The limits of freedom. About side conversations.
By marguicha
@marguicha (215148)
Chile
October 30, 2015 4:03pm CST
My friend @sofssu wrote a post about disgressions and side conversations in posts. Most of us liked them and some were opposed to them.
I thinlk that we are entitled to have our opinion as long as we express it in a nice way. It is also important that we follow the rules if we are on a social site.
I always looked at the old mylot as a place where friends get together to chat. We don´t need to think alike: that would be the end of conversation in fact.
What I cannot accept is that some people demand that others think as they do. If we stick to the rules, all is valid.
When I invite people to my house, I don´t want them to smoke inside the house but I place ashtrays at the terrace. The have the freedom to smoke or not within my house rules.
There are many topics that I dare not touch if possible at a social site. Religion and politics are touchy subjects, for instance. But how can I tell anyone what to think and say about an specific topic?
Ideas are more than welcome
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
30 Oct 15
I have to agree with you. I think I take an issue with the ones that do the 'side discussion' and then when they aren't getting all the attention, they take an issue with those that were enjoying a 'side discussion'. Otherwise, I pretty much ignore those I have no 'connection' with, unless the topic is a good one. But they only only get a response, it's not 'chit-chat' as I so enjoy.
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@marguicha (215148)
• Chile
30 Oct 15
I have discovered that a side discusion is sometimes better than the main thread. And noone loses as that´s all within mylot´s rules.
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@marguicha (215148)
• Chile
30 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I only draw the line when a person treats another with lack of respect
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
30 Oct 15
@marguicha Exactly! Mylot is after all deemed a 'discussion' site. All discussions whether they be main topic or side discussions, should be welcomed.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
31 Oct 15
There are a few people here that have come from another place. I have absolutely no idea how the other place conducted its site, but I suspect that might have something to do with their attitude towards discussions on this site. The thing is, many of us have been here myLotting for a lot of years, and we know how these things work. If Alex not only does not delete our comments but also on the rare occasion joins in with a comment of his own, then I do not see how they think that they have the right to tell us we are wrong.
Don't misunderstand me, I do try to respect people's feelings. I will not respond to a few people, regardless of how good their discussion might be, because I know how they feel. I can adapt to many different situations and interact with a broad variety of people not only online but also offline.
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@marguicha (215148)
• Chile
31 Oct 15
I know you respect other people´s feelings. I know you from way back. I have no iddea why some people think that having other ideas is being rude.
I agree with you: if mylot accepts our posts, then it is allright. Besides, excepting for following the rules of the site, there is no right or wrong I don´t chose to answer political or religious posts, but it is my privilege.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
31 Oct 15
@marguicha A good witch is all about nature and harmony, and we need more of that around here, dear friend! I am so glad to see you back!
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
31 Oct 15
I have also limited my 'interaction' to exclude a few. And I absolutely refuse to comment back to them on someone else's discussion because they decide to talk to me there. They can post their own response to those discussions.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
30 Oct 15
I do agree with you on this one. I love to hear other points of view and even if they aren't mine they are yours and I respect them. I think it's wrong to hurt a person and comment badly on what they have written. If you can't add a nice comment please skip the post. There are plenty more for you to read and comment on.
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@marguicha (215148)
• Chile
30 Oct 15
If a person doesn´t like what we discuss at my home, they can just skip the invitation. 
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
30 Oct 15
@marguicha Your right. I skip certain posts because they aren't topic I care to talk about. I think others should do the same.
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@marguicha (215148)
• Chile
31 Oct 15
@poehere I don´t go to any political post, even if it is written by my friends. THe same happens with religion. But I could spend the day sharing recipes
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