is it normal to ask your parents for money?

Romania
November 8, 2015 12:59pm CST
ok I'm well aware that I owe my parents lot's of things and I wouldn't have been able to manage things without them. I only ask them for money when I need to pay larger amounts for different things like going to the doctor or paying for things that got broken around the house but many of my friends still depend on their parents. is this normal? I must mention I'm 27 years old and most of my friends are around that age
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@Auntylou (4318)
• Oxford, England
9 Nov 15
I think that it is better if the grown children should try to be financially independent.Saying that though I do help mine if they need it
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• Romania
10 Nov 15
I'm trying to be as financially independent as I can but still there are moments when I can't face all the expenses
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 15
@Auntylou You are a very helpful and understanding mother. Happy to hear it..
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@Auntylou (4318)
• Oxford, England
11 Nov 15
@myfb2009 You are very kind. I do my best. I had parents who helped me out occasionally over the years when I had financial troubles and it was a useful safety net..
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@UncleJoe (9915)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
8 Nov 15
At what age do you expect to take responsibility for your own life? What would you do if you had no parents?
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• Romania
8 Nov 15
I don't have the salary that would allow me to take full responsibility of my life. you won;t believe me if I tell you how much I earn
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@UncleJoe (9915)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
8 Nov 15
@swissheart then perhaps you need a second job. Your parents won't always be there to bail you out. Maybe a roommate to help share expenses?
• United States
9 Nov 15
@swissheart I am not saying what your doing is a bad thing but I am saying that @UncleJoe is right. I am 27 years old and up until 3 years ago my grandma was paying for everything for me (i lived with her so to me she is my mom). She told me many many time "one day I am not going to be here to pay things for you" and I wish I would have listened. I relied a lot on her for things I needed and then that day came and we had to go through a lot and still struggle sometimes because we never had to learn it and take responsibility of our lives. Its not bad to get help either but just keep in mind that she isnt always going to be there when you need your parents to pay for things. Please do not think I am being mean I am only telling you from my experience and wish someone would have pointed it out to me many years ago. You can always ask for help. I still ask my real parents for a few dollars for this or that and my husband asks his mom for help with this or that but for the most part we took control of our lives and the bills. So trust me when I say I know and I understand and I am glad they can help you. Just remember what I said.
@Drosophila (16713)
• Ireland
9 Nov 15
When I was younger I used to loan money off my parents, but I did aim to pay the loans back. I haven't had to do that for many years now. I know they would always be happy to loan me money. But nowadays, I prefer to loan from the bank than my parents. At lease the bank doesn't get worried..
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• Romania
10 Nov 15
why do they worry?
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@Drosophila (16713)
• Ireland
10 Nov 15
@swissheart Well they worry because they know when I ask them for loans I must be in a desperate situation. So naturally they worry, as parents do.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
@Drosophila it's good to know you have someone that would be there for you in any condition
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@LeaPea2417 (20333)
• Toccoa, Georgia
9 Nov 15
I never have asked them.
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• Romania
10 Nov 15
you're financially independent?
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@srisahara (4149)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 15
It is very good, if you never asked them for money, it means you do not make them enter in difficult condition when should give money to you. I proud of you, you are great, I think.
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@LeaPea2417 (20333)
• Toccoa, Georgia
10 Nov 15
@swissheart My husband has a job. And sometimes on holidays like Christmas, my parents may give us a little money as a present.
@jhieeen (74)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
I think asking money from parents is normal. Just know our limits being their daughter/son and we should know how to use the money properly because its also what they want. But when we get older, ofcourse its opposite. We will be the one whos going to give them, but incase of in need. Its okay to ask also. #opinion
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• Romania
10 Nov 15
it's normal to help your parents as they grow older. I'm scared of the idea that considering the money I earn I won't have the possibility to do this
• Philippines
10 Nov 15
@swissheart Trust yourself that you can do everything for your parents.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
@jhieeen thanks for the advice. I will try to be as positive as possible about the future
@youless (91492)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Nov 15
I think if you can return the money to your parents, then it is OK. After all, they are important people to us and we trust each other. You are supposed to have their help when you are in a difficulty. But if an adult who doesn't work but keeps asking money from his/her parents, then it is wrong. Otherwise it is totally understanding.
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• Romania
10 Nov 15
yes having a certain age and still depending financially on your parents it's totally wrong
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@cpefley (1577)
• Hemet, California
8 Nov 15
I think that is normal. My parents don't have money to lend, but if they did, they would.
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• Romania
10 Nov 15
I dream about the moment I will become totally independent and not have to ask them for money
@birjudanak (7218)
• India
10 Nov 15
while i child dont understand how to earn money so i ask money but then i understand and in collage i not ask anything till need is compulsory, i earn then i help parents to much because i know in which condition they give me so i have to thx them by giiving my earnings and they happy with it
• Romania
10 Nov 15
it's normal to help your parents when you grow up
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• India
10 Nov 15
@swissheart ya but you till not understand how to earn money till you not earn own
@srisahara (4149)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 15
@swissheart Yes, when we grow up, it is normal give money and give some helps when the parents need it. This is really mutual relationship and bring better on their relationship than they are selfish.
