Parents, would you bring a forgotten item to school for your kids?

United States
January 6, 2016 6:53pm CST
I just heard a school in Florida has banned parents from dropping off forgotten items. So if Jane forgot her lunch or Johnny his homework they are out of luck. Is this fair? Is this tough love? I don't know. All I know is one of my best memories is my mom coming to my work with an umbrella I was going to need. It showed she cared and valued me. So would you go the school to bring a forgotten item for your child?
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
7 Jan 16
Say what?? And why would they ban this I don't understand. I always ran things to school when my sons forgot. It think that's part of my job as a parent. I wonder how the parents there feel about this. I bet many don't like it.
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• United States
10 Jan 16
@paigea I understand if you live miles and mils away but I was lucky, I walked to most of my schools. And if I had forgotten something my mom would bring it to me.
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
My parents never ran stuff to school for me. I never once did it for my kids. I was always at my school anyway. Not close to home and not close to their school. If they forgot something they did without and they rarely forgot something after learning that lesson once.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
7 Jan 16
@paigea I can certainly understand that, I really didn't mind we are only a couple of blocks away.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
7 Jan 16
They are children after all so why the big deal? Grown ups forget things. How would administration like it if they forgot their lunch and wallet? Would they like to go without or because they are all grown up they don't have to worry as they have it covered? Making a mountain out of a mole hill if you ask me!
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
I find it annoying to have students constantly asking to phone home to have things brought to school. Class time is tight and this takes time away from it.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jan 16
Yes of course I would and I think that school is very wrong to do that to the children and their parents.
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
I am glad my parents taught me to take care of things myself. No one ran stuff to school for me as a child.
• United States
10 Jan 16
@paigea I'm glad my mom had the desire and the time and the money to bring me a umbrella that day. Are you saying she didn't teach me to responsible?
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
10 Jan 16
@sarahruthbeth22 I am glad she brought it to you too. Having a job already makes you responsible. Somewhere on this discussion in my first comment I did say that I have to see both sides as my husband has brought me things at work a few times over the years. I would love to hear what parents thought of this idea at the end of the year. Did it help students remember their things better? That sort of thing.
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• United States
7 Jan 16
I can see the schools point of view. But what age group is this being applied to? I believe for elementary students there should be an acceptation.The school probably want the students to be more responsible. For example, a student may have a homework assignment due but forgot the assignment at home. All the student has to do is call their parent(s) or sibling/whoever and have the assignment delivered to the school. And once the homework is delivered - someone will have to deliver the assignment to the class or have the student get the homework (which will be a distraction to the class) and that will result in learning time wasted. By having this time wasted, it isn't fair for the other students to be behind a little due to one student. As for lunch, I believe schools should put a tab for students who may have forgotten their lunch money/lunch. Max of like $10. If they are maxed then they will be sent home with a slip telling the parents to pay. Because no child should be left without food to eat!
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• United States
10 Jan 16
I was the opposite. As a child if I had found I forgot something, I wouldn't ant to even go to class. I would walk back home and stay there. And I'm talking about Elementary school. I can see the distracting part of homework. But what if a child has a special diet and forgot the lunch? Do they just go hungry? Wouldn't it be more distracting for the child to go hungry? Plus in highschool, if forgettin something means not being part of that class, they might as well leave , right?
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
11 Jan 16
@sarahruthbeth22 Food's important as I've agree previously. All the schools I go to have a plan for food for forgotten lunches. A special diet is different I can see. Haven't run across that so far that someone couldn't have the available - plan B lunch. But a special diet has to be accommodated. I've never seen a situation that forgetting something would result in not being part of a class. It has a impact, but doesn't mean a person can't be part of a class. there is always something else to work on.
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
Food is an important issue. We don't have lunch available to buy at the elementary schools I go to. Every staff room has a supply to get lunch for a student who forgets. The disruption is what I find annoying as you point out. It does take time away from the other students. I find the schools where I substitute encourage parents to bring forgotten stuff. I am glad my parents taught me to be independent.
