Respecting kids are overprotecting them?

@kaka135 (14068)
Malaysia
December 30, 2015 7:45am CST
I shared a post about respecting kids on Facebook. A friend commented nowadays parents are overprotecting the children, hence the children are too fragile and dependent. I agreed with him by not overprotecting, but I also mentioned we should respect the kids, no matter how young they are. My friend said, "respecting kids are actually overprotecting them". This will lead them to be less competitive and easily get shock when they found out the real and cruel world. Though I respect different opinions from others, I just do not agree with this. I believe when we respect the kids, they will learn to respect others, and that doesn't mean they will be weak. Although we need to guide the children to be prepared for the future, we tell them how the real world is, we should also teach them to build the beautiful world, but not only accept what negative things already happened and continue to add on to them. I believe kids who grow up with love and respect will be strong and positive. I don't think bullying, hitting or teasing the kids will make them strong, but might turn out to be the opposite. Well, this is just my personal opinion. I guess I am quite well-known as a protective mom.
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16 responses
• United States
30 Dec 15
I don't think the majority of parents overprotect their kids, some pay no attention to them at all.
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@cpefley (1698)
• Hemet, California
31 Dec 15
I think it is one or the other. Some overprotect, some turn a blind eye. Being present and there when needed, while still letting them grow and learn is a hard balance to perfect.
• United States
31 Dec 15
@cpefley I don't have kids, didn't have the desire and it was the right decision for me.
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
30 Dec 15
I can't understand your friend's kind of thinking.... how could respecting be overprotecting!
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• United States
30 Dec 15
That's what I was wondering. It seems like maybe he doesn't know the meaning of the word and is confused some how.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Dec 15
The love and respect are values that must be inculcated into the kids. That way they will be mostly good. They will share their issues without fear with parents - which is quite important in today's scenario where anyone can bully them or even other things. If there are differences and spaces between parents and children - they will feel left out, alone, and this will never do them any good. On the other side, this will also have many negative things into the child's brain - they will feel insecure, will be in low esteem and may also lack self-confidence. Parents must be caring, with love towards their kids, be understanding and try being their best friends. Of course, being protective is a part of this. If the parents are Overprotective, it might be good for the initial years, but eventually, the "over" thing has to go such that kids learn to be themselves.
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@jaboUK (54867)
• United Kingdom
31 Dec 15
Your attitude is the correct one, in my opinion. Respect them and guide them.
@youless (93104)
• Guangzhou, China
31 Dec 15
I agree with you. In fact we must change our concepts sometimes. Here, especially in the past that the parents were always correct and the children should listen to them all the time. This is called "respect". I don't teach my son like that today. I told him that even an adult can be wrong. The respect depends on each other, otherwise it is just obey. I agree that we must respect our children, even if they are little now. It is as important as love. As to overprotecting? Giving more money to children without reasons is overprotecting
@poehere (17680)
• French Polynesia
31 Dec 15
I think respecting everyone is a must. Furthermore, I disagree with this person if you respect your child you are over protecting them. I don't believe this at all. I believe there needs to be respect in the house and if you don't respect your kids how can you expect them to respect you. Today you need a certain amount of control over the kids because of how fast they grow up on line and with electronic devices. They learn quickly through video games and in school with their friends. At times there is unsafe things that kids want to do online. This is the time that you need the upper hand. But in doing so respect comes into play too. There is a way to handle this that will make the child learn and respect you and you them. So to me respect is part of growing up for both you and your child. I don't think that respect is over powering them or over protecting them it is teaching them about life and how to treat others.
@cpefley (1698)
• Hemet, California
31 Dec 15
I respect my kids, and have treated them well since the beginning. I don't understand how some people treat their kids like they are beneath them. I feel like my job is to teach, protect, and love them. It isn't their job to respect me until I've earned it. While, I think I've done as well. Some people say that you have to make your kids respect you, but I don't think that is true. If you act like someone who is to be respected, it will come naturally. Sorry for the tangent, but I think you are right! :)
@richnonai (501)
• Pattaya, Thailand
31 Dec 15
Children learn from their parents. If they are ignored that is the path they will take for their life. If they are loved, they will learn to love. Hence, if they are protected, the will learn to protect!
@PainsOnSlate (20414)
• Canada
31 Dec 15
I agree with you. If you love and respect them, they will grow up knowing that is a good way to live.
@ridingbet (57740)
• Philippines
31 Dec 15
respect is not a form of bullying, in my opinion. it is not a form of keeping yourself away from those who are proud. overprotecting your children might lead them into being over-dependent to you, or to others, and forgetting the value of self-reliance.
@paigea (22453)
• Canada
31 Dec 15
You sound like a very wise mother. My parents treated us with a lot of respect while they taught us the way the world was and ways to make it better.
@Syllogism (211)
• China
31 Dec 15
I always hold a belief that our kids will treat us the exact same way we treat them. So, respect our kids? Of course yes, that's respecting ourselves.
@celticeagle (119128)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Dec 15
I do tend to agree with you. I think that letting kids be as independent as possible from a early age is important. Love and logic goes a long way.
@LadyDuck (170727)
• Switzerland
30 Dec 15
In my opinion, respecting and overprotecting are not the same thing. I agree that in our days parents are over protecting their kids and this is wrong, but all parents must respect their kids, no matter how young they are.
@shubhu3 (15635)
• New Delhi, India
30 Dec 15
Yeah I feel the same. It's very important to respect the kids because how we people treat them will make them learn and do the things in the similar way. The more values we give them , the better human beings they will become when they'll grow elder. They don't becomes or dependent even because of all this they learn and imitate our actions and that actually make them understand things in a better and broader way.
@scheng1 (24748)
• Singapore
30 Dec 15
Yes, we should respect the kids and yet not to overprotect them. if they are bullied, they have to learn to face up to the challenge. They can cry, and they feel hurt but parents can only teach them to deal with the bullies, and not go and slap the bullies.