If you are into someone will you just grab and kiss him?

Portugal
December 3, 2015 12:13pm CST
Hi guys If you are on a date with someone, and you really like the person, will you just grab and kiss him? ahah Even if i like the guy I dont think I can take that step first even though I know that some guys prefer that girls take that step What about you guys?
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• United States
4 Dec 15
Sometimes I'd like to, but that's how you scare someone off. And I like the shy guys, so I need to be extra-careful. They scare easily.
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@dpk262006 (56483)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 15
What makes you like shy guys?
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
ahahah well i guess the guy if he really likes you, he wouldnt be scared ahah probably he would be happy that you took that step. usually shy guys prefer that we girls take the first step because they cant do it. but im like you i wouldnt take the step either ahah is too embarassing
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
@dpk262006 probably she likes shy guys because they are not as flirty as other guys when it comes to guys we have to be careful because if we like one who is very joky and funny he probably will flirt with many girls and we dont like guys like that we want a guy that will look only at us even though is hard to find
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• India
4 Dec 15
If you are on a date with someone, and you really like the person, will you just grab and kiss him? No I am not going to grab a male - forget the kissing part
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
ahah you mean because you are a guy? well so imagine you are on a date with a girl would you grab and kiss her? i just said a guy because im a girl but of course i meant if you are on a date meaning different gender or same gender as people prefers.
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
@UR_Forever_Raja aw just after marriage you will kiss her? sorry but i think thats too much. even if you are shy if you start to go out with a girl many times you will feel the need to kiss her eventually. i know in your country things are a bit different but a kiss only after marriage i think its a bit exaggerating but i respect your opinion.
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
5 Dec 15
I don't understand this @UR_Forever_Raja ! Don't you grab Piku Pikoee and kiss him? Sorry, my King! I saw your comment and could not resist!
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
5 Dec 15
No, ma'am, I don't just grab the person I am with and kiss her! In the U.S. that is a good way to get to go to jail! It is called assault here! (IF the girl didn't like you, like the kiss or doesn't think of you in those terms, she can press charges against you for touching her! And you would go to jail!)
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• India
5 Dec 15
So I know what you do. You both go to bar get both drunk and then do it. Because next morning she won't remember what you did last night
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• Portugal
5 Dec 15
aw really? i wasnt meaning it in a bad way i was like giving a surprise kiss. not doing that to a stranger. if is a stranger sure you can be acused of assault but if you are dating the person, trying a surprise kiss is normal i guess
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
7 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve I know you weren't meaning it in a bad way! I am simply explaining an oddity that has begun happening here in the U.S. during the last fifteen or twenty years... Even a man's wife can claim assault against him if he does something she doesn't like/want! And he will go to jail, overnight, even if she changes her mind the next day! He will still have spent the night in jail for it anyway!
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• Lucknow, India
3 Dec 15
O no!! Here is what I do!!(used to do on my first dates) At the end of the date, I would stand a bit close to her and look at her!! And somehow I always knew when the girl wanted me to kiss her, and then I would gently kiss her!! But grab and kiss?? NOOOOOO!!!
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• India
4 Dec 15
There comes Mr Hero
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
ahah im happy you do that its good that you wait to see if she wants it or not. because sometimes we can be like blocked or something thats why i never did that before. i wouldnt even try to kiss the guy first because is just too embarassing to imagine that ahah
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• Lucknow, India
4 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve Blocked??? What if the girl slaps?? LOL!!!
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@vathsala30 (3723)
• India
7 Dec 15
So far i never had any such date nor i think i will have one in future too because i am aged
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• Portugal
7 Dec 15
i understand also things in india are different than in europe and in america. you have a different mentality so i respect it. anyway are you married? do you have kids?
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• India
7 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve You are right. In India especially when i was young , we are not allowed to converse with any boys unnecessarily..Whether we go to technical institute or office, we just mind our work and come back home. So we dont have any chance to chit chat with boys. But now everything has been changed. Boys and girls are talking and laughing freely and dont mind studying in the coeducation schools and colleges Yes. i am married and have two sons . daughter in law and an infant grandson. what about you ?
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
8 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve ..honestly it is rotten. lol. You are always confused what you do or not do is going to be misunderstood. Sometimes you are absentminded and say something and that becomes a big issue. The world appreciates youth...I did not enjoy it. So here was this cousin ..he walked into the room where we all girls were sitting, and he had his dark glasses on in a room that was dark enough. So I asked are you able to see better with those dark glasses...and by god it became talk of the town for a fortnight or so. I still don't get invitations for marriages from that family.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
8 Dec 15
Disgusting.
