Sibling fights are the worst

@owstalaga (4576)
Philippines
October 29, 2015 10:21pm CST
Ever had a terrible fight with a sibling? I feel like I just did a week or so ago. We both have faults and we've never really been on good terms even as kids so it's good that peace lasted for more than a year. No there was no hitting or screaming that happened, just some harsh words thrown in and actions done to cause a rift somewhere. Mostly I am not as affected as when friends and I have some fights or disagreements. I can stop seeing or communicating with them at any time but family is really different. Their words hurt more than anything else. So now I avoid talking to my brother because of the money issue. I'd like to think he is wiser than me but... Anyway to stop all the possible future bickering I'll just leave and move into the previous place I rented some years ago. Don't you just hate it when family fights/disagreements happen? Isn't it always about money at the root of it?
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
30 Oct 15
most of the fight are for money. In here, one of my relative last day fought with the other and smashed on the head of other one. His sibling is now admitted in benzeer hospital here.
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@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
Whoa! That's the worst! I hope the sibling does not retaliate in kind once he heals. It reminds me of Cain and Abel, good thing the other one didn't die.
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@boiboing (12881)
• Northampton, England
30 Oct 15
I hope you get it sorted and make peace again soon.
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@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
31 Oct 15
Thanks. Hope so.
@allknowing (70817)
• India
30 Oct 15
It is not the good old atmosphere that prevailed among siblings when everyone stayed under one roof. Things have changed even with us and sadly we do not miss each other
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@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
31 Oct 15
Well it happens sometimes. Other times close friends make better family but then again family is still family.
@vandana7 (68567)
• India
31 Oct 15
I think till money does not come into picture, everybody is good. But if supporting drunkards, gamblers, and lazy bag of bones is demanded, it is necessary to cut off the ties.
@allknowing (70817)
• India
31 Oct 15
@vandana7 None of that exists in our family. It is that all are independent and inter dependence is not there any more.
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@poehere (17680)
• French Polynesia
30 Oct 15
I had a major fight with my sister and it wasn't over money. She decided to steal my passport and didn't want to give it back. I finally went to the police to have her arrested and guess what both of my parent's backed me on this one. She finally gave it back and I told her to leave and never come back.
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@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
Ouch. It really is saddening when family members do terrible things.
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@poehere (17680)
• French Polynesia
30 Oct 15
@owstalaga Yes agree but she has always been like this since she was little. That's why I don't communicate with her because I don't trust her at all.
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
@poehere Ah, wonder why she does it. Maybe she needs your attention and acceptance or something?
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@Beatburn (3945)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
It saddens me to hear about it. Maybe moving out/away will better for the two of you. When everything cools down maybe you can talk about it, like in a few years?
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@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
Nah I don't think we'll need to talk about it. At least we've been able to say what we each wanted to say back then. We used to live separately anyway but then a relative offered a house they weren't using when they're out of the country, so why not live there right? Well it's been more than a year anyway so it's time to leave.
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@vandana7 (68567)
• India
31 Oct 15
My father's older brother was a drunkard. He drank from morning 9 to night 3 or so. Obviously monetary differences cropped up. We had to support his family, and he started demanding more - read snatching away and the thing was bad. He beat up dad, and dad left their home. Dad's sister reconciled dad, and dad was unable to say no to her. The next attack was on me, this time this uncle and his older son. So me says...keep bad siblings as far as possible. In fact, there should be laws of disinheriting such folks.
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@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
2 Nov 15
Ah abusive family members really break the heart. Instead of them doing something about their situation they laze about and prefer to take advantage of family.
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@amnabas (10311)
• Karachi, Pakistan
30 Oct 15
Yes its worst when you grown up before that its fun and bullying only.
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@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
Yes because you all are supposedly mature and adult enough to deal with the problem but then again childish behaviors resurface.
@celticeagle (120480)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Nov 15
I only had a step sibling. A brother for seven years and he was horrid. Tortured me most of the time. .
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
2 Nov 15
Ouch. Bully step bro eh?
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@celticeagle (120480)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Nov 15
@owstalaga ...Always was mean to me. Luckily he only lasted seven years.
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
3 Nov 15
@celticeagle Huh? 7 years and then he went off to somewhere or 7 years later he passed away?
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@dodoazo (21612)
• Philippines
31 Oct 15
Not money is the root of your bickering or fighting. It is the LOVE of money which is the root of all evils. Misunderstanding among siblings is inevitable for some reasons. Nobody could solve that rift among you or between you. You and your brother could do it.
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
31 Oct 15
I meant money is the object cause of the problem. Money is something we needed and thus the cause of the issue. I don't even want to bother talking about it anymore.
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@dodoazo (21612)
• Philippines
1 Nov 15
@owstalaga Okay... the case is closed. You can have it. I won't talk it to you anymore. Thank you.
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
2 Nov 15
@dodoazo Haha, because it is a sore topic. It's okay. Let's talk about something else.
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@rakski (23511)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
It is not nice to hear when family/siblings have disagreements especiallly when the reason is money. I have also siblings and i am the youngest but i promised myself that we would never ever fight when it comes to money matter. My siblings are more 8mportant than money. I hope you guys can forgive each other and start out peacefully.
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
Well I hope so but for now we'll just go our separate ways like we used to. Money should not matter to family but my central issue was abt money, and him abt attitude.
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@rakski (23511)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
@owstalaga it is really hard when siblings fight. Yes, maybe it is better to be separated first for a while to cool down.
@SIMPLYD (84823)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
Indeed , when siblings have thrown harsh word to each other , they can really hurt like you were hit by a sword . Time heals all wounds , so maybe it's a good idea that you stay away from that house where you and your brother lives .
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
I think so too. Better than making it worse as it is now.
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@SIMPLYD (84823)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
@owstalaga Yes, better be the one to avoid the quarrel from further aggravating .
@jstory07 (71284)
• Roseburg, Oregon
31 Oct 15
A lot of family fights are all over money which ruins the pease in the family.
@owstalaga (4576)
• Philippines
31 Oct 15
So true. It's something family shouldn't fight over but it still happens.