If that isn't creepy....

United States
December 21, 2015 11:19am CST
As many of you know, my daughter owns a dog grooming shop where I help her when I can. (I'll call her G)I also have an older daughter (I'll call her K) who hasn't spoken to me (just me, K will talk to her dad and siblings and though I apologized for whatever she thinks I did, she still wants nothing to do with me) in over 10 years. Now G has a Facebook profile and page for her business. However, a couple months ago she gave me her sign in info because she doesn't have time to take care of her pages. Around that same time, K finally got a Facebook page where she connected with G. Due to school I also didn't have much time, but today while waiting to get started on my work, I decided to go into G's facebook page. Of course she had a few comments, likes, and mentions, but there was one message. When I opened it, it was a message from K wondering if I (meaning G) was no longer on there anymore. I felt weird and creepy, because she is actually asking G, but it will me me she is talking to. It felt like I was a stalker or something. I texted G to ask if she had mentioned to her sister that she is not in charge of the business page, but that I am. I also replied back to K, telling her who I am and that I am in charge of the page and asked if there was anything I can do for her. So now I am waiting to see if K replies back or when G replies back. This could be the bridge to reconciliation, or a bigger gap between us. We will see...
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@simone10 (22247)
• Louisville, Kentucky
22 Dec 15
It's been about 7 years since my daughter has talked to me and like you, I don't really know what I did but I also apologized. I worried, prayed and cried over it in the beginning but then I had to stop and move on. Last year at Christmas was the first time I saw my daughter in 7 years. She never talked to me but did allow me to hug her when she arrived and when I left. This year, she was also at my son's for our Christmas get together and she did talk but only when I asked her something and then it was one word answers. It still hurts because you can tell she doesn't want to talk to me but at least she was there and that's a start. I hope that K replies back and that you can rebuild your relationship. It can happen. It's happening with me and my daughter but it will be an extremely slow process and we may not get there before I die. I'm sure it will happen with your daughter, it will just take time.
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• United States
23 Dec 15
Like I told Chang above, K thought that was her sister's personal account. Since they are connected, she probably won't go there anymore.
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@simone10 (22247)
• Louisville, Kentucky
28 Dec 15
@Carmelanirel2 I hope it all works out over time. I just wish they would let us know what they are so upset about.
• United States
28 Dec 15
@simone10 I know.
• China
22 Dec 15
Maybe that will give her an out and replys back to you ,if so ,you both will iron out misunderstanding .
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• United States
23 Dec 15
I think I spoke too soon. When I talked to G today, she said that K had messaged her trying to connect when K created her account. That is because K didn't realize that account was her business, not her personal account.
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• China
23 Dec 15
@Carmelanirel2 However I think nothing can excuse K not speaking to you ,after all you are her Mum.
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• United States
23 Dec 15
@changjiangzhibin89 I am not the only one, there are many parents in the country where their children have not spoken to them in years.
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@jaboUK (51450)
• United Kingdom
21 Dec 15
What an unhappy situation, it would be wonderful if you could be reconciled.
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• United States
21 Dec 15
Maybe. Both her sister and dad have tried talking to her and she is good at letting them know that she will contact me, but then she doesn't. Now that I have taken yet another step towards rebuilding this relationship, maybe she will consider it.
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@jaboUK (51450)
• United Kingdom
21 Dec 15
@Carmelanirel2 I hope she does, the mother-daughter bond should be unbreakable.
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• United States
21 Dec 15
@jaboUK I do have that with my other daughter.
@scheng1 (24890)
• Singapore
22 Dec 15
Sounds like only a miracle can get the 3 of you on the same page again. It takes time, and it is possible that God will have a hand in this. I just hope that you have good news for us soon. It will be like regaining a daughter.
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• United States
23 Dec 15
Thank you, and only G-d can bring this together, but I don't think now is the time.
@Ketage (58)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
21 Dec 15
I hope that it is a step to reconciliation, I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.
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• United States
21 Dec 15
My husband is thinking the same thing. I haven't gone back in since this morning to see if she replied, but I did tell G and she said she tried calling K, but didn't get through.
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@boiboing (12475)
• Northampton, England
21 Dec 15
I really don't think it's wise to read other people's private FB mails and posts. It's more likely to end badly than well.
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• United States
21 Dec 15
Um, my daughter told me to take care of the site, that would include messages in case a customers is trying to reach her about an appointment, that isn why she gave me the sign-in information.
@Asylum (48103)
• Manchester, England
21 Dec 15
This does sound a rather precarious position to suddenly find yourself in.
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• United States
21 Dec 15
Yeah, and it felt like I was a stalker, but my daughter told me to take care of the page.
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