My boyfriend

@Serena_1 (187)
Shenzhen, China
November 8, 2015 6:13am CST
My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. We are all busy with working and didn't see each other for about three month. Lately, he got a vacation. I was very happy and hoping that he may come to my place. Because we missed each other. However, he called me yesterday, and said that he was on his way to BEIJING, the capital of my country. I was so disappointed and shocked, and didn't wish him a nice trip and even wanted to break up with him. and now he is visiting the Great Wall and enjoying the magnificent views. I am here complaining about him. Am I overreacting?
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@lady1993 (17423)
• Philippines
8 Nov 15
i'm confused.. so he is nearer now isn't he? can't you see each other then? or did you want him to go to your city?
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@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
8 Nov 15
yeah, I want him to go to my city, but he went even farther.
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@lady1993 (17423)
• Philippines
14 Nov 15
@Serena_1 oh, that is sad... can't he come visit? since at least he is in the same country
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
14 Nov 15
@lady1993 Yes, it is. Anyway, he will come next month when my birthday comes.
• Shenzhen, China
9 Nov 15
Dear,cheer up.Tomorrow is another day.
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@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
9 Nov 15
Alright. Thank you very much for your concerns.
• India
8 Nov 15
What I can understand from your post is that you are very much disappointed by your Boy friend's decision to visit Beijing instead of you. Any relation needs trust and belief. So my advice to you would be to give some time to your relationship and see. I understand its very difficult to maintain a relationship specially when its long distance. But its very easy to break but its very difficult to find a dream partner.
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@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
11 Nov 15
Your understand means a lot to me. Thank you very much. You are so considerate. and so do I, I will handle it carefully.
@dpk262006 (56148)
• Delhi, India
8 Nov 15
You need to clear your doubts with your boy friend. If you feel that he deliberately ditched you and has gone to see great wall, you could convey your displeasure to him. If you feel that he does not care you, you could warn him and break off.
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@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
11 Nov 15
Yeah, this is the best way for both of us. I won't be too impulsive.
• Quezon City, Philippines
9 Nov 15
If your love to each other is true distance is nothing to both of you.
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@amnabas (10282)
• Karachi, Pakistan
8 Nov 15
This is what love is all about missing each other.
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@dodoazo (19335)
• Philippines
8 Nov 15
You have the wrong venue to complain. Besides with that action made by your boyfriend, you are already apt to break him up. It is not wise indeed for that kind of decision. Imagine you have endured the pain of having a distant relationship with such failure made by your BG in which you don't know the very reason why he is doing that, you have already misjudged him. I won't elaborate anymore.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
8 Nov 15
No,no,no,I didn't make the decision to break up with him yet. I will talk to him when he is back from his journey. It's just I was shocked and emotional and angry with him when heard about that. but I don't want to ruin his journey by aguing with him right now. so I just pretend that there is nothing wrong with us. but I think he may sensed about my upset. So we will sure talk to each other, and things will work out.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Nov 15
@dodoazo you also do not know serena so do not scold her so harshly thats not fair nor right. do not judge her like that it's hurtfull!
@dodoazo (19335)
• Philippines
8 Nov 15
@Hatley I am not misjudging her. I just reacting on the way she described her situation. If I misinterpret it or it is my fault I do not do it intentionally. How I wish I could express how she could handle it.
@birjudanak (7224)
• India
26 Nov 15
Its nice to hear you , you are not overacting but you just express your love and how you love him. Its happened because you not met frim long time and after knowing he is coming , you are so happy and see your feeling, may be you feel now your hours like day and cant be sleep and just thinking for him. Humm have nice love life and always be happy with him.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
26 Nov 15
Nice talk with you too. It's all well between us now. and we decided to end up this long-distance relationship by living together next year. Wish you happy too.
• India
26 Nov 15
@Serena_1 its nice to hear I wish you for your happy life .
@simone10 (21657)
• Louisville, Kentucky
10 Nov 15
I don't think you are over-reacting. You don't see each other that much anyway and for him to do this instead of visiting you, I would be upset too. He sounds like he might be a little selfish.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
11 Nov 15
Thanks for your suggestions. but I think I will offer another chance for this relationship.