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• Portugal
8 Dec 15
why is it disgusting? is normal that if you like someone you kiss the person. i dont see anything wrong about it
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
9 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve ..I don't know...I feel we have reached a level of civilization and communication where we respect each other's space and learn how to ask "may I?".
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• Portugal
9 Dec 15
@vandana7 yes you can ask if the person wants a kiss or you can do like most part of guys usually do. they look into the girls eyes and see her reaction if she wants it or not. guys are smart enough to know if we want it or not at least they should be after a date with a girl is more than likely that you know.
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• Minneapolis, Minnesota
3 Dec 15
I consider myself to be a very forward person and I go for the things that I want whether or not I have the potential for being shot down. I have been defeated the past couple weeks, I have a crush on my physical therapist and I wont make a move because it is in someone else professional work space and if he says no than i still have to come back and face this guy. Usually if I am turned down by someone I never see them again and I dont have a problem with that but I am now challenged for once in the dating world.
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
wow cassandra thats so sweet hopefully when is your last day in physical therapy you can take your move and i really hope that he feels the same way. i understand why you didnt take the first step yet. its complicated. anyway i wish i was as brave as you and could take the first step sometimes too. i feel that i lost some good opportunities because was too afraid of being let down. the problem is i dont have much confidence in myself and i should.
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
@Castlerock34 aw thanks cassandra im sorry that your friend still didnt have a boyfriend even though she is in mid 30's. hopefully she will meet a nice guy soon i hope that with more experience i gain in my life i learn to be more confident and stop being afraid
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• Minneapolis, Minnesota
4 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve I think it comes with time and feeling comfortable in your own skin
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@flapiz (4438)
• Australia
3 Dec 15
I've never been the one who initiates the first move. Although I really do want to have the confidence to do so. One time I went on a date with this really handsome guy. He was too handsome that I was intimidated. I thought he didn't like me cause he never made a move. Then after the date he texted me that he feels so unlucky cause he didn't get a kiss. I told him, "well you didn't ask for one". I think it's good to find a guy who has a courage to make the first move. I am a bit backward on this aspect of dating.
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
im also like you i actually went on a date with a guy that through texting was always saying that he liked me to kiss him but of course i couldnt take that move because i didnt have any experience about kissing guys so how could i even take the first step to kiss him first? ahah anyway we went on the date and because he was shy and i was shy too nothing happened. i wish i was a bit more brave because obviously if he talked about kisses is because he was expecting me to kiss him. i was dumb not to do it
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@flapiz (4438)
• Australia
4 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve I learned kissing and other dating stuff through YouTube. It's actually very helpful. It's not dumb. It's normal specially if it's your first kiss.
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
@flapiz aw really you learnt through youtube? youtube has some interesting videos i also like to watch videos on youtube. actually i saw once a video of a guy teaching how to kiss. of course in reality isnt as easy as in videos but well i guess when the time comes we know what to do thanks for saying that it wasnt dumb
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@moffittjc (44723)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 Dec 15
I have no problem taking a chance. The worst thing they can do is say no. Well, if you kiss them unexpectedly, they may slap you! I've even had a girl pour a drink on my head after I kissed her! But I think life is too short to not take a chance!
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• Portugal
6 Dec 15
ahah really? how did that happen? were you on a date or you just met her and tried to kiss her? ahah anyway at least you tried your luck. so you should be proud of yourself for being brave
@moffittjc (44723)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve I have done it on a date with a girl, and I have also done it without even knowing the girl. I was at a music concert once, and there was this really beautiful girl in the seat in front of mine. I just couldn't take my eyes off of her the entire time, and finally towards the end of the concert I just grabbed her and kissed her on the lips! Of course, she slapped me for doing it, but then right after that she grabbed me and kissed me! That was a fun night!
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• Portugal
7 Dec 15
@moffittjc ahah she slapped you first and then she kissed you? wow you were not expecting that right? we girls can really be a box full of surprises sometimes anyway im sure it was a really fun night! seems like it from what you are telling me. so did you see the girl again?
• United States
10 Dec 15
Sure if it seemed like the right thing to do at the time. I tend to be a spontaneous person, so if the moment seemed right, then I might just grab him and kiss him. Usually, though, it seems to be a mutual action at the same time.
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• Portugal
11 Dec 15
actually you are the second person that understood my question and didnt take it as a rude thing to be done. its normal that people do this. and being spontaneous is great. i wish i was more spontaneous. im always shy and i wish i could risk more. anyway its great that you would do that you are a brave girl
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• United States
11 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve I think that some people misread or misunderstand. They interpret "grab and kiss" as something forceful and potential unwanted when really it is just a spontaneous gesture not at all violent or forceful. I can be shy in certain situations, but I generally tend to be more outgoing. I will be myself, especially if I like the other person, so I have no problem making the first move if I feel the urge and the timing is right. If he cannot handle that, then he certainly is not the guy for me.
