How long do you think it is acceptable to be in a releanship for

November 24, 2006 6:28am CST
before you introduce your new boyfriend or girlfriend to your children
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• India
24 Nov 06
untill every thing is fine.
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24 Nov 06
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@zman87 (635)
• United States
25 Nov 06
As long as it takes...
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25 Nov 06
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• Chile
24 Nov 06
Before introducing someone? I guess it´s not about time, I think that it is about how you feel... if you think that is the coprrect person, I would not mind to introduce him as soon as I can... I guess it´s about feelings much more than time.
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25 Nov 06
i think that you might be right and i also think that it has to be right for the other person that they have to feel totally comfortable with it aswell thanks for your comment
• Chile
24 Nov 06
Before introducing someone? I guess it´s not about time, I think that it is about how you feel... if you think that is the coprrect person, I would not mind to introduce him as soon as I can... I guess it´s about feelings much more than time.
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24 Nov 06
this is very true thanks for your comment
@amitavroy (4826)
• India
24 Nov 06
well it depends on the type of relationship if its true love then it will finish with you only.
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24 Nov 06
ok thanks for your comment
@Metallion (2231)
• United States
24 Nov 06
It all depends on how many they have met in the past. If they have met a lot they might be ok because they won't be too attached to this one knowing he is just one of the guys they have met. If they have only met a few, there is a risk of them getting attached too quickly and then if things don't work you will not only have to deal with your reaction to him being gone but also to the kid's reactions. My advice would be only introduct them if you think he is going to be a long term relationship possibly leading to marriage, and one month is usually too soon to make that decision
24 Nov 06
that is a really good point, i hope that i do make the right decision thanks for your comment
@dan20071 (725)
• Romania
24 Nov 06
I think you should introduce your kids to your boyfriend just from the start because if you get to really like him and then he finds out that you have kids, maybe he just isn't ready for that and it will be more painfull for you to walk away just like that after a good and lasting relationship...
24 Nov 06
that is a very good point and thanks for your comment
@scorpius (1793)
• India
24 Nov 06
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there is no one sure formula for this.first of all ytour children must feel comfortablle with the idea of you dating and then they must slowly learn to accept this new person in thier lives.so off the top i would say probably 2 months!
24 Nov 06
that is the time that i am thinking off and thanks for your comment
• United States
24 Nov 06
Not until you are very sure that this person may be someone you want in your life for a very long time. It is not a good idea to introduce people to your kids, then a week later decide you don't want to see them again. Kids can get attached very quickly.
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24 Nov 06
that is what i feel that worries me i dont want them to get hurt thanks for your comment
• Brazil
24 Nov 06
Hmmm, the person to have proven themselves trustworthy? Here in Brazil, amny a kidnapping started when the idnapper managed to become the "boyfriend" and was let into the family.
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24 Nov 06
that is why i feel it is best to wait awhile so i can trust him first thanks for your comment
@nancygibson (3738)
• France
24 Nov 06
I think it depends on the age of the children and how they feel about the idea of you having new partners. If they are old enough, I would involve them from teh beginning, letting them know that you have a date, asking if you look nice, making it really clear that their opinion matters to you. That way you can, after a few dates, tell them that you think you might like them to meet your partner so you can find out what the children think of them. Its really important they feel that any addition to teh family is partly their choice, rather than just announcing it. Just my opinion, differnt circumstances may need different approaches though.
24 Nov 06
i have to say that is a good opion, i have been honest with my children and they know about my new partner, they are happy about it, always asking me questions about him. thanks for your comment
@MagusX (1099)
• Brazil
24 Nov 06
Same
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24 Nov 06
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@atticus (1381)
• Italy
24 Nov 06
i think there's no time...
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24 Nov 06
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@exchange (949)
• Australia
24 Nov 06
it should be straight away you would then find out if your new partner likes your kids and vise versa
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24 Nov 06
that is a good point and thanks for your thought
@atticus (1381)
• Italy
24 Nov 06
i think there's no time...
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24 Nov 06
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@kids91911 (4366)
• United States
24 Nov 06
It depends on the situtation.
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24 Nov 06
well i have been with my boyfriend for a month now and i have 2 children, i want to wait until after the new year to introduce him to my children thanks for your comment