Ever been stood up?

Perth, Australia
December 19, 2015 6:31am CST
Whether it was your friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whatever, have you ever been stood up? How did you deal with it?
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@just4him (109995)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Dec 15
Yes, back in my dating days. I waited, hoping they were just late. The next time I saw him, it was over between us. I don't like being stood up. It goes along the lines of being forgotten, and that happened a few times when people promised they would pick me up for something because I didn't have a car. Believe it or not, it was always church that someone forgot me. I make it a point that when I tell someone I will do something, I do it.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
I understand and I agree with you too. "It goes along the lines of being forgotten." I understand that completely!
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@Missmwngi (9583)
• Nairobi, Kenya
19 Dec 15
I have never,it must be a bad feeling
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
I am very glad you haven't. I have and it isn't nice at all.
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@1hopefulman (26097)
• Canada
27 Dec 15
I grinned my teeth. I fumed. I got upset. I said a few words. I telepathed unkind thoughts. I dated someone more reliable. I made this wise saying: An appointment not kept is a disappointment. And so I became a philosopher! Pretty good, eh or is it ah?
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• Perth, Australia
27 Dec 15
I actually liked it. lol
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@vandana7 (62487)
• India
9 May 16
What I don't understand is, with telephones around, why do they do that. All that they need to do is, call or text.
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@1hopefulman (26097)
• Canada
11 May 16
@vandana7 That happened a while ago but today many people have cell phones but don't pick up when you call. Weird!
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• United States
20 Dec 15
One time i was over 5 years late for a date. It made my girlfriend, B.C., so upset she almost married someone else. But when i was finally able to explain it all worked out. She understood and wasn't actually in love with the other guy. There were raised voices, some name calling and a lot of necessary venting. The key was that we honestly expressed our feelings. Easy as falling down a hill. So here's to talking it out.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
oh my! What a long time to be away from your true love! Glad it all worked out. And yes, falling down a hill is easy lol and I'm glad you both expressed yourselves. Unfortunately not everyone can find it that easy to express how they feel about others. Even if they mean so much to them. Like me for example, I have people who I care about SO much but it isn't all easy for me to express it to them. Can't even make eye contact when I eventually do say something. It is annoying but I still try.
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• United States
20 Dec 15
@VivaLaDani13 its ok if you can't make eye contact. i am sure they know. as long as you don't insult them at the same time as you are saying something nice.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
@DreadPirateRoberts Well I sure hope they know. But funny you say that, it is much easier for me to insult those I care about lol But I am weird. Me insulting is another form of me telling them I care for them haha It is weird I know. It is easier for me to call someone a delusional turd than say "Hey, you mean the world to me!, please don't leave me." etc etc
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@dodoazo (17355)
• Philippines
20 Dec 15
I am a man, a bread winner. I am providing my family of their needs. I make all the decision, but I honor my wife's decision too.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
Nice of you to consider your wifes feeling.
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@dodoazo (17355)
• Philippines
21 Dec 15
@VivaLaDani13 I always do. We have been married for 43 faithful years.
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• Perth, Australia
21 Dec 15
@dodoazo Very sweet! :D
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@softbabe44 (5908)
• Vancouver, Washington
19 Dec 15
A couple times I just left it alone.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
I hope that person or people who did it at least said sorry!
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• Vancouver, Washington
20 Dec 15
@VivaLaDani13 Some don't know what sorry means.
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• Perth, Australia
21 Dec 15
@softbabe44 You got that right!
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@waac00 (63)
• Berlin, Germany
19 Dec 15
Yes I have. It was disappointing especially when I didn't know the reason behind it. I didn't really do anything first but then I decided to talk with that person about it and it helped.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
Were you meant to go out and the person never showed?
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@waac00 (63)
• Berlin, Germany
20 Dec 15
@VivaLaDani13 Yeah was meant to go out but never showed up. Or wanted to hang at home and never showed up etc etc. Not just going out in particular. More than one persons have treated me like that before.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
@waac00 Well that sucks.
