The Creep (Part 1)

By Lola
@Lolaze (3165)
United States
December 22, 2015 11:13am CST
I work (volunteer) at a consumer operated support center for people with mental illness. Since it is funded by the state and grant money only one employee - the center's director - is paid. Everyone else who works there is a volunteer. The center does a lot of good for people. Various volunteers lead groups and help others if there is a problem. Its a great place but there is some drama at times. Most of it recently has involved guys acting inappropriately towards ladies at the center. One guy just got suspended for harrassing my friend and constantly obsessing on one of the other volunteers. He would even run to the center director to tell her "Soandso just walked down the hallway!" He's also make inapproriate comments when she was running groups and she'd get so mad. I had my own issues with another guy too. This guy has barely met me and asked for my phone number, at first I said no but eventually I gave in. I thought he'd just text me and I could ignore it. Well, we ended up becoming friends. He knew I was engaged and I even made sure he knew what engaged meant. He sent me too many texts from the start, but it got worse and worse as time went on. Texts early in the morning and late at night, texts one after the other if I didn't respond right away, etc. He also started only coming to the center when he knew I'd be there. When I asked him if he was doing this, he lied and said no. I talked to him at least four times about the texts but he'd listen for a day and then go back to acting just like he did before. Things really got out of hand the night he invited me and two other friends to a Taylor Swift concert. We were supposed to attend a group at the center, stay there until 4pm, then head to one of the other friend's homes to eat dinner. Well, he ambushed me with the decsion to skip going to the center and going to get lunch then go back to his house to watch a movie. I thought "Ok, its a movie I've been wanting to see anyway." We watched it and I noticed he was really fishing for compliments but I played along a bit - saying he was a nice friend instead of exactly what he was trying to have me say. For some reason, I went upstairs and when I came back down we switched places on the couch. Suddenly, he hugged me from behind around my chest and put his hands on my breasts! I froze for a minute before I wiggled loose. I was too shocked to say anything and really didn't know what to say even. I should've left right then but I stayed because the friends we were going with needed a chaparone of each sex - they both had developmental disabilities and needed someone to accompany them to the restroom. I didn't want to ruin their night. The guy was supposed to sit next to me at the concert but he ended up standing - he knew he was in trouble. That Wednesday I told him I was 'taking a break' from talking to him. It seemed like it was because of his nonstop texting but really it was because I was trying to figure out what to do.
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@louievill (18678)
• Philippines
22 Dec 15
Save the text messages, there might be something there that could be used later as evidence if you intend to sue, complain, or whatever to put him away. Careful he could be dangerous we don't know ( just an advice)
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@Lolaze (3165)
• United States
22 Dec 15
In my state, you can't bring charges for verbal stuff unless a threat is made. He's smart enough he's never threatened me. I never pressed charges for him putting his hands on me since it would be my word against his and I waited for a week almost to tell anyone.
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@louievill (18678)
• Philippines
22 Dec 15
@Lolaze oh yeah guess we live worlds apart, although our laws are similar, ours is even adopted from yours, implementation and interpretation could be different. Here, one word leaks out of what he did to you, to a boy friend, relative, father etc.. the creep won't know what hit him, lawsuits would come later and most of the time it would get settled first in what we call a "barangay council" sigh so different but please do take care.
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@Marcyaz (35669)
• United States
22 Dec 15
Yes you never know what a Creepo might do let alone say.@louievill
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@sallypup (27159)
• Moses Lake, Washington
22 Dec 15
There's no one at the center to talk to and intervene in your behalf?
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@Lolaze (3165)
• United States
22 Dec 15
Yes, the director. This is just part one of the story because its so long. When I post the second part later today or tomorrow you will find out what happens to this fool ;)
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@Marcyaz (35669)
• United States
22 Dec 15
You call him a fool I would call him worse than that. a predator.
@Lolaze (3165)
• United States
22 Dec 15
@Marcyaz oh I've called him much worse, Creepo is our G rated name for him though
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@Marcyaz (35669)
• United States
22 Dec 15
I would think you could talk to the director about this since he has some inappropriate actions from others and they are no longer there. It is hard to get volunteers but you sure don't want that kind of a volunteer.
@Lolaze (3165)
• United States
22 Dec 15
he isn't a volunteer - thank God!
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@Marcyaz (35669)
• United States
22 Dec 15
@Lolaze so what is he doing coming in there then is he a mental case?
@Lolaze (3165)
• United States
22 Dec 15
@Marcyaz Given that I volunteer there BECAUSE I have a mental illness (as do all the other volunteers and members) "mental case" is a pretty offensive term. But yes, he has a mental illness - which is not an excuse for his behavior.
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