Facebook to allow you to see fewer posts from Exes?

United States
November 22, 2015 5:24am CST
I really do have a lot I could say about this. I just saw something on the ticker alongside facebook that said facebook is working on something wherein people can see fewer posts from their exes without blocking or unfriending them. What kind of craziness is that? In my opinion if you are out of the relationship and not on speaking terms then WHY have them as a friend anyway? So that you can be nosey? Okay well maybe you have a child with them, fine I understand. However, is it really necessary to have them as a friend on faceook? I mean you can take your own pictures of your kids and post them. If there is an event the other parent is going to that you aren't well you can ask them politely to take photos for you and send them via text or something. I don't know maybe I am thinking way too much into this. I am honestly hoping that I am somehow being punk'd because what a ridiculous thing for facebook to do.
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@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
22 Nov 15
You might have an ex on your Facebook if you broke up amicably and are still good friends. I don't have any exes like that, but some people do. If you had kids I do think it's important to remain amicable for the children's sake. Knowing what is going on in your ex's life that might affect the kids.. especially when you don't take the time to discuss these things anymore. Another reason is simply for the drama, to see who they're with and what they're doing... A few years ago my ex sent me a friend request on Facebook. We broke up about 15 years ago. A few months after that I started dating my husband, we've been married almost 13 years. The ex went on to another relationship with a girl he had 2 kids with, but they broke up shortly before he sent me the friend request, and she had already found someone else. I deleted his request, but have remained curious as to why he sent it in the first place. For awhile I obsessed over what could have caused him to do that. But I got over it and haven't thought about it in a long time. I have no reason to speak to him or know what's going on in his life.
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@vickyrose (1991)
• Canberra, Australia
22 Nov 15
I had a kid with my Ex so we are 'friends' for security and happiness of our kid.
• United States
22 Nov 15
I can understand remaining amicable for the kids sake but I still don't think I agree with being friends on facebook. You make a valid point about being able to know what is going on with the ex regardless as pertains to the kids but... Well I think being friends on facebook can also cause rifts especially if one parent sees something they don't agree with but doesn't necessarily have reason to be worried or angry over it. I guess what I am saying is I don't agree with it for the off chance that it causes a deep rift between the two over something that is none of their business nor concern and does not affect the children in anyway. I hope I made that clear, I did just wake up and haven't had a bite to eat yet so I'm still groggy.
• United States
23 Nov 15
@ScribbledAdNauseum I get what you're saying.. but I can also see ex's with children being on good terms with each other. I have some friends who are on decent terms with their exes that they have kids with. Both are in relationships again and secure in their lives and amicable enough that being friends on Facebook wouldn't cause any issues between them.
@Lucky15 (33423)
• Philippines
22 Nov 15
My ex and i are good friends. Maybe on one, i blocked him
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• United States
22 Nov 15
I can not say the same for me and my exes. I suppose if you can not be friendly it's best not to be friends haha.
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@vickyrose (1991)
• Canberra, Australia
22 Nov 15
@ScribbledAdNauseum there was resentments with my ex's and I found it better to move on to focus on the current one LOL
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• United States
22 Nov 15
@vickyrose In my experience it's better to cut ties. Of course this was only after I tried to remain friends with the person. Luckily we have no kids together.
@Hatley (164672)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Nov 15
If the person is an ex there has to be a reason so I would sure not be messaging to an ex
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• United States
22 Nov 15
There is the matter of if the two have kids together but even so I have my opinions of that and them being friends on facebook.
@GardenGerty (97927)
• United States
23 Nov 15
Facebook has to keep doing "stuff" to make sure you stay interested.
• United States
23 Nov 15
Some of the stuff they do, especially with the mobile, is more annoying than it is interesting.
@vickyrose (1991)
• Canberra, Australia
22 Nov 15
How will FB know that they are your ex's anyway? I found my Ex's on FB and have not befriended them. I visit their pages sometimes just curious about how they've been and feel quite happy for them.
• United States
22 Nov 15
I suppose this only pertains to those who you have had "In a relationship with" in the past. Either that or you can manually choose whom your ex is? I don't know but the whole messy is silly if you ask me.
@celticeagle (117590)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Nov 15
It depends on the relationship I think. Some men I would be happy never to see or hear from again. While others are nice and don't mind remaining friends with them. If the guy was abusive or other wise a low life why have his stuff still on your time line? And, why be reminded of experiences? And, I like having choices and options on what I have on my profile and what I can eliminate.
@Teep11 (6992)
• United States
23 Nov 15
They need to add more protections for users. I don't know. I just think they should invest in other things. I can understand one being uneasy about unfriending or blocking their ex, especially if kids are involved, I saw it and laughed.
@softbabe44 (5902)
• Vancouver, Washington
22 Nov 15
Well the block feature is good to use if you have to have get someone thats not listening to what they have to say or you don't want to know about this facebook does some strange things so i get that.