Something Strange Since Joining Mylot.

My own, taken in Norway
By Jabo
@jaboUK (55159)
United Kingdom
November 14, 2015 9:34am CST
Like many of you I migrated here from Bubblews, and was delighted to find a lot of people I knew here, including some really special friends. There were also a lot of what I would call 'passing acquaintances', i.e. people that I would occasionally interact with, but didn't follow, nor did they follow me, even though we may have seen each other around for quite a while. Now that I've been here a few weeks I've noticed something strange. A lot of these passing acquaintances have transformed into really good friends. I've got to know them much better here, they are fun and we have many exchanges. I'm wondering why I didn't that side of them before, and I can only put it down to the discussion format, as opposed to the 'comment and run' method. Have you noticed anything similar?
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@Rollo1 (16685)
• Boston, Massachusetts
14 Nov 15
There were hundreds of thousands of users at Bubblews at one time. Although there might have been people we might have connected with, we all tended to fall into little circles of acquaintanceship. And commenting at Bubblews got slower with every update. One simply couldn't get back and forth to respond and reply over and over. The notification system here, the emails, the quicker response time - all of this helps us reach out to more people. Plus, when B users got here, it was only natural to gravitate to the names which were known to us, even if we didn't have a close connection before.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Rollo1 Yes, as @Asylum pointed out, when we come to a new site it's natural to seek out familiar names, and then we get to know them better. I must admit that I like the email system here, it helps me not to miss things. However I still find that the way the comments are presented can be confusing. For instance when I first posted this there were a crop of comments, but they weren't in chronological order.
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@Rollo1 (16685)
• Boston, Massachusetts
14 Nov 15
@jaboUK I think that if there is action on a response, it moves up. So, if the comment thread below a response remains active and growing, it will move up and comments with no replies, fewer replies and older replies drop down. I think most recent is how the comments end up.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Rollo1 But i sometimes find recent comments that I haven't even seen right down at the bottom.
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@TheHorse (75098)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Nov 15
I actually noticed the same thing. I think we're creatures of habit. Once I had a circle of "friends" on Bubblews, those were the people I'd visit repeatedly, regardless of whether I'd recently gotten a comment from them. But with the change to a new site, I'd visit whoever visited me. That added new friends to my "circle."
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@TheHorse You are one of the people I had in mind when writing this. We didn't know each other too well before, but now we're friends aren't we?
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@DaddyEvil (26321)
• Aurora, Missouri
3 Dec 15
LOL! @TheHorse Hey, pony? I think you might have missed a notification for this thread! I am not saying you HAVE to answer a lady, but it can't hurt, you know!
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@TheHorse (75098)
• Walnut Creek, California
3 Dec 15
@jaboUK We are indeed!
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@marguicha (106293)
• Chile
14 Nov 15
BB was very different from mylot. Here the accent is in interaction. I feel here as if I were at my house, chatting with friends. At Bubblews we posted about general subjects and we did not much answer and comment as here. I prefer mylot
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@marguicha You are quite right - here it is like chatting to friends. There are good things about both sites though.
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• Canada
16 Nov 15
There's a lot more banter here. It is more fun for that reason.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
16 Nov 15
@marguicha RIP indeed. At least once today is over perhaps we won't have any more posts about BB. We can move on now.
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• Lenox, Georgia
14 Nov 15
Here at MyLot it is much easier to really get to know each other, there's a lot more interacting here going on. =)
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@LovingMyBabies You've said it right, I agree.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 15
HI @ LiovingMyBabies and @JaboUK i agree we do a lot more interacting and its more sociable too I feel comfy here too
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 15
@Hatley That's it, it's comfortable and friendly.
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@Asylum (48215)
• Manchester, England
14 Nov 15
This is inevitable really because Bubblews was a very busy site at one time and many members already had a huge list of friends. Now that they had entered unfamiliar territory they are naturally attracted to a familiar name and the interaction soon develops into a more concrete connection.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Asylum That's a very good point - we are drawn to people we already know, even if we hadn't interacted with them much before.
