Should others be perfect like us?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58675)
Delhi, India
November 6, 2015 2:09am CST
Hello everyone!
Whenever we are required to accomplish a task and it is of our choice, we accomplish it with due devotion and sincerity and we feel happy to see the result. If we ask someone else to do a task on our behalf, s/he may not do it as per our liking because his/her perceptions would be different than ours. My question is when you assign a task to another person (it could be any task ranging from repairing, cooking, cleaning to driving) do you expect that s/he should do it as you would have done it? And if s/he fails to accomplish the assigned task as per your expectations, do you pin point to him/her about his/her shortcomings? Do you want others to be as perfect as you, in accomplishing a task?
Have a nice day and weekend ahead.
Whenever we are required to accomplish a task and it is of our choice, we accomplish it with due devotion and sincerity and we feel happy to see the result. If we ask someone else to do a task on our behalf, s/he may not do it as per our liking because his/her perceptions would be different than ours. My question is when you assign a task to another person (it could be any task ranging from repairing, cooking, cleaning to driving) do you expect that s/he should do it as you would have done it? And if s/he fails to accomplish the assigned task as per your expectations, do you pin point to him/her about his/her shortcomings? Do you want others to be as perfect as you, in accomplishing a task?
Have a nice day and weekend ahead.18 people like this
20 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
So you don't want to rely on domestic help etc. because you know that they just cannot perform tasks, as per your expectation. It is said that if you wanna do a task in a perfect manner, you should do it yourself.
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@sofssu (23662)
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12 Nov 15
@dpk262006 I am not perfect but I know how i need to have things done around the house. I hate picking on someone.. I'd rather do things myself.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 15
@sofssu - Yes, you are very right here. In whatever manner we could execute ourselves, the other person just cannot do like us because s/he will have different attitude and perception.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
It means you want that others should do the work assigned to them, the way you want it to be and if they don't, you don't hesitate to fire them?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Nov 15
@dpk262006 But if i see that their own way is better , why not . But if they are not then i will insist in my way .
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
@SIMPLYD - Do you think that they could do in a better way than you? If so, then no problem will arise.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
6 Nov 15
We often fail to grasp that others don't see life exactly the same way we do. Sartre used it as a basis for his bad faith theory of 'the look' causing us to demand others share our perceptions of reality. As long as a task is completed in a reasonable time people should be left to get on with it. Companies often try to impose a standard operational procedure (SOP) on staff to make everyone do everything exactly the same.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
@arthurchappell - I fully agree with you
and I've seen this happening and I've faced such situations.
and I've seen this happening and I've faced such situations.1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
Yes, you are very right that most of us expect that others should have same perception, as we have and they should do a task exactly in the same manner, as we would do. However, it does not happen in reality because everyone is different.
I agree with you that as long as a task is completed within a reasonable time limit and in a reasonable and acceptable manner, we should not mind it.
Standard Operating Procedure do exist at many companies, however, even then some of the officials do the work, as per their own whims and fancies.
that most of us expect that others should have same perception, as we have and they should do a task exactly in the same manner, as we would do. However, it does not happen in reality because everyone is different.
I agree with you that as long as a task is completed within a reasonable time limit and in a reasonable and acceptable manner, we should not mind it.
Standard Operating Procedure do exist at many companies, however, even then some of the officials do the work, as per their own whims and fancies.1 person likes this
@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
6 Nov 15
@dpk262006 Yes, they impose a regime on staff that they then exempt themselves from following - such hypocrisy
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@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
9 Nov 15
I sometimes think that the work I had told to do someone should have been the way I had thought, but in most of the cases it is not always so.....we just have to deal with it and accept it. Maybe our way was good, but we can be even more fortunate and the other way may be even better. There is no harm in giving the other person a chance. If we don't like their way, we don't entrust them with that thing in future. As simple as that. But for the first time at least, our mind should be open to all possibilities in the scenario and we should give each of them a chance.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 Nov 15
It is a sign of maturity that you tune your mind to accept what others do for you, specially a task which you assigned to them.
You know it very well that others just can do a task, the way you would do it. If you accept their imperfection, it is your magnanimity and this trait will help you a lot in your future life.
I agree with you that there is no harm in giving a chance to the other person and we should accept the results with an open mind.
Well considered and one of the best responses.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 Nov 15
@ria1606roy - My pleasure.
I agree with you that imperfections in a person leave a scope for further improvement.
We are not perfect and so are others, it is for us to tune our mind, how we accept others with their imperfections.
I agree with you that imperfections in a person leave a scope for further improvement.
We are not perfect and so are others, it is for us to tune our mind, how we accept others with their imperfections.
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@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
9 Nov 15
@dpk262006 Thanks....I always think imperfections are the key to making something even more perfect, as there is a scope for further improvement.
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@Missmwngi (12927)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
I guess we should understand that no one s perfect and that includes us
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 15
What you said is absolutely correct but everyone does not accept this fact, s/he keeps on llooking for perfectness in others.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 15
@Missmwngi Yes, but many people show their unwillinness to accept this fact and we just can't do anything about it.
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@Missmwngi (12927)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
@dpk262006 Well whether they agree or not it is a fact and at the same time there is no way we can do things the same way
@birjudanak (14319)
• India
12 Nov 15
Nice question no one is perfect in this world. Everyone has something differnt. No one is in this world is perfect .in every person has some good qualities and bad qualities but thing is that which you identify. So answer is no other May be perfect us by health money but depend on how they feel and situation.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 15
Yes, you are right that no one is perfect. However, the problem arises when we expect perfectness in others and we do not get to see that kind of perfectness, which we have.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 15
@birjudanak - Yes, you are very right.
