A family is good but not a life necessity

@scheng1 (24801)
Singapore
December 1, 2015 7:27am CST
It is good to have a family to rely on when you are in this world. However, having a family is not a life necessity. That means your survival does not depend on a family. You can still survive and live happily even if you are orphaned from young. If a family is a necessity in life, many orphans will not survive. The fact that we have parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins and siblings does not mean that those who do not have are miserable in life. They cope with life differently, and they can still live a happy and fulfilling life. Many men and women devote their life and energy to a higher calling. They are not suited to get married, and have a family. Many of these are geniuses, and some are very religious. That is why Jesus said in Matthew 19:12 that some are born eunuchs (also translated as incapable of marriage or celibate), and some renounced marriage for the sake of the kingdom. Many religious persons leave their family to devote to religious activities. It takes time for us to accept that there are people so different from us, yet so contented and happy with their work or purpose in life.
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@allknowing (65014)
• India
2 Dec 15
You are absolutely right. I can go a bit further and say that neighbours are more important than family.
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@vandana7 (64741)
• India
2 Dec 15
Family is highly over rated. Most of incest related crimes happen because of "family", especially extended family. Time laws were amended.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
2 Dec 15
@vandana7 People are living in a fool's paradise still thinking that family is indispensable. How wrong they are. They are losing so much by this thought process. Society has so much to offer.
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@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
2 Dec 15
@allknowing Yes, that is true. Some friends are better than our blood siblings. Some neighbors are much better than relatives too. Sometimes siblings do not get close, and when they do get together, they quarrel over family responsibility, especially towards the caring of their parents or grandparents.
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@kiran8 (15360)
• Mangalore, India
2 Dec 15
We simply cannot avoid having a family since you are born into one ..It is your close family that will always be there in your time of need ...I feel that relationships are an important and essential part of our existence..
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@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
2 Dec 15
That is true. Those who are born into abusive families are very pitiful kids. They have no way to change their environment, and some of them really run away from home and become street kids.
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@kiran8 (15360)
• Mangalore, India
2 Dec 15
@scheng1 That is really unfortunate , I agree that life is unfair to some people .We can simply pray that they derive the strength to face life without buckling under the pressure ..
@Lucky15 (33386)
• Philippines
1 Dec 15
I maybe indeoendent but ilove to have mybfamily around me
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@dorianna (512)
• United States
2 Dec 15
Have you been born without a family. Physical survival does not mean there isn't emotional sickness and pain. I was placed in an orphanage at a young age. I survived and today I am a happy person. But as a child and young adult, I was lost, lonely and empty. it took me a long time to get emotionally mature learn self-worth. A family is necessary for the emotional development. It keeps the heart and mind from sickness. Yes, we grow up, many of us are super smart, capable, independent and happy. But there is always a small hole in the heart that never got properly filled. If a family wasn't necessary for mature and healthy growth it would not be structured that way. There are things parents teach a child that takes much longer to learn on one's own and many times greater hardships are endured for having to learn it on the streets or the hard way. From firsthand experience, I argue your statements. I would have liked to enjoy a loving family arrangement growing up. I would have suffered a great deal less pain both physical and emotional.
@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
2 Dec 15
Some kids born in families probably suffer more than you did. You have the desire to have a happy family with caring parents, and caring grandparents. However, in the real world, many families are damaged emotionally, and children born into such families never healed emotionally.
@dorianna (512)
• United States
2 Dec 15
@scheng1 How cold you are to presume to know my suffering as if to diminish its intensity. I have known abuse. Yes, it is true that some suffer at the hands of a family member That was not your argument. You stated that family is not necessary. In all of nature the family structure exists, not just with humans. There are individuals born with a defective heart or collapsed lungs who suffer as a result. Does that mean a heart or lung is not necessary for a healthy.life. Does not the body need to pump blood or the lungs to take in air. True, these individuals with defective organs survive, but not experiencing optimum health. There are always examples that go awry and horrible things happen to children, I know firsthand. Majority of families are good and beneficial and it is a needed element in the emotional and mental health as well as instructional for life. If help is made available for these individuals who suffer abuse as a general rule it is to provide another family arrangement that will provide the necessary elements to contribute to the healing and well being of the child. Why? Because it has been proven that the family structure is necessary.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
2 Dec 15
There are different stages for a family to play its role in one's life. At certain times one wishes there was no family. To each their own.