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@Asylum (48215)
• Manchester, England
14 Nov 15
@jaboUK It can often be strange when we first join a new site and begin to find our way around. In my case I have been a member of Mylot even before I joined Bubblews, but it was still a change when I returned. Many ex Bubblews members who never even encountered each other there have ended up as friends due to responding to discussions about the site and realising that they have something in common.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Asylum You're right and I like the fact that we can talk to other responders more here, we can just join any thread as and when we feel like it.
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• United States
14 Nov 15
I'm also finding that the interacting and conversations have made us more familiar with each other. It's a lot more fun isn't it
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Marilynda Yes, I've found a lot of the discussions to be humorous too.
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@cindiowens (4924)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
14 Nov 15
I just got here today, but I would say it is the interaction that is so different here. It is more user friendly, and personal.
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@betsuz (58)
• United States
14 Nov 15
I just got here too. I haven't left Bubblews yet but I'm leaving. Just wanted to see how this was. I love it so far! @jaboUK I agree, I think it's the way the discussion format is. Anyway, I love it!
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@cindiowens Here it's more like 'wait around and see if we get a reply' rather than just leave a comment and go on to the next post. @betsuz I haven't left Bubblews, I'm doing both sites, and you won't see me running that site down. However I do like the discussions here.
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@UncleJoe (11423)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
15 Nov 15
HOT DOG!!!
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@bookbar (1612)
• Sudbury, England
14 Nov 15
I do think the interaction here is more vibrant than 'there 'and frankly in the last months, bubble didn't exactly fill people with the joy of living, did it?...Arvind droning on about his visions, were wholly insincere and hard to take, when he had his hand in your back pocket, and nothing to offer!
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@bookbar I made really good friends at B, but the conversations here are, as you say, vibrant and fun.
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@marlina (80748)
• Canada
14 Nov 15
I find Mylot a lot friendlier and easier to be on.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@marlina I've found both sites to be full of friendly people, but the discussions allow us to further our knowledge of each other here.
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• Eugene, Oregon
14 Nov 15
I have noticed that. I am finding many familiar names of writers that I did no take the time to read on the B. It is good to make new friends and keep the old ones too here.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@JamesHxstatic I'm glad that you've experienced the same as me James. You are one of my good friends from before.
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• Eugene, Oregon
14 Nov 15
@jaboUK As are you one of mine! BTW, are any visible precautions going on where you live in light of the Paris attack?
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@JamesHxstatic According to the news we are on the second highest 'danger alert' - whatever that means.
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@troyburns (1428)
• New Zealand
14 Nov 15
This is true - even though it's natural to gravitate toward familiar names, myLot is still small enough for us to strike up new friendships. As numbers grow, I wonder if we will eventually settle on a circle of followers? The discussion format does make it easier to interact with new people though.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@troyburns I suppose if the site does grow too much in numbers we would be unable to keep up with everybody, so would naturally settle on a regular circle. At the moment I'm enjoying adding new friends.
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@boiboing (12879)
• Northampton, England
14 Nov 15
I don't think Bubblews brought out the best in people - especially not the last year.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Boiboing I'm not going to run down Bubblews or bubblers as I' ve had a great time on the site. I'm just pointing out one thing that I think is better. I've made lasting friendships on B that I am grateful for.
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• United States
14 Nov 15
No offense to Bubblews at all,but in my opinion there was no 'interaction' there to get to really know people. You posted a bubble, people would like and/or comment and that was the end of that. Here you can actually learn more about people. (Just my opinion)
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• United States
14 Nov 15
That is because interaction on here is not only encouraged but also expected. It is difficult to interact with people often and not get to know them.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@TexanTornado Yes, I agree, and it isn't any offence to Bubblews - it's just a different modus operandi here, one which does help us to get to know each other better. Though I did make lasting friendships there which have spilled over onto here as well.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@purplealabaster That's true - the more we interact with people the better we get to know them.
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@pgntwo (22752)
• Alanya, Turkey
14 Nov 15
A most interesting discussion starter, and some of the conversation threads from it sum up adequately how I have found myLot too. There is a certain something, a spark, here that I have not seen anywhere else. Long may it last.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
Now you @pgntwo are a case in point. We didn't know each other very well over on B did we? And now I've come to appreciate you a lot more, especially your sense of humour
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@pgntwo (22752)
• Alanya, Turkey
14 Nov 15
@jaboUK I think it's all down to the "two" I had to append to my myLot I'd or persona or whatever it is called here. The shaving thing was a B revelation, though, from memory. Everything's a little less prickly over here
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@pgntwo So has that 'two' made you twice the man you were?
