is here someone that is a doctor or nurse that can help me?

Portugal
January 14, 2016 1:55pm CST
Hi guys I have a friend that is very sick but he doesnt tell me what he has. he told me that when he was 12 years old he had a medicines intoxication because his doctor made a mistake and he almost died. Since that happened that he was affected in a lot of things. Fever, liver problems, lack of vitamins, he also has ashtma. But a month ago, he found out that he has a decease that doesnt kill him but if he isnt careful it can be bad. What desease can it be? i want to help him but i dont know how. is there anyone here who studied medicine in university and can help me figure it out please? He said that it gives him a lot of pain everyday but that it wont kill him at all. what can it be that scared him so much? Im very worried. Since he is sick that he started to act completely different with me. He stopped to talk to me mostly, I care for him and ask how he is and he just doesnt reply me. what can i do?
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@Auntylou (4318)
• Oxford, England
14 Jan 16
Not enough symptoms here for any medic to make a diagnosis. All you can do is be there for him if he needs someone to talk to
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• United States
14 Jan 16
Well said! I was going to respond with something similar to what you said. There is not enough information.
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
well its a very serious decease but doesnt kill him. i was searching on the internet and it appeared fybermialgy but he told me that it isnt it. he is in pain everyday and he said that he needs vigilance for it not to get worse but it isnt any possibility that this decease can kill him HIV it isnt also. i cant really understand what it is.
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• United States
27 Jan 16
Again I cannot tell you what it is, out of my ability with not enough information, nor ever seeing him or symptoms . . . not fair to just blurt out possible conditions and then be wrong . . . @sweetloveforeve
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@boiboing (12772)
• Northampton, England
14 Jan 16
If he won't tell you then you should respect that. He doesn't want you to know and you risk your friendship by trying to guess. Let him have it his way.
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• Bangalore, India
15 Jan 16
yes but he should behave positively with no change in manners
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
yes i respect him a lot and im not insisting in knowing how to know what is the decease. im just checking on him to know if he is ok or not and he isnt telling me anything lately. so im very worried. maybe if i found out what that is i could help him
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
@abhinalstrikr thanks so much for understanding. even if someone finds out that is sick we shouldnt be away from our friends. and we should tell them how we feel like not to leave them so worried. even more if is your best friend
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@trivia79 (7889)
• El Segundo, California
15 Jan 16
Even if there is a doctor or nurse here, i think no one can identify it without checking your friend physically.
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• Portugal
16 Jan 16
i understand what you mean. but if i tell the symptoms maybe someone here can help me figure it out. i already saw one decease that could be but he told me that isnt that. i just wanted to help him feel better.
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@trivia79 (7889)
• El Segundo, California
18 Jan 16
@sweetloveforeve with the symptoms and few info you provided, they are not enough for anyone (nurse/doctor) to pinpoint the specific illness of your friend. There are a lot of possibilities with that symptoms and illness history. He should be checked by a doctor by now.
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• Portugal
26 Jan 16
@trivia79 he was already checked by a doctor and he knows what he has. but he isnt telling me. thats why im so worried about it.
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@Drosophila (16705)
• Ireland
14 Jan 16
I guess he should seek medical help, if he hasn't already done so.
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
he already did and he knows what is the decease he has. but he didnt tell me. and im worried with him but he isnt talking to me since almost a week. im super worried. he is my best friend and i love him.
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@Drosophila (16705)
• Ireland
15 Jan 16
@sweetloveforeve in that case there's not much you can do, other than wait around and let him know you intend to stick around. And let him make that choice.
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• Portugal
16 Jan 16
@Drosophila yes i already did that. i told him that if he needs me im there for him. i already did what i could. im just afraid of losing him you know. it would be really bad for me if i ended up being without him. cause he is a very close friend.
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@Rohvannyn (3118)
• United States
15 Jan 16
There are a lot of diseases that can do that. Autoimmune disorders on down. I'd need more information and even then it would only be a guess.
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• United States
27 Jan 16
Not really enough information, medical history or anything to go by and say yes he has so-and-so condition, or disease as you put it . . . But I do study nutritional medicine, anatomy, biology, chemistry, psychology and have a masters degree in psychology, so maybe I can help if I knew more about what you are trying to discern for your friend
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• Portugal
18 Mar 16
he just told me that he had a medical intoxication when he was younger and it made him stay with many health issues. he feels pain, he has schocks in his body, he said that the decease he has wont kill him but makes pain and if he isnt careful can make him have problems. i thought it was fibermialgy but he said it isnt that. he has also a lot of pain but isnt that. he has fever and headaches a lot.
• United States
18 Mar 16
@sweetloveforeve just keep him comfortable, exercising slowly and drinking plenty of good water eating fresh vegetables and fruit . . . I will send healing wishes to you !
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• Portugal
9 Oct 16
@enlightenedpsych2 thanks erica i wish one day he is able to tell me what he has until then i will just keep being sweet to him he needs care
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@Daljinder (21688)
• India
15 Jan 16
Visit him and talk to him about anything or everything except his illness. Don't pressure him. Friends usually couldn't hold back for long from their friends. He will break down soon enough. If he refuses to see you just give him space but let him know in other ways that you care for him and will be there for him.
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
thats what i been doing. but i talk to him, he read my messages because we are very far so he just reads the messages i send him but doesnt tell me anything since a few days already. so im confused. i dont know if he isnt ok. or if he just wants me away from him.