@kiran8 (15360)
• Mangalore, India
9 Nov 15
I feel that borrowing money from your parents is better than asking someone else ! They understand your need and will not judge you as long as one does not make it a habit and also make it up to them in some way or the other ! I too borrow money from my mother when I need it and although I return it , she never takes it back. I make up for it by buying her a gift and taking her for holidays ...I guess one can never ever repay what parents have done for us, but we can make life happy for them and make sure we are there when they need us
• Romania
10 Nov 15
and especially borrowing money for a decent purpose and not like going clubbing or something like that
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@kiran8 (15360)
• Mangalore, India
10 Nov 15
@swissheart There are different yardsticks used to measure parent children relationship. I feel that there is no hard and fast rule for this as long as the two people concerned are happy and comfortable and no mental tension or a rift in the relationship or unhappiness results because of financial matters. So, it is left to the individuals to decide and go ahead with what they think is right ..
• Romania
10 Nov 15
@kiran8 but what might determine a child to not to want to talk to his parents
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@gudheart (12752)
8 Nov 15
Sure, I used to ask when I was younger. But as you get older it is not normal really unless desperate.
• Romania
8 Nov 15
but considering my age would you consider normal for my parents to financially support me
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@gudheart (12752)
8 Nov 15
@swissheart Yes of course. I am 29 and i can financially support myself but i live with my parents so well all help each other out in terms of paying mortgage and bills etc.
• Romania
8 Nov 15
@gudheart I live alone and try to be as independent as possible but there are moments when I need to get back to my parents even if I don't feel confortable with this
• United States
20 Nov 15
I think it's pretty normal in this day and age to be 27 and still asking parents for money.. the economy everywhere isn't doing so hot, so 2nd jobs are the new norm, along with moving back in with your parents. My parents were never really able to loan me money (in fact I loaned them money instead!), but I know if I ever needed it they would try their best to help. Everyone here has said some great things to consider though, particularly finding a way to manage without them eventually, before you HAVE to manage without them. I wish you the best of luck in passing that exam for the better paid job!
• Romania
20 Nov 15
I took the exam and the result was positive. I hope now I will get a better salary
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• United States
20 Nov 15
@swissheart Whoo hoo! Way to go on the exam :) I'm hopeful you will too!
@WorDazza (10106)
• Manchester, England
10 Nov 15
I think if you are asking them for money for things that are outside of your normal living expenses then that's fair enough. Although it can be very difficult to be financially independent when you're young, as jobs don't always pay enough ,I really think you should be trying to ensure your everyday living expenses are covered without having to go the bank of mum and dad.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
I can pay for my expenses on my own and I'm pretty damn proud of that
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@WorDazza (10106)
• Manchester, England
10 Nov 15
@swissheart Well then you shouldn't worry what anyone might think of you asking for a bit of help in an emergency situation. Most of us need some financial help at times. I wouldn't have my house and car without help from the banks. The only concern I would have about asking for financial help from parents is that sometimes parents will give their children money they can't really afford to give them. I know I would probably go without certain things to help my children out if they really needed the help!! Not always the sensible thing to do but parents can lose track of common sense when it comes to their children!!
@srisahara (4149)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 15
I think it is normal you ask your parents for money. Parents and their children has great relationship. Parents will love their children all their lives. And children will always love them. I think when your parents ask you for money, you will give it too...Isn't it?
• Romania
10 Nov 15
of course I would help them whenever I have the possibility
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@srisahara (4149)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 15
@swissheart Totally agree with you, so it is normal that children and parents help each other when one of them need a help. Rather, it will strengthen the relationship between them.
@umer121 (19)
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
9 Nov 15
I guess it's alright as long as we don't make it a habit.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
so you wouldn't consider it normal to ask your parents for money on a monthly basis?
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
10 Nov 15
@swissheart Well it depends on the situation I am in. But I'm just trying to say that we should avoid the best we can and just not make it a habit. That being said if I'm in desperate need for money, surely i will ask from my parents.
@dodo19 (32869)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
9 Nov 15
I am the same age as you, and yes I do still depend on my parents. Right now, things are hard for my husband and I, but we are working hard to be financially independent, and we do try and pay them back, when we can.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
do you work?
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@dodo19 (32869)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Nov 15
@swissheart At the moment, no I don't. I stay at home with my kids. I probably should be working. With young kids, it's not always easy finding daycare and such.
@softbabe44 (5902)
• Vancouver, Washington
9 Nov 15
The better thing to do is to borrow yes but try and pay it back..
• Romania
10 Nov 15
my parents would never ask for them back because they know I wouldn't have the possibility to pay them back now
• Vancouver, Washington
10 Nov 15
@swissheart Well if they know you don't have the money to pay them back would they still loan it to you ?
@MALUSE (40031)
• Germany
9 Nov 15
It depends on the financial situation of the parents. If they have enough money, you can ask them, of course.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
it makes me feel uncomfortable but I don't have any other solution right now
@CRK109 (14465)
• United States
9 Nov 15
I am a lot older than you are, but when I was your age, my parents had taught me to be self sufficient. I had a good job and my parents taught me how to budget my money, and keep savig in case of emergency. That said, if I had something come up where I really needed their help financially, I know they would have tried to help me. It's just not always possible.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
tell me how would you be able to handle all of your bills with approximately 250 dollars each month( this is my salary) and also try to save money
@maggs224 (1711)
• Alicante, Spain
9 Nov 15
When I was young my parents were not in a position to loan me money, they needed all they had to pay their own way. As a mum and a grandma if I had money and I saw my children or grandchildren in need I would be happy to help out.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
yes there's always a special relationship between a grandparent and their niece/nephew
@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
9 Nov 15
If you cannot save up living out of the house, why not move in with your parents? You can treat it as renting a room from them. At least you can avoid paying rent to the landlord for him to pay off the house. You can save up the difference and later on, buy a house for yourself.
• Romania
10 Nov 15
I own a house so I don't have to pay the rent. but I would never consider going back to my hometown because I feel that this way I wouldn't progress