When someone touches a sore spot
By sofs
@sofssu (23662)
December 14, 2015 8:48pm CST
It often happens in relationships that people touch a sore spot within us. Some people react violently by getting abusive and even hitting back verbally , emotionally or even physically.
Some others build walls and try to insulate themselves from hurt. The lack of aggression does not mean that there is less pain. The more we build walls to keep out the more we close ourselves in and cut ourselves away from love and all the good things in life.
Emotional pain could happen to anyone in close relationship, be it friendship or with your partner. When people come close to you and wrap their arms around you, they could eventually touch that sore spot. Does that mean they don't love you anymore because the unwittingly hurt you?
It often means that we need to open up that wound, clean it up, apply some antiseptic that hurts some more but would eventually heal the wound to a point of not hurting evermore.
How do you react when people touch your sore spots?
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
15 Dec 15
It depends if they matter to me. If it was someone close I would probably let them know that this is hurtful.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
15 Dec 15
@sofssu lol Yes but I am sure on other days I would just pout, I am not always mature!!
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@sofssu (23662)
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15 Dec 15
@BelleStarr That would be a mature way to handle problems.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Dec 15
@SIMPLYD - How much distance you start keeping between the person (who offended you) and yourself?
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
15 Dec 15
I think that I rather expect it. I have been alive a long time and all of that time, I have been surrounded by people. You can't live around people and not experience some hurtful moments. I think that in my family, we get upset, we don't say anything, then we wait a bit and pretend it never happened.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
15 Dec 15
When we allow the wound to keep hurting us, we will be the loser. However as human, we can not just immediately erase the offense from our memories and pretend it didn't happen. This is why in my case, I always need God's help to have the grace of continual forgiving because if I will rely on my own ability to heal the wound, it will be very difficult for me.
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@sofssu (23662)
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15 Dec 15
@salonga God's grace is there for us fresh and new every morning.. All we have to remember is that though we were sinners he still loved us enough to send His only son. That is enough to make us forgive and forgive hurt and move on in life with the joy of the Lord.
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@celticeagle (159008)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Dec 15
It is very healthy to work through these issues. To find the reasons why we react the way we do is half the battle and sometimes takes some probing. Then working through the pain and coming out the other side is like walking out into the sunshine.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
22 Dec 15
In the past I was always the one to keep things to myself and not complain and I would not let people know that they had touched a sore spot. These days I am afraid that I am not like that! As I aged I found my voice and I like to get things off of my chest.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
16 Dec 15
Well, for me, I guess it would depend on touched the sore spot, and in what kind of way was it done.. I mean if it was someone who had my best intentions at heart and that truly mattered, I would have one reaction and if it was someone just being malicious then I would have another.
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@Sheilamarie78 (2586)
• Canada
21 Dec 15
It's hardest when the persons closest to you hurts you like that. We all need to get to the place of forgiveness, but sometimes there are many steps you must take to get there.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
15 Dec 15
Sometimes defensively and sometimes with things that try to hide it, retreat, redirection, etc
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@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
16 Dec 15
Do I have a sore spot?!
. . I think I don't have one!
. . I think I don't have one!1 person likes this
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
15 Dec 15
I find out this happens a lot when you're in an argument and telling the other person what bugs you so much. I feel like they know you so well and they do this to hurt you or to be mean to you. I can't stand this and normally I just look at them and say wow what a really nice thing to say and how sweet of you to point this one out. I do lash back and tell them how I feel. When I get totally angry i just leave them talking to themselves and walk away. I can't deal with people like this.
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@buttheadface932 (708)
• United States
5 Jan 16
Sometimes when from a dysfunctional background it can be hard to tell the difference between intentional hurting and inadvertent, natural expressions that bring pain.
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@sueznewz2 (10409)
• Alicante, Spain
15 Dec 15
I talk to them.... it may not be immediately... but I would not leave it very long....
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
17 Dec 15
If I am upset and someone tries to hug me, I will not always allow it, till I have calmed myself down. The only one who can hug me when I am truly upset is my Mom. As for handling sore spots, once something has happened, I try to work through it and move on from it, so it no longer hurts, if at all possible.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
18 Dec 15
@sofssu I react to people differently- - - depending how close I am to them and the extent of my 'soreness' In some instances, I avoid confrontation; so just walk away. But when family or a close friend is involved, I tell that person what I feel.
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