing (70557)
• India
26 Oct 15
The only glass house I have is the one in which I live. It has 31 louvre windows (lol). I just ignore and move on if I am not comfortable interacting with anyone here. Nothing against them but it is just that I have no interest in getting into debates on subjects that do not appeal to me.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
Ok, you got me beat, I only have 28 windows in my house. Yes, I agree sometimes that is the best thing to do. I too tend to do that.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
@TexanTornado @allknowing *goes off to count windows before replying*
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• United States
26 Oct 15
@purplealabaster Well, when you finish that (counting), mine need cleaning.
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• Preston, England
26 Oct 15
there are people who just like to trash everyone round them, turning every conversation into argument and conflict thinking the one who is loudest and gets the last word wins so they break lots of glass houses sadly
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• United States
26 Oct 15
Very valid point you have there. I also find those that scream the loudest is usually the one most wrong or guilty.
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• Preston, England
26 Oct 15
@TexanTornado very much so - the truth frightens them so they deafen it out
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• United States
26 Oct 15
@arthurchappell I totally and completely agree with you.
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@LadyDuck (181864)
• Switzerland
27 Oct 15
I simply ignore them. I am a very private person, I do not like to receive pressures from others and I do not annoy others. This is my way of living.
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• United States
27 Oct 15
It is an excellent way to be. I too try to simply ignore. Sometimes however, I do fail at it. I am only human.
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@shshiju (10557)
• Cochin, India
26 Oct 15
that slang is in our language also. that's meaning 'Not to be a Boss" but to understand and work as aordinary on
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• United States
26 Oct 15
Oh really? Hmm that is quite interesting. So not exactly the same meaning, but in line of the concept in a round about way.
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@cahaya1983 (10037)
• Malaysia
26 Oct 15
I think I'm pretty good at ignoring people. I'd probably approach them in a nice way and talk about it if the person is somebody close to me, i.e. someone I really care about in real life. But here on myLot, I think calling out wouldn't really solve the problem.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
I understand. Yes, you are right, calling someone out in a social media/online can be a waste of time to say the least.
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@BelleStarr (39719)
• United States
26 Oct 15
I guess it depends on how they contradict and if they are polite about it. We are all entitled to have an opinion but we don't have a right to force it on people.
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• United States
26 Oct 15
I completely agree with you there. We are all entitled to our opinions/thoughts/ beliefs, and what not. However I don't like people doing one thing, and when others do it, that same person saying that it's wrong.
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• Canada
25 Oct 15
I haven't come across many stone throwers lately. I hope people try to restrain themselves when they get angry like that.
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• United States
25 Oct 15
Well, that is a good thing. I could easily enough do without them.
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