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• Portugal
12 Dec 15
@purplealabaster yes you are right. people took it the wrong way. im so happy that you could understand it well and give me a good answer its so nice to see that some girls just can be spontaneous so i can inspire myself in you and try to be more brave when i like a guy yes if he cant handle that then he is a stupid guy who isnt worth of your time
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@youless (93201)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Dec 15
I am afraid this kind of behavior may frighten him. A little kiss to the cheek may work better
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
ahah yes i would do that a kiss in the cheek anyway i dont think if a girl does that, if the guy likes her, he would be scared off. i mean if i like a guy and he kissed me i wouldnt be scared off unless he tried to do something else. but we are just talking about a kiss here. not more than that
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@owstalaga (4570)
• Philippines
6 Dec 15
Oh no, I don't like being grabbed at all so I wouldn't grab the guy too. I think I'd ease him into it or something. hahaha~ I could have but I didn't and now I think I should have but I didn't so there. Ah life, we just make it difficult sometimes.
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• Portugal
6 Dec 15
ahah i also felt the same way after having a date with a guy i liked i didnt try anything and i think i should have done something. when he offered to take me home and i said no dont worry i will take a bus. i should have accepted that he took me home on his car. but i was so nervous ahah so stupid i was
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@owstalaga (4570)
• Philippines
6 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve Yeah it's just awkward at first eh? Some people say enjoy this stage but sometimes I think it's not something to enjoy. hahaha~ Whatever.
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• Portugal
6 Dec 15
@owstalaga ahah yes the first date usually is a bit awkward because if you really like the person you feel the pressure that nothing can fail. and that it has to be perfect. but actually when i had my first date after seeing him and after talking for awhile i was feeling better
@marijuana (576)
• Tel Aviv, Israel
4 Dec 15
No! Not in my culture and not in my personal point of view.
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
ahah really? in your culture a girl cant take the first step? well in my culture it is ok if a girl takes the first move even though most part of guys do that first. anyway for me im too shy to do it so. but i see many girls flirting with guys first and some guys like it.
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• Tel Aviv, Israel
4 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve Yeah .. I mean that's the way I was brought up and I'd say "my culture used to be":) but the generation today has adopted the western culture as well so it is not a surprise to see young women doing the first move..
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@else34 (13604)
• New Delhi, India
4 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve,Don't you think it's embarrassing? This is what a guy I have seen doing with his girlfriend without her permission or without hesitation.
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
im not saying you will kiss the person without the person wanting it i mean if you feel like the person likes you and you like the person if you would take the first step? i mean why should we always wait that the other person kisses us? why cant we do that first? who is brave enough to do that? im not
@owstalaga (4570)
• Philippines
6 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve same thing for me... I could have, it was the perfect moment for it but then I didn't take it. Oh well.
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• Portugal
6 Dec 15
@owstalaga yes so sad that we are so shy if i accepted that he drove me home in his car i would have spend more time with him and who knows he could kiss me or at least hold my hand. who knows. anyway i lost my chance
@birjudanak (7293)
• India
7 Dec 15
no i not do that because its not good to do that thing without partner permission if you are in love and you did it before then its a different thing but generally not because without knowing person proper till not do it.its a symbol of love so its not for anyone.we are even not kiss on lips at public place though we are with girlfriend or wife,if you do it people will watch you and follow you.
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• Portugal
7 Dec 15
yes i know that in india sadly you cant kiss in public. i dont think it is right. i think people should be able to give a kiss to their lover in public is nothing wrong. im not saying that couples should sleep in front of everyone sure that i dont agree but a little kiss is nothing wrong.but i know that in your country things are different.
@sparial02 (505)
4 Dec 15
i'd love to do it.. but the fact is i never faced this situation.. whoever step first, doesn't matter,, am just gonna love the next moment..
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• Portugal
4 Dec 15
yes it really doesnt matter who takes the first step as long as both feel ok with it. but it never happened to you? so you mean you never went on a date with a girl and felt the need of kissing her? anyway i went on a date with a guy and i kinda expected him to kiss me but i was too shy and so was he i guess.
@dpk262006 (56483)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 15
Seemingly, your post is intended for females, yet I would like to mention that if I am on a date with someone, I will not grab and kiss her at a public place. Public Display of Affection is not much appreciated in our culture here.
• Portugal
4 Dec 15
aw i understand things in your country are different than in mine here we even see people kissing in the street or in the mall or in gardens... but yes i understand that you cant kiss a girl in public. i think its sad though that you cant show your true feelings.
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@dpk262006 (56483)
• Delhi, India
8 Dec 15
@sweetloveforeve - We have our homes to express our love to our lovers (read partners).
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