The limits of freedom. About side conversations.

@marguicha (94563)
Chile
October 30, 2015 4:03pm CST
My friend @sofssu wrote a post about disgressions and side conversations in posts. Most of us liked them and some were opposed to them. I thinlk that we are entitled to have our opinion as long as we express it in a nice way. It is also important that we follow the rules if we are on a social site. I always looked at the old mylot as a place where friends get together to chat. We don´t need to think alike: that would be the end of conversation in fact. What I cannot accept is that some people demand that others think as they do. If we stick to the rules, all is valid. When I invite people to my house, I don´t want them to smoke inside the house but I place ashtrays at the terrace. The have the freedom to smoke or not within my house rules. There are many topics that I dare not touch if possible at a social site. Religion and politics are touchy subjects, for instance. But how can I tell anyone what to think and say about an specific topic? Ideas are more than welcome
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• United States
30 Oct 15
I have to agree with you. I think I take an issue with the ones that do the 'side discussion' and then when they aren't getting all the attention, they take an issue with those that were enjoying a 'side discussion'. Otherwise, I pretty much ignore those I have no 'connection' with, unless the topic is a good one. But they only only get a response, it's not 'chit-chat' as I so enjoy.
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@marguicha (94563)
• Chile
30 Oct 15
I have discovered that a side discusion is sometimes better than the main thread. And noone loses as that´s all within mylot´s rules.
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• United States
30 Oct 15
@marguicha Exactly! Mylot is after all deemed a 'discussion' site. All discussions whether they be main topic or side discussions, should be welcomed.
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@marguicha (94563)
• Chile
30 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I only draw the line when a person treats another with lack of respect
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• United States
31 Oct 15
There are a few people here that have come from another place. I have absolutely no idea how the other place conducted its site, but I suspect that might have something to do with their attitude towards discussions on this site. The thing is, many of us have been here myLotting for a lot of years, and we know how these things work. If Alex not only does not delete our comments but also on the rare occasion joins in with a comment of his own, then I do not see how they think that they have the right to tell us we are wrong. Don't misunderstand me, I do try to respect people's feelings. I will not respond to a few people, regardless of how good their discussion might be, because I know how they feel. I can adapt to many different situations and interact with a broad variety of people not only online but also offline.
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@marguicha (94563)
• Chile
31 Oct 15
I know you respect other people´s feelings. I know you from way back. I have no iddea why some people think that having other ideas is being rude. I agree with you: if mylot accepts our posts, then it is allright. Besides, excepting for following the rules of the site, there is no right or wrong I don´t chose to answer political or religious posts, but it is my privilege.
• United States
31 Oct 15
I have also limited my 'interaction' to exclude a few. And I absolutely refuse to comment back to them on someone else's discussion because they decide to talk to me there. They can post their own response to those discussions.
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• United States
31 Oct 15
@marguicha A good witch is all about nature and harmony, and we need more of that around here, dear friend! I am so glad to see you back!
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@poehere (17700)
• French Polynesia
30 Oct 15
I do agree with you on this one. I love to hear other points of view and even if they aren't mine they are yours and I respect them. I think it's wrong to hurt a person and comment badly on what they have written. If you can't add a nice comment please skip the post. There are plenty more for you to read and comment on.
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@marguicha (94563)
• Chile
30 Oct 15
If a person doesn´t like what we discuss at my home, they can just skip the invitation.
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@poehere (17700)
• French Polynesia
30 Oct 15
@marguicha Your right. I skip certain posts because they aren't topic I care to talk about. I think others should do the same.
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@marguicha (94563)
• Chile
31 Oct 15
@poehere I don´t go to any political post, even if it is written by my friends. THe same happens with religion. But I could spend the day sharing recipes
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@jaboUK (53924)
• United Kingdom
2 Nov 15
I agree with you - I like to think of this site as a place where we can chat as if we were talking to each other for real. In real life we don't expect to be confined to one topic, so why should that apply here?