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• United States
7 Jan 16
I can understand if the child is always forgetting things, but I think that it's ridiculous a ban has been made on bringing things to school. If nothing else the parent should be allowed to drop the item off at the office and have one of the secretaries take it to the classroom for the child. Surely the ban does not include medicines that the child has to take?
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• United States
10 Jan 16
I bet it does. when they say Nothing, they mean nothing. The worse distraction is having to call 911 for an ailing child.
@paigea (35678)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
I am guessing they couldn't include medication in the ban. I do find it's usually the same students and every one is busy at school. The secretary is busy too, so if she/he has 20 or 30 deliveries that is an added burden.
@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
When I was a youngster, if we forgot something we did without. You soon learn not to forget. We lived seven miles from the school. Our family of of seven (later 10) had one automobile. Dad was at work, enough said.
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
This is how it was when I was a youngster. My parents were both at work; the babysitter was with the babies and not about to run to school with my stuff even though school was across the street.
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@patgalca (18180)
• Orangeville, Ontario
7 Jan 16
When my daughters were in elementary school I brought lunch to them at school. My younger daughter wanted a hot grilled cheese sandwich once in awhile so I would make it and drive the 3 minute drive to her school for her. There was actually a table in the entry hall for lunches to be placed on my parents. Likewise if they forgot books or school bag. I did not do that when they were in high school because their school was a half hour drive away. But had they gone to secondary school in town I probably would have done it then as well.
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@youless (112108)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Jul 16
Yes, if I found my child lost something at home. I will bring it to him for sure. I remember one day he didn't bring his performance suits and he called me. Then I went home by taxi and got the suits for him. I know it is very inconvenient, but sometimes due to the school's fault which didn't inform the children to bring this. As a parent, I had to do it anyway.
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• United States
17 Jul 16
You are a great mom like mine was.
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• United States
18 Jul 16
@youless Of course remember you. It is good to hear from you again. I see your son has grown!
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@youless (112108)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Jul 16
@sarahruthbeth22 Thanks, I am very happy to hear that I don't know whether you remember me, we were from the old Mylot. At that time my avatar was a little boy sat besides the computer.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
29 Jan 16
Yes, I would bring a forgotten item to school for my child. No matter what the school policy was. I think it is unfair. And they should allow the parents to bring things to their kids.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
First, I am super glad to see you again! =) Second, if my children forgot something I would definitely bring it to them. I think they are trying a "tough love" approach but I think that should be up to the parents-NOT the school!
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• United States
10 Jan 16
Sometimes Tough love backfires. If some children learn making mistakes is a not right, then they will hide Everything.
@paigea (35678)
• Canada
7 Jan 16
As @Morleyhunt said it isn't always possible for a parent to bring something. That means if 15 students are phoning home to ask for something that can't be brought anyway; they are wasting class time. I have met so many students who don't even try to remember their own things that sometimes I have wished the parents would say they can't bring the item so the child would have the opportunity to learn to take care of them self. The schools I go to seem to encourage parents to bring forgotten items to school. And there have been times I appreciated my husband bringing something I forgot, so I see both sides of this.
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• United States
10 Jan 16
It is up to the parents to tach the children how important school is. If they don't , they don't. I hated school. But my mo aid it was my job. So telling a perfectionist it is her job, I tried not to forget Anything. And if I did I would rather just stay home or go home than admit I did something wrong by forgetting. But if a child isn't told how important it is, they see it as the parents job to make sure they have what they need. This rule may backfire. If a child is made to feel stupid by forgettng something, he may either just not admit he forgot the lunch or meds or just lave school that day. I was sooo lucky. The longest ride to school was highschool and it as about 10-15 minutes but by that time I never forgot a thing. The only time I remember was when I was out of school at work. Mom surprised me.
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@paigea (35678)
• Canada
10 Jan 16
@sarahruthbeth22 I have forgotten things myself so I would never consider forgetting to be stupid. But doing without something I forgot is okay too.