Why Are Some Members Rude

@BelleStarr (37666)
United States
January 5, 2016 7:07am CST
I am sorry but when you bare your soul on a website, you open yourself up to other members making suggestions about how you could perhaps do things a little differently. To then get your panties all in a twist and give a rude response to the suggestions is counter productive. While I am not blocking that particular member I have decided that I am through commenting and reading. Some people like the cycle of destructive behavior they are trapped in and they just want your sympathy not suggestions. Did I get a rude response, yes I did but so did other members who I know are good people. So to this member who probably won't read this, I bid adieu and I go on my merry way commenting and reading other members who are not rude.
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@DianneN (76153)
• United States
5 Jan 16
I only leave a snarky comment in return when I receive them, which I do from one person in particular. I deleted a couple of freaks on Bubblews, and blocked one here. You did the right thing in my book. I'm here to have fun and talk to my friends. Fortunately, we have a nice group of people here.
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@garymarsh6 (13647)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 16
Sorry @DianneN I had to laugh when I read your reply here. The word freaks made me laugh my head off. I hope you wont block me now!
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@MALUSE (39301)
• Germany
5 Jan 16
snarky - new word for me!
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
5 Jan 16
I do get a little tired of all the drama some people seem to be stalked by , I need to get out my little bitty violin. lol Thanks Dianne you are such a snarky breath of sunshine, oh probably because you are actually getting some sunshine. we are in Savannah so getting closer it is 47 here. lol
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@fishtiger58 (30344)
• Momence, Illinois
5 Jan 16
So what is up with that. You see this kind of behavior all the time. If your don't want my comments don't put your personal business out there. Some people just don't learn. I don't blame you at all for the way you feel Belle I feel the same. Ridiculous. Omg I just spelled ridiculous correctly for like the first time in my life without spell check. lol True story.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Wow you spelled it right the first time, you go girl. I have a couple that I have literally memorized since I had so much trouble with them.
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@fishtiger58 (30344)
• Momence, Illinois
6 Jan 16
@BelleStarr It's always been that darn word for me lol.
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@kevin1877uk (36974)
5 Jan 16
I'm sorry to hear that, no matter where you go or what you do there is always one, sorry it happened to you.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Thanks Kevin, it just always takes me by surprise when someone goes into attack mode. I come on her for enjoyment not to be yelled at.
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@kevin1877uk (36974)
6 Jan 16
@BelleStarr I totally agree with you there, When someone does that it making you think twice. I come here for company and enjoyment of reading about that's happening in other people's lives. I wouldn't like to be yelled at and would offended by it. I'm so sorry it's happened to you, you a lovely person and there is no need for anyone to be like that.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
@kevin1877uk Thank you I like to think that I am kind and would never intentionally hurt someone and I think she has deep seeded issues that I no longer want to be part of. Life is too short to let anyone upset us who we don't love!!
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@PhredWreck (6051)
5 Jan 16
I've seen one member that keeps complaining about a certain situation, and gets told what they need to do, and the next day are posting a variation of the same old situation...and it's been going on for years now. Some people you just can't help, and after a while, you just have to ignore them.
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@GardenGerty (98250)
• United States
6 Jan 16
We kind of get to know what to expect from whom.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Thanks PhredWreck I quite agree it is depressing and frustrating for those of us who are problem solvers!! Makes me wonder if the issues are real or created!!
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@Juliaacv (29693)
• Canada
5 Jan 16
I have had a couple of odd comments that I didn't know how to take, and when its written and not spoken, it leaves a lot to be desired. I agree with you to just get along, our site is so much fun that we cannot allow just one member to weigh it down, easier to cut them loose and enjoy the rest of it. I do applaud you for recognizing it as opposed to keeping it inside. Good decision here!
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
5 Jan 16
I think you may know the member I mean since I noticed you got a rude response as well. I deleted my comment and I am just moving on.
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@Juliaacv (29693)
• Canada
5 Jan 16
@BelleStarr Yes, I sure do.
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@GardenGerty (98250)
• United States
6 Jan 16
@Juliaacv I feel like a mushroom here, kept in the dark. Actually it is probably just as well I not know who the rude one is.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Jan 16
I think just like with text messaging it is sometimes hard to tell how someone means something through typing. Something I say as a joke could be taken the wrong way because you cant hear how the person is saying it. Then again I could be totally wrong here! Lol
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@UncleJoe (9764)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
5 Jan 16
I get a lot of that.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
8 Jan 16
lol I do agree it is hard to tell but this was pretty clear, basically she said bug off and so I will.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Jan 16
@BelleStarr Oh if it's something plain and in your face then that's different.
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@JudyEv (121545)
• Bunbury, Australia
5 Jan 16
I can't understand why people put personal stuff on here in the first place. You are wide open to whatever comes your way once you do that.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
5 Jan 16
Well yes and especially when they are obviously making really poor choices it is silly not to expect everyone to want to help!! No helping some people however.
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@GardenGerty (98250)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Something that I always remember is a required book for a college psych class. They called it the "Yes, but. . . " response. You get it from people who do not want help really but only want to make noise. Sounds like this one is very antagonistic too.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
The response was more like I am a certain age I know what I want and need. I don't need YOUR advice. Well okay but your life sounds pretty screwed up thinks I. But I didn't say that, that would have been rude!! lol
@marlina (72859)
• Canada
5 Jan 16
I don't bother with people like this. NOT worth it.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
I agree I am moving on to friendlier people.
