My son is very nervous of strangers

@shaggin (36676)
United States
November 19, 2015 7:36pm CST
My son is very nervous of strangers. I never taught him to be that way. Cautious yes but not as nervous as he is! If a stranger talks to him he usually won't answer them even when I am with him and tell him it is okay to respond. Today I got an email from his teacher telling me that the students are having pen pals with another nearby school. My son was to write a little boy the first correspondence letter. My son wrote it all out then scribbled the personal answers out. He said he doesn't want to write to a stranger that he doesn't want a stranger to know anything about him. I understand his feelings but told him that it is part of his school work and so it has to be done. It took two hours of crying for him to finally write a simple letter to him about what he likes to do such as playing on the ipod, what he likes to eat and his favorite color etc.
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@celticeagle (117868)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Nov 15
It sounds like you have a very sensitive little fellow there. I wonder if he is seeing too much on the news about strangers and things going on in the world. Didn't you say he was very particular about his grades too? I really think him meeting with a counselor may enlighten you as to what is bothering this little guy. I hope he is able to feel comfortable with the counselor and that this professional can help him and you to understand what is going on.
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@shaggin (36676)
• United States
23 Nov 15
I try to shelter my children from hearing about awful things like what goes on in the news. At home its fairly easy because we don't have cable television or anything like that. I am sure though that a lot of people at school are talking about the terrorism that happened in Paris so you could be right about that! My son met with the therapist for the first time on Friday and will see him again once a week.
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@celticeagle (117868)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Nov 15
@shaggin ...Sometimes thinking you are sheltering them isn't really the best we can do for them. I think letting children know that there is ugliness and evil in the world is one of the most important things we can do as parents. In a age appropriate way of course. Letting our children know makes them able to take care of themselves. Make good decisions is bad situations, etc. If they don't know about such things how can they defend themselves when they need to and know what to do. We won't be around forever to help them and keep them safe. The earlier we start getting them ready the better off they will be. Glad to hear he is going to be seeing someone now.