Friends through Email

@Marcyaz (35606)
United States
November 4, 2015 10:34am CST
I have a friend in England who just joined an online dating site and she told me she has requested local only (which means in or near London) and she is receiving winks from all over England. I told her what can you expect but she is hoping she can meet some nice guy and have a friend ship with him. She is not looking to get married just to find a nice fellow to hang out with. She is disabled so it is hard for her to get out and meet anyone. Do you think she might meet a nice guy this way?
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@Porcospino (18427)
• Denmark
4 Nov 15
I think that there are both good and bad things about online dating sites. I met my husband on the internet and I have friends who have met their partners on online dating sites. On the other hand many people get disappointed because they meet people who have lied about their age, their weight, their job etc or used fake photos. Romance scammers also find their victims on those sites. I think it is possible to find a friend to hang out with on a dating site, but it is important to be careful. She should always meet in a public place and immediately cut off the contact if the man starts asking for money.
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@Drosophila (16699)
• Ireland
4 Nov 15
That's some good advice!
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
4 Nov 15
Porcospino, i believe she would only meet in a public place and if they ask her for money I am sure she would put them in there place real fast as she does not have a lot of money especially for someone she doesn't know.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
4 Nov 15
@Drosophila It definitely is good advice.
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@Asylum (48224)
• Manchester, England
4 Nov 15
There is a good chance that the right type of person may well be using the same site. It is no surprise that she has encountered several of the wrong people so far, but those sites will attract a variety of people.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
4 Nov 15
Yes, it certainly does seem like a lot of them don't know how to read or just wink at all the new women that join.. She is such a nice person I hope she does find some nice fellow who will overlook her disability.
@jaboUK (55052)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
Yes I think it's possible. My widowed sister joined one of those sites and met a lovely man. She married him after about 5 years, so she didn't rush into anything. She was 76 at that time, and they are very happy. However it pays to be careful - if she finds someone that she wants to meet she should arrange to meet in a public place.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
4 Nov 15
How wonderful for your sister that she met and even married someone she met on a dating site, that brings hope to me. She we have talked about that and she will meet in a public place with someone looking out for her sitting at another table.
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@jaboUK (55052)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@Marcyaz Yes, that's the way to do it. You can't be too careful.
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• Shenzhen, China
5 Nov 15
@Marcyaz because of dangerous ?
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@Rollo1 (16685)
• Boston, Massachusetts
4 Nov 15
As long as she is very careful. Honesty is important but so is security and safety, so she should be very wary about meeting people unless it is in public. I hope she finds someone nice.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
4 Nov 15
I do think she will be careful and safety is one of the main issues, she would only meet someone in a public place.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 15
There is no harm in trying to get friend through a dating site, however, she needs to ensure that the guy she selects is genuine. How she will ensure about the right guy is a matter of another discussion.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
5 Nov 15
There are sites you can go to and find out about a person just like if you were renting an apartment they would do a background check on you.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
@Marcyaz - I believe that such kind of sites charge a hefty amount/fees for conducting background check. If one has the amount, then it is fine and help of these sites could be taken.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
6 Nov 15
@dpk262006 Yes, they do charge a fee but I would want to know something about a stranger I was going to meet, wouldn't you? I do think it would be worth it for her to know she is not meeting with a convict.
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@softbabe44 (5899)
• Vancouver, Washington
5 Nov 15
Its very possible all she has to do is hang out should draw someone near.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
5 Nov 15
She is not a person who can just go out and hang out as she has no vehicle and can't walk far without a cane to help her walk.
• Vancouver, Washington
6 Nov 15
@Marcyaz Thats a hard one mabe we can figure something out.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
6 Nov 15
@softbabe44 I think that a friend of hers might be able to take her to meet someone in a public place and stay there to oversee that everything is going as it should.
@Drosophila (16699)
• Ireland
4 Nov 15
I think online is about as risky as offline. Just make sure you don't share your home address etc with people. Also make sure the person you're meeting is really available.. and not just claims to be.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
4 Nov 15
I will let her know to make sure the person she will be meeting is really available.
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@Drosophila (16699)
• Ireland
4 Nov 15
@Marcyaz Yep too many "separated" or "single" people actually have not so ex-partners up their sleeves. That's one surprise you don't want to run into.
@lilnana1111 (2337)
• United States
5 Nov 15
I hope she has luck.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
5 Nov 15
Thank You I also hope she can find a nice friend on that site.
@youless (93738)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Nov 15
I must say that this girl is very honest and she deserves to meet somebody nice. Not everybody can tell their real situation frankly online. But she already mentioned that she was diabled. And she realized that she may not get married easily because of her situation, so all she hopes is to find someone nice as a friend. I hope she will find such kind of person.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
5 Nov 15
I am also hoping she will find someone nice to be friends with.
@cherigucchi (4866)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
I hope that she can meet someone but be careful because there are a lot of scams online
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
5 Nov 15
Yes, there are a lot of scammers online.
@sharon6345 (138802)
• United States
4 Nov 15
Anything is possible now a days. I met a really nice guy and we are still friends on facebook.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
5 Nov 15
Good to hear that Sharon and you are still friends.
@Susan2015 (21752)
• United States
4 Nov 15
She just might. And that's where Bernie and met on Match.com. He lived only about an hour away from my city.
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@Marcyaz (35606)
• United States
4 Nov 15
I will definitely tell her that she just might be in luck then and hopefully she finds someone close to where she lives, I mean in the same city.
@dodoazo (21448)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
She will if she tells the reality of her situation. But if she has not, she will only be disappointed.
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