@UmiNoor (3487)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 15
Sometimes having a family can make life miserable because of the expectations that family members put on you.
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@UmiNoor (3487)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 15
@scheng1 I pity such children too. I guess Chinese parents are like that generally because my daughter has a Chinese friend whose father was never happy with what grades he got in the exam. He's an honour student but his father is still not happy with what he had achieved. If he was my son, I would be very proud of him.
@anh101 (1380)
2 Dec 15
Many people nowadays think like conquer the world, no family, and things but I still love to be with family, I've been living in different places, i get familiar with everything very fast, like in a month. But then now I've decided to quit even jobs to be with my parents, they love me and they don't want me to go, cuz they know I will go some day. cuz I can't stay in one place longer than a year. So I am about to look for a job that can help me travel and work both. Any ideas, friends?
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@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
2 Dec 15
You might as well take a job on board a cruise ship. It is tough to get in, and you get to travel for half a year or so, and return home for 2 months before you sail off again. I do think that family is good, though there are many people who do not have family at all. They are still surviving, and probably just as happy as we are.
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@anh101 (1380)
2 Dec 15
@scheng1 i think they love to have a family too. Traveling yeah, i love also but first need to get a job that really work before starting traveling
@youless (91492)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 15
I still need my family. Perhaps I am not as independent as you. Although I lived alone when I was young and single. Try to imagine if I was sick, I didn't have my family to take care of me, or even just sign up the documents. If I have any troubles, I don't know who I can count on. Of course I shall have friends, but friends all have their own families. Everything will be different because of it.
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@youless (91492)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 15
@scheng1 What you said is very reasonable which I haven't thought about it before.
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• Portugal
2 Dec 15
i think that we all need a family so we can be happy even if is a family we were born having or friends that in time become family. we are on our own on this world and is good that we can depend on ourselves. we should be independent but we also need people who love us around us so we can be happy.
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@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
2 Dec 15
Family is a "want" more than a "need". If we need a family, then orphans cannot survive at all. There are many elderly ones with no living relatives too. Some of them lost their children, and spouse, and they ended up alone, and they are still surviving. That is why we should appreciate our family, and think of it as a privilege to have a family.
@cherigucchi (4747)
• Philippines
2 Dec 15
This reminds me of the thought that not all family is blood related. There are those who show more love and concern than the family
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@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
2 Dec 15
That is true. Some of us do have very close friends who are dearer than families. I have seen parents who are not keeping contact with their adult children, because their children do not love them, and never call to talk to them at all. They also do not welcome the aged parents to their house.
@dodo19 (32868)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Dec 15
As much as it may not be necessary for some, it is for others. I can't imagine my life without my family. We're all different and have different needs.
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@scheng1 (24801)
• Singapore
2 Dec 15
Obviously we cannot imagine life without a family. We are too used to a family, and we never given a thought to those without a family at all. That is why I start to think about them. I think when a person has no family, and he grows up in an orphanage, he can still enjoy his childhood.
@vandana7 (64741)
• India
2 Dec 15
I guess to each his own. I am fine with people renouncing the world, but it should not be one way passage. In the sense, if they want to return, that too should be acceptable.
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@OreoBrownie (3601)
• Elberton, Georgia
19 Dec 15
I must have family to survive. I could not survive its out them. My daughter I my care giver and my power of thorny. If I were lone I would be on the street or in some nursing home wasting away. I've worked in too many nursing home to see residents with no family to visit them. I'm afraid of that more than anything.