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• India
20 Dec 15
yahh it was one time my two friends stood up and it tell one friend something else and other friend something and finally i had done patch up and both were now good friends... i had wasted my whole day but now i am happy that both are friends now..
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
I am very glad things worked out and you are all friends now! :)
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• India
21 Dec 15
@VivaLaDani13 yahh.. :) can i ask u one question??
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• Perth, Australia
21 Dec 15
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@Daljinder (21025)
• India
8 May 16
Yes! How I deal with it depends on the reason why they stood up.
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@vandana7 (62487)
• India
9 May 16
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• Perth, Australia
9 May 16
@Daljinder If it's a good enough reason then I would understand.
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@mythociate (14989)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
19 Dec 15
Not exactly; but my huge imagination sometimes looks at particular women as if they 'should have been meant-for-me,' and--as my brain-injury kind of puts me in a position where 'going after a girl' makes me look more like "a Big Bad Wolf creeping after Little Red Riding Hood" (or "a weirdo from under the opera-house hypnotizing a young engenue") than "a charming prince wooing a maiden-fair"--my mind laments, "She should've been my Princess-Come-to-the-Rescue!"
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• United States
20 Dec 15
Interesting comment. Being able to see this side of yourself is a big step toward dealing with it. In my opinion, an honest, no pressure or expectation approach works best. And just because some guy is a prince doesn't mean they are worthy of the princess. Have confidence in your own strengths and the right woman will see them for what they are.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
I think what @DreadPirateRoberts was pretty good enough answer for you @mythociate Smart cookie.
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• United States
19 Dec 15
Never been stood up whilst in a relationship or dating. When I was younger there were plenty of times where an aunt and uncle promised to take me to the movies but never did. After awhile I decided to not even bother waiting around. I'd agree but go about my business.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
I have done that a few times like waited for a long time then just decided to go off and do something else because I was so sick of waiting. But sometimes I guess I get hopeful and believing that they will come so I sit and wait. Maybe I should just stick to going off and doing my own thing lol
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• United States
20 Dec 15
@VivaLaDani13 Less disappointment if you doit that way unfortunately.
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@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
20 Dec 15
I have been stood up by an ex's niece. She is supposed to help me with shopping when I just moved here. And since I know that she just lost her job and is currently looking for one, I offered to pay her $40 for her time and trouble. I gave her the money but she never followed through. No text message, no phone call, not even a smoke signal (haha!). I never heard why she never showed up. Since I am just new here and his whole family lives here, I chose t keep my silence and not say a thing. Two weeks after the said incident, we both visited their grandmother and she voluntarily explained to me that she got busy that day and we will have to schedule the shopping trip another time. I just nodded and smiled but never really took her word for it. Years later, I never saw my $40 back nor her telling me what happened,etc. I just let that pass but I noted that she is someone whom I can never really count on for anything (by the way, she is 23 years old. Old enough). Just a couple of months ago, she visited me at my workplace asking for a favor. Needless to say, I have to turn her down because I was really busy, plus I think it is about time that she should be responsible for her own decisions.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
That was very frustrating to read! 23 IS old enough to have some common courtesy to let you know that she was "busy" and to give the money back! My goodness that is so annoying! Good on ya for not helping her! Nope sorry. Stuff her!
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@kaka135 (13989)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 15
I don't remember being stood up before. I just remember there was once a friend was late for two hours, and everyone of us were there waiting for her, and she didn't apologize. Because of her late arrival, we were not manage to visit our next place while we were traveling. That was not a nice feeling, and I can still remember until now! (Usually I am very forgetful) I can imagine it's even worse being stood up.
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
How very rude of her not to say sorry! :/
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20 Dec 15
Luckily, I have not been stood up.But most of the time , I am the one who have to wait for more than thirty minutes , or worst, one hour
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• Perth, Australia
20 Dec 15
That is a long time. :O
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