Being happy at mylots, or anywhere!
By Jekca
@Jessicalynnt (50525)
Centralia, Missouri
November 3, 2015 12:58pm CST
So I talked about things that sabotage our happiness, the fact that we do more damage often to this ourselves than other's do, still annoys me! We should be working positively, and not negatively in our lives. But we all know all that negative talk our minds chunks at us, so it's very true, just angering.
So Russell Grieger Ph.D., has written about Happiness on Purpose, and come up with five principles to help us learn to be happy, or happier anyways.
1. This is it. We have today, we are not gauranteed tomorrow. Seek happiness, focus on happiness, rid your life of things that bring you down.
2. It's up to me, we are ultimately responsible for our own lives and minds, no one is going to do it for you, you want to be happy, this has to come from you, with work, with changes, with mindset changes, etc.
3. Decide, I am going to be happy. Decide it once, then decide it over and over and over again. As I said before, we make ruts in our minds, with certain kinds of mindsets and thinkings, if those are bad, well we are stuck in them. We might hop out, in attempt to change the path and get pulled back into the rut, over and over, rather like an addiction, it takes work to move a better direction.
4. Attitude is King. Just as others said on the last discussion I started on this, we could have everything we ever dreamed of, and be the most miserable and unhappy person in the world. Major lotto winners often talk about how the money did not make them happy. Our attitude towards life, and everything in it, is really what defines this.
5. Hi Ho Hi Ho, as I said before in this, it's work. Do the work, do it over and over again. Retrain your brain! Work to think positive things. Work to replace negative self harming thoughts with positive ones! Develop new mind ruts, healthy ones.
This is only one method out there for working on being happier, and while I like it, it might not be the thing that works for you. Still all we can do is try right? If you want to know more, credit to this breakdown on happiness goes to Russell Grieger, and more can be read here:
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15 responses
@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
3 Nov 15
exactly, and I know some that somehow expect the world to just give it to them
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@just4him (306049)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
4 Nov 15
@Jessicalynnt That reminds me of the Disney cartoon I saw many years ago about a grasshopper who sung the song - The World Owes Me A Living.
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@Phoenixmaid (129)
• United Kingdom
3 Nov 15
I suffer from long term depression so I try to fit a lot of mood boosting activities into my day. some days I'm more successful than others but overall it helps.the important part is not to give up on it when i hit a slump.
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@zebra2222 (5269)
• United States
4 Nov 15
Happiness is a feeling that more people need to experience. There is too much complaining and arguing in the world.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
4 Nov 15
sadly much to complain about, as for arguing, well, sometimes people like to do it for the sake of doing so, or they are in pain.
@vandana7 (98818)
• India
4 Nov 15
If I am constantly happy, I will be unhappy again. You see, if you eat sweet, and then drink coffee with some sugar, you need more sugar. Something like that. Unhappiness is interlude that lets us savor the sweetness even small happiness brings. Am I sounding too wise? I am not.
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@vandana7 (98818)
• India
4 Nov 15
@Drosophila ..never heard that one, but I do need to hear and read them now. Only possible tomorrow morning.
@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
4 Nov 15
@vandana7 Curtsey of AZ Lyrics.
Well you only need the light when it's burning low
Only miss the sun when it starts to snow
Only know you love her when you let her go
Only know you've been high when you're feeling low
Only hate the road when you're missing home
Only know you love her when you let her go
And you let her go
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
3 Nov 15
oh I dont mean the bubbly cheerful in your face grating happiness, I just mean a sense of happiness that keeps a body from being depressed or miserable all the time. We all have a right to our grumpie days!
@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
4 Nov 15
@Susan2015 are you grumpy someone didn't finish his office yet? Mwahahahaha
@allknowing (130066)
• India
4 Nov 15
I have said this earlier somewhere but wish to say it again. It is not how much one has but what one makes of what one has is the route to happiness. I am following that route.
@concept001 (430)
• India
4 Nov 15
We have to search happiness in little little things. Happiness is something which cannot be discovered or invented. We should search reasons to be happy.
@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
3 Nov 15
he makes it sound so easy but it often isn't - we decide we are going to be happy just as the cat gets run over, etc.
@sofssu (23662)
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4 Nov 15
People would say its easy to say this but but its hard to accomplish.. I have often had this commented on my blog/articles. The truth is it is hard but not impossible to choose happiness and be responsible for your emotions. I speak from experience and not juts some theory.
@hema7213 (3517)
• India
4 Nov 15
it is me who can me happy or sad ....other may be the medium or the reason behind that
@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
3 Nov 15
Happiness is an odd one... what exactly is it? Serotonin level? Positive thinking? Being content? A fabulous sense of well-being? A sense of achievement, purpose, and belonging?
I just find the more I think about it, the more I actually can't define it. I "think" I am happy, but by my own definition, which may not be the same as anyone else's..
Real challenging concept. :D