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@just4him (113521)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Jan 16
I've done the same thing, and now I've seen a change in that person's behavior towards me. More likeable and a LOT less rude almost non-existent.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
I guess I will have to wait and see but I am not going to make any efforts in that direction there are too many really nice sweet people on here to chase after a rude one
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@just4him (113521)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Jan 16
@BelleStarr True. But there was only one person who was rude to me. It's nice to see that person being nice.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
@just4him I am glad they had a change of heart.
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@rosekiss (30276)
• Eugene, Oregon
5 Jan 16
Some people are just here for the drama, as that is what gives them pleasure. It really makes no sense, but it does happen. Drama isn't necessary in here, as you can't have fun that way. I am here to have fun and interact, and when I see drama, I will ignore them too.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
8 Jan 16
Thank you for understanding, drama is something none of us need.
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@rosekiss (30276)
• Eugene, Oregon
8 Jan 16
@BelleStarr You got that right. I hate drama, as it just causes problems for everyone concerned. I like to be happy and keep the peace in here, and I do the best I can to do that. Drama isn;t needed here, that is for sure.
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@bluesa (13427)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Jan 16
@BelleStarr , I have come across two and I ignore them flat now. Thank goodness the good people here make up for those few rude ones.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Yes exactly, I know it takes all kinds but in everyday life we would not tolerate this rudeness and I don't want it here either.
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@bluesa (13427)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
6 Jan 16
@BelleStarr , I absolutely agree with that.
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@cxndie (1057)
• Kolkata, India
5 Jan 16
Sorry that you had to go through all that. The best and most positive thing to do is just move on and let them be. I know it does affect one but then again, this is a place where people can put up anything they wish, so just take it as a stepping stone and smile on your way forward. Don't worry there are better people on here :)
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
5 Jan 16
I am not going to dwell on this but I felt I wanted to at least point out the need to be a little careful with how your comments sound and if you don't want advice then say that.
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@cxndie (1057)
• Kolkata, India
5 Jan 16
@BelleStarr Yes thats right. I hope you feel better now that you have taken it out. God Bless.
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@GardenGerty (98250)
• United States
6 Jan 16
@BelleStarr And I think we have seen people who say that in their discussion. They say that they want to air the problem and are working on it and do not want suggestions. I think that is a better way to deal with it.
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• Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic
6 Jan 16
Yeah just dont feed into the negativity, misery loves company
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@Drosophila (16717)
• Ireland
6 Jan 16
Well said.. Removal from the situation is the best!
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
I agree there are some that just want to wallow in it.
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• Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic
6 Jan 16
@BelleStarr backstroke and bathe in it lol
6 Jan 16
I have been online almost 20 years.In all these years I have read so much junk from people from all walks of life. So they say anyway.As for the most part people are very nice but then there is the one that wants to send others into a tailspin. The computer is a great way to be someone your not, to hide yourself. The ability to type gives some a power to create an evil side of themselves.Hiding behind the monitor lets the creep come out in them. They say things they would never say to anyone's face. A sad world when people have to let their alter ego take over. I think they truly are lonely people seeking attention. Very sad people are this way I just ignore them. It's not worth it.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Thank you I agree, it is easy to be bold and rude when there really are no consequences. I have walked away and I won't look back or have any regrets there are too many other people who are nice.
• Laguna, Philippines
6 Jan 16
so better not respond to those people when you feel that way. I do that also oftentimes @UQTIPIE though I haven't experience that on this site yet.
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@jaboUK (53540)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 16
Of course I am intrigued to know who it is. I agree that if someone is rude it's best just to leave them alone in future.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
8 Jan 16
I could tell you in a private message but I really don't want to mention this member in a comment.
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@jaboUK (53540)
• United Kingdom
8 Jan 16
@BelleStarr I've got an idea who it is now.
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@paigea (22010)
• Canada
5 Jan 16
Yes go on your merry way. There is no point wasting any time here with someone who spoils your fun.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
8 Jan 16
Its true they do spoil my fun and I want nothing to do with it.
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@simone10 (21664)
• Louisville, Kentucky
6 Jan 16
I guess I have been lucky so far and haven't received any rude comments but I probably just haven't run across this person's discussions yet. I don't blame you at all and would just ignore them from now on.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
8 Jan 16
There are just so many nice kind people on here, I am going to let her be rude to someone else.
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@simone10 (21664)
• Louisville, Kentucky
14 Jan 16
@BelleStarr That is what I would do. Everyone else is super nice and I have always felt welcome here. It's a shame that people like that can ruin a pleasant experience.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
14 Jan 16
@simone10 I agree and I have not seen her on any of my posts in a while so she must have read the post and recognized herself and decided to avoid me which is fine as far as I am concerned. lol
@garymarsh6 (13647)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 16
OH dear I can not understand how anyone could be rude to you as you are not a rude person. Oh well it is their loss.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Thank you, no I certainly would not classify myself as rude, snarky, funny, irreverent but not rude lol
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@garymarsh6 (13647)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 16
@BelleStarr Just ignore those who are too ignorant to waste your time on!
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
7 Jan 16
@garymarsh6 Thank you Gary I plan to just do my regular things and ignore any unpleasantness.
@mom210 (6712)
• Atlanta, Georgia
8 Jan 16
I often wonder what makes a person get online and be so rude, and I have decided, they must have a terrible outside life. Poor them. This is the only fun they get. I do not who the person is, but yes, I would just ignore them, they are not worth the time it takes to type a response.
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@BelleStarr (37666)
• United States
8 Jan 16
I never like to argue and I also don't like being told off so I think moving on and ignoring her is the best policy. Though I did get a sweet comment the other day, change of heart? Afraid it is only temporary!! lol
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@mom210 (6712)
• Atlanta, Georgia
8 Jan 16
@BelleStarr That is a good plan, take care
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