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@Daljinder (21688)
• India
16 Jan 16
@sweetloveforeve Maybe he needs time to accept his illness or maybe he doesn't want to worry you. Maybe he is just embarrassed. I know some people feel that way. Just keep lending him support he will come around soon. Be patient.
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• Portugal
16 Jan 16
@Daljinder thank you. yes i think he is very upset with what he found out. but he knows how worried i am he should at least message me telling me some news. i worry with him.
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@Shiva49 (13385)
• Singapore
27 Jan 16
The only way is to make a proper diagnosis of his present medical state. This will require a complete test of blood, urine and the functioning of vital organs - siva
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• Portugal
18 Mar 16
yes he already did all the tests. he knows what he has. he just didnt tell me what it is. thanks anyway for your reply.
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• United States
26 Jan 16
You have to have the name of a disease, no one could or should make an attempt to say what it is.
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• Portugal
9 Oct 16
Yes abby but he doesnt tell me what it is.he just gave some clues about what it makes him feel.thats why i asked if anyone here could tell me what it could be.just for me to have an idea and try to help him.
• Bangalore, India
15 Jan 16
respect your dedication its rare and few for friendship
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
thanks yes i worry a lot with my friends. and he is very important to me. i wish i knew what he has so i could help him feeling better.
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@Shavkat (63439)
• Philippines
15 Jan 16
It is bit lack of information my dear friend. The best thing to do is to consult the doctor and run some test. The determination of the real diagnosis of your friend will coming from his doctor. The result of the diagnostic tools would be the basis for everything. @Auntylou I agree with you. She should be the support system for his friend. Be patient enough to persuade her friend to cooperate especially with his medical condition right now.
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
he already knows what he has. his doctor told him.but he doesnt want to tell me what he has. he is not talking about it with anyone. neither with his family. but im his best friend and im worried. we live very far right now and if i dont know what he has is hard for me to help him.
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• Philippines
20 Jan 16
maybe he's doing you a favor and prefers to handle this problem on his own. I think it's best if doctors that lives closer in your country can help him, which is something he's probably doing now. if it's not common, i doubt any one here can help it these moment. Just be there when ever he needs you. have a nice day.
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• Portugal
26 Jan 16
yes im there always for him. because thats what friends do. but i wish he didnt have to stand it on his own you know? friends are there to support each other and i wanted to help him.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 16
@sweetloveforeve But he wants to. If you chose not to respect his decision, he will think you are just doing what you want and not his. He will hate you for it, it's best to pray for him. If it's a complicated disease, even if we know i doubt any one here in mylot can help. we have a mylotter here who trains nurse but that's about it. I hope your friend recovers.
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• Portugal
18 Mar 16
@Letranknight2015 thanks i hope he recovers too and you? how are you doing?
@Bluedoll (17063)
• Canada
29 Oct 16
Perhaps you can be a friend. It might be a good choice to leave the medical issues to the doctor and just deal with the person instead? Often with pain there can be changes in behavior. Changing the topic off of the medical problems can be helpful for the sick. I thought this was good basic article on chronic pain if only for basic background information.
Chronic pain is pain that lasts for at least 12 weeks. Learn about the causes, risk factors, and treatments for chronic pain.
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• Portugal
29 Oct 16
Yes we are best friends i avoid to talk about it with him because he doesnt like this matter. Anyway i just wanted to find out what he had so i could confort him and make him feel better
@Bluedoll (17063)
• Canada
29 Oct 16
@sweetloveforeve Knowing he doesn't want to talk about then I guess the thing to do is not even think about it unless he says something and then he may not want to talk for long. Maybe you don't need to know? Many pain related problems are related to our mind set. Asthma is one that can be made worse by concentrating on the problem. It is not that isn't real. It is real but it does have a direct association with our brain process. Chemical disorder brought on by meds can be a serious problem by itself so that getting the right balance is difficult. Even doctors need to constantly adjust what goes on with any changes in chemistry. People that are healthy have the advantage the body does this automatically. A lot can be said for hope and a desire to keep going forward for healing purposes. Finding any kind of joy will be appreciated. Keep in mind when it comes to pain even one small relief is a great blessing. One that healthy people take for granted. But you also need to feel good about you too so you can be a comfort. Try not worry too much or feel down because your friend is suffering?
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• Portugal
4 Nov 16
@Bluedoll thanks for your support i will try not to worry so much and distract him with another things
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@LeaPea2417 (21034)
• Toccoa, Georgia
15 Mar 16
Make sure he gets to a Doctor who can give him a full check up to see what is wrong.
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• Portugal
18 Mar 16
yes i guess he already went to a doctor. and he knows what his decease is. the problem is that he didnt tell me. and i like him and im worried about it. i know that the decease made him feel low and i want him happy. i want to be able to comfort him.
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• Bangalore, India
15 Jan 16
its confusion for me.i am neither medicine taught ,best thing is you should consult of course not the same doctor.try to heal him naturally .as he may be scared of medicines which is troubling him.try get rid of it
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• Portugal
15 Jan 16
no he has a serious decease and he needs medicines. and he goes to the hospital almost everyday and i want to know what is going on but he isnt telling me what is happening. thats why im scared. and im afraid of losing his friendship because he is very sad since he found out about this decease.
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@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Mar 16
He musT havehis reeasons for not telling you exactly what he has so I would be very patient with him and sooner or later he wll perhaps tell y himself.
• Portugal
9 Oct 16
Yes i will wait that he tells me what he has he trusted me a lot but i also know that to talk about his private life isnt easy so i will wait until he feels ready to do it.