Guess I am pretty private

Hun has a definite southern feel and I am good with that. Duck will be cool to. I think "my dear" makes me think of My Fair Lady for some reason and like I am being manipulated.

@Rosekitty Where I come from in the Midlands in the UK we call people we know and people we don't know Duck. It doesn't matter if you are old or young, male or female family or stranger. A greeting you will hear over and over again in the Midlands is Ay up me duck. I think that it is nice on a site like this to be addressed as Hun. I can understand how some people are over familiar on sites like Face-book and take liberties that they are not entitled to and it comes across rude. The term dear comes across as patronising, so it is not one that makes you warm to the person using it. But Hun comes across as warm and friendly and you can use it on me any time me duck :D

@GardenGerty I'm a bad girl. I use the terms: babe, honey, sugar, sweetie, sweet thang. They are not meant to be disrespectful, that's just me.

It might sound different to me in person, but it is supercilious sounding on a site like this.

@GardenGerty I can understand where you're coming from. I think sometimes it might be a cultural thing. I think I've been called 'my dear' but by another woman from an Asian country.

I know. I had not had any coffee when I responded. I was not awake and smart.

I dont either unless I do actually know the person . Ih ave hjad a ton of strange names wanting to be my fri end and I did not know any of them so I just keep the friends I know from mylot or the defunct bb.

@Hatley Its safer that way.

I can block them too. I always regret it when I do friend someone for those reasons. I just can say he caught me before I had my first cup of coffee to make me sane.

I should have. I always regret it when I do not.

@GardenGerty Dont regret about it.Its just a small thing.Forget it and be happy.

We need to agree to ignore those friend requests and tell people we are not their dears.

@GardenGerty Agreed, I marked my profile pictures "only friends can see" now and I cut down the inv significantly!

@GardenGerty In my opinion, there are only two reasons to accept someone as a friend on a site such as Facebook. Either the person is a personal friend offline, or you have an interest in common, which will develop a friendship. Many people seem to collect friends the way that children used to collect postage stamps.

I do not like to be specimen someone collected. Reminds me of space stories.

@purplealabaster

And for some strange reason, I suddenly have this overwhelming desire to call you "dear" ... or perhaps "mate".

I forget that I do not have to be polite and accept everyone who asks.

My son in law and daughter in law use FB and that is what got me started. I have one or two friends I keep up with regularly as well. My own kids do not communicate as well as I would like so I do the inlaws.

There are people here who can address me with terms of endearment and I think nothing of it. I have three or four friends who daily tell us all that we are loved. That is okay. I guess the my dear just does not feel sincere.

@GardenGerty It sounds less of an endearment now to me, and more of a hey you sort of saying

Some days I am smarter than others. Sometimes I know the person though, under a pen name. i need to be a little more discerning.

Mostly people do not even know I am there. Possibly a handful of people is all. I have friends from here and other social sites as they closed down.

@GardenGerty Yep! I used to be someone, now I'm someone else and hopefully a bit smarter than I was..

Yes it becomes quite annoying when strangers call you dear.

I need to remember not to say yes so easily.

I need to get tougher, or at least more consistent.

I can choose what discussions I read and which I ignore. I can choose who I follow. I really do not post that much, I just have been here for nine years.

I even fall into that southern "hon" habit. in person. Not on Facebook or even here.

@fishtiger58 ..forgive my southern hun habit..it is just me..