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@birjudanak (14319)
• India
12 Nov 15
@dpk262006 I think everyone is perfect in different field and they prove when need it. But some are not perfect when they do nothing even they have chance.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
24 Nov 15
Yes, you are right each of us is different and others just can't perform a task, the way we would do it ourselves. We need to keep this point in mind, while assigning any task to other persons.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
8 Nov 15
I am not perfect, that's for sure - so I do not expect others to be perfect. But when one says they are able to do the job the way I need it to be done, then I do expect them to do as they say. If it's someone doing something for me as a favor, I try not to get too picky - after all, it is only a favor. But if I paid someone to do a job, oh yes, I will have higher expectations. Not perfection, but perhaps close to it! 
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 Nov 15
It is true that non of us is perfect and it is also correct the other person cannot accomplish a task, the way we would do it because his perception will be different and his intensity to work will not be like us. Yes, if we have paid anyone for getting a work done, we hope that he should do the job in the best possible manner.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
6 Nov 15
I look at it differently. I give them a free hand as many a time they can do a job better than what I would do. But surely I will not accept something that is nowhere near what I have in mind.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
Giving free hand to the other person is fine, however, if they do not come up to your expectation, they doing any work for you has not value. Is not it?
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
@allknowing - Yes, we always guide and advice the other person how they should accomplish the task assigned by us, however, still they do in their own way because their perception differs with us.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
6 Nov 15
@dpk262006 Obviously there will be some kind of discussion before the job is entrusted.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Nov 15
It means you prefer to execute your tasks yourself, rather than relying on someone else. It is very practical on your part that you don't look for perfection in everything.
@GreatMartin (23677)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
7 Nov 15
I very seldom let people do MY chores but when I do I tell them exactly what I want. IF they do not do it as I asked I will say so--but in a nice, not angry or patronizing way.
No one is as perfect as I am so I have to give others some leeway!!
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
If you allow others some leeway, it shows that you are mature and practical and you understand this point that others cannot be as perfect as you.
I understand that you hesitate to assign your tasks to others.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
It means that you would normally won't like you to assign the task because you are considered yourself to be a perfectionist.
It is commendable on your part that if you a get a task done by any other person and he does not turn out to be perfect, you would make do with his performance.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
11 Nov 15
I don't think it is a matter of perfection and it all depends on if you give the task to a family member or an employee. Of course the standards for an employee would be whatever the standard is in that job and if they fail then you are required to coach, not criticize, the employee on the right way to do it
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 15
Very good response by you.
You have raised two points.
Firstly if I assign a job is to any of my family members, I may expect that s/he should do it, the way I would do it, which may not ultimately be the case, once the job gets over, therefore, I need to make myself understand that the other person will not do the job, the way I would have done it.
Secondly, if I assign a task to my staff, the end result may not be upto my expectation, in that case, it becomes my duty to guide him/her, how to do in a best way, instead of criticizing him. Criticism does not help and it could bring his moral further down. I do not believe in criticizing my juniors.
You have raised two points.
Firstly if I assign a job is to any of my family members, I may expect that s/he should do it, the way I would do it, which may not ultimately be the case, once the job gets over, therefore, I need to make myself understand that the other person will not do the job, the way I would have done it.
Secondly, if I assign a task to my staff, the end result may not be upto my expectation, in that case, it becomes my duty to guide him/her, how to do in a best way, instead of criticizing him. Criticism does not help and it could bring his moral further down. I do not believe in criticizing my juniors.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 15
What I am trying to gather from your response is - you would delegate the task if you yourself are not able to achieve the desired results. Is it?
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
Yes, what you said is very correct that others cannot as wonderful as you because you are different than them.
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
7 Nov 15
While teaching the kids to clean their rooms I do go behind them and correct what they have not done. It seems to be a never ending process. When working in the mental health field it was my job to assure that the clients were being taken care of and that their goals are met properly and the documentation is proper. Although I try to do this in a way that I would want someone else to show me what I need to improve upon. Condescending bosses/people are a pet peeve of mine.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
It is good that you you used to keep a watch on kids so as to improve their performance and while working yourself, you were particular about perfection regarding care of patients.
Yes, there is always scope for improvement in whatever we do, so if you look for improving upon yourself, there is nothing wrong in it.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Nov 15
Depends of things that I have asked them to do. If cooking, I cannot help it as it is already done. But if it is something where I can peep in and "repair", I will do that. No fun in bragging and making an issue of it - because it was no me who did that task.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
If you accept what others have done for you, irrespective of little bit imperfection, it shows that you are practical and mature. Others cannot be just like us.
@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
@dpk262006,I don't think so.You can't be like me nor can I be you.We all are naturally different from each other.We have our own way of thinking and working.The only commonality among us is we all are human beings.Let us celebrate it and feel the beauty of unity in diversity.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
Yes, you are very right that we need to understand that the other person cannot be like us because God has made everyone different.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
It is fantastic to know that you are a perfectionist and you do not believe in assigning your task to anyone else, because they just cannot be like you. This is what most of us believe and do.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 15
It means if others are below your expectations, you will allow them some leeway and you would accept what they have done.
Yes, it is good on your part to make them understand in very clear manners how you want them to accomplish the task.
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