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@Juliaacv (35274)
• Canada
14 Nov 15
I that the format of discussions lends itself to us being more open and friendships just grow. It is really nice. I know that I've gained a confident that seems to understand, or read between the lines of my discussions when I am hurt, and they've come to my aid and put a smile on my face. I don't remember that happening on the other site so much.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Juliaacv I agree, the friendships grow when we can have a proper conversation, and others can join in too. I have many really good friends from the other site that I have a really good understanding with, I've just added a lot more now I've come here.
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@Juliaacv (35274)
• Canada
14 Nov 15
@jaboUK I have added a couple new friends, but overall, I find that my former friendships are much happier as this site is more positive and upbeat. We all seem so happy here.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@Juliaacv It does seem to be a happy site, as Bubblews was before things started to go wrong there.
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@bluesa (15242)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
14 Nov 15
Yes, I have also found a few passing acquaintances, that chat to me more here, than they ever did there @jaboUK . It has been nice to get to know them a little better here.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@bluesa This doesn't apply to you and I Catherine as we were such good friends before. It has been lovely to get to know others better though.
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@bluesa (15242)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
14 Nov 15
@jaboUK , I know, Janet. And I agree it has been lovely to get to know others better here. :-)
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@GardenGerty (105458)
• United States
14 Nov 15
That kind of connection is what I missed. I knew I could never interact so freely on any other site. Not just that one we were on recently.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@GardenGerty I have only been on the one other site, so I'll take your word for it about other sites.
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• Midland, Michigan
15 Nov 15
Oh, I don't know. I think many of us interacted freely over there and I've done the same elsewhere too, but because we can control our own outcome to a large degree by leaving comments and responses ourself, it seems that the majority are more willing to get involved by continuing the discussions which provides even more interaction. overall.
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@PainsOnSlate (20856)
• Canada
14 Nov 15
I've noticed it's so well designed everything is easy here. My experiences here have been nothing but good. Except maybe not being able to get back on because I misspelled my own name when I signed in. And Thanks again for helping me get that fixed...
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@PainsOnSlate We were good friends before, weren't we Marilyn? But it's been a good experience here, I agree.
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• Canada
14 Nov 15
@jaboUK yes we were and yes we are. It is easy to navigate and easy to find interesting things to read and enjoy.
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• Greece
14 Nov 15
I like the discussion format, it is less demanding but much more interesting because this is a social site that really is sociable. Long may it continue.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 15
@41CombedaleRoad Yes, I really like the discussion aspect here, though I liked the layout at Bubblews too, and was very happy there.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 15
hi both of you I l ove it here as its mo re comfortable than it was back in bb more fri endl y here.
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@rosekiss (30258)
• Eugene, Oregon
15 Nov 15
Since I have been here, i have made some wonderful friends, friends that i interact with on a daily basis, and they are very nice people. Mylot is a great community filled with great people, and we help each other along the way. I am so thankful for the friends I have made in here, as actually, I don't have offline friends so the ones in here, I value very much, and I do enjoy interacting with them. Interaction is the best part of mylot, that is for sure.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 15
@rosekiss I agree that the people here are lovely, so friendly and helpful. I feel like you, that I've never had so many friends in all my life
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@rosekiss (30258)
• Eugene, Oregon
15 Nov 15
@jaboUK Yea, isn't that the truth. I certainly have never had that many friends in my entire life. Now I can say that I have, even if they are online friends. Friends are friends whether online or offline.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 15
@rosekiss That's true - I regard my online friends as real friends.
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@valmnz (13272)
• New Zealand
15 Nov 15
You know Janet, I was thinking exactly the same thing the other day. And isn't it exciting when you see another face from back there appear here, even if they weren't your closest contacts there. There's a genuine warmth radiating here.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 15
@valmnz That's it - genuine warmth. And even you and I Val, though we were very friendly over there, have become closer, don't you think?
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@valmnz (13272)
• New Zealand
15 Nov 15
@jaboUK yes, I think we all know each other much better here. There are others too whom I hardly knew there that I see a lot of now.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 15
@valmnz That's my experience too.
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