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@simone10 (21657)
• Louisville, Kentucky
13 Nov 15
@Serena_1 Oh, I wasn't suggesting that you stop seeing him. I was just agreeing that you were not over-reacting. I hope the two of you can work it out. Try being honest with him and let him know how hurt you were by this.
@jhieeen (74)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
I agree that long distance relationship is hard because you are also missing his embrace, kisses and hanging out together. Although it's hard, it will also test how strong the relationship is. I think, supporting hims is the best. There will be the time that you guys will be together and you have to enjoy every moment of it.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
9 Nov 15
yeah, Distance makes us learn to cherish each other when we are together.
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• Philippines
9 Nov 15
@Serena_1 you got it! Wait for the most awaited date.
@Missmwngi (9572)
• Nairobi, Kenya
8 Nov 15
I am sure by writting it here you were able to let it out but don't go to an extent of breaking up. Long distance relationships are hard but don't give up
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
9 Nov 15
yeah, I valued this relationship.so we won't give up so easily.
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@Missmwngi (9572)
• Nairobi, Kenya
9 Nov 15
@Serena_1 That is the spirit girl,all the best
@monalica (117)
• New Delhi, India
8 Nov 15
you are not overreacting as its his fault so you should first of all listen and talk to each other and then take such a big decision of breakup . I think you will solve the problem so all the best
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
8 Nov 15
I got the idea what to do next. Thanks for your suggestions.
@monalica (117)
• New Delhi, India
8 Nov 15
@Serena_1 You are welcome i think now you will take a right decision
• India
9 Nov 15
Hi, I think, it's all depend upon how one is looking at it. May be he got some work to be finished at Beijing. May be he will surprise you I will not give you false hopes but it would be great if you ask him what are his plans. And if possible met him at equal distance from your town and where he is. So don't worry about what other think of it. You will surely get mix responses on this. Some will consider it over-reacting, someone call it your love for him, some will say it is natural to feel like this! I will go with Natural reaction. Well off course when we visit a country and guide says - there is a fountain 100 KM ahead which is very famous then surely we would not like to miss that one. In case we miss that we will be like - why did we miss it. So since he got chance to visit your country then hope he finds some time to spend with you as well. I wish he surprises you Keep us updated.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
9 Nov 15
No surprise this time. He just went. I think maybe he planed to spend time with me next month. because it comes my birthday next month. lol
• Singapore, Singapore
9 Nov 15
Helow Your not overreacting Im also in a long distance relationship. I know what exactly how you feel right now, because ive experienced that how many times already:) but then i always asking for reasons before i do some move. You must talk your boyfriend, let him know how you feel to what he does, who knows he can do something to get you fel better. Meanwhile dont think about it too much for now, make your life busy for a moment with those things that will gt yourSlf hapy
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
9 Nov 15
Ok. Thanks for your sharing. I will be fine, and also wish you all the best.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Nov 15
hi I'm not sure as you nor I don't really k now why he did just as he did. I would s ure hesitate to break up yet. He did call you and said he misses you , try to see if you two could meet halfway at a place yo u both co uld afford to trave tool I bet he wou ld be thrilled that yo u did this.t;hink the best be positive
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
11 Nov 15
Yes, Be positive. I will. ^ ^
@shirlys (113)
• Yantai, China
8 Nov 15
Hi.dear ,nice chatting with u here.I must be angry,too,if my boy friend treats me the same way. Tell him ur feeling,u will feel better.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
8 Nov 15
yes, I got even angry that he didn't tell me untill he is on his way. But he called me just now, and said it would be better if I was there with him. Anyway, I would talk to him. Thanks a lot. Nice to chat with you too.
@boiboing (12419)
• Northampton, England
8 Nov 15
No, you're not over-reacting. If he had told you those were his plans, it would have been hard to accept, but to just go off and let you down was bad. I think it's time to find a new boyfriend - but first explain how much his action upset you and maybe he just didn't realise.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
8 Nov 15
Yeah, you are right.I should take that into considerarion. I think he might has a very low EQ. haha...
@chance216 (278)
• United States
8 Nov 15
hmm, I am not sure what his situation is but personally I would be upset.
@Serena_1 (187)
• Shenzhen, China
8 Nov 15
I didn't ask him to explain yet. Maybe after his coming back from BEIJING I would. Anyway, thanks for you sharing. :D