Dirty Old Man!
By DianneN
@DianneN (246613)
United States
January 21, 2016 8:38am CST
This is Dr. James, M.D. (first name) and his wonderful, lovely, church going, choir singing wife.
We met them on our tour of Turkey, and spent some time dining and shopping together. I had developed a horrible cough, laryngitis, etc. which traveled around our group. Being a medical doctor, Dr. James always traveled with his little black bag. I let him examine me, and he gave me meds which cleared me up within three days. He caught the same thing.
My husband noticed him staring at me over dinner and when out and about. Actually, so did I. There is no harm in looking.
On our last evening of our trip, at a dinner dance with the group, everyone gave hugs, kisses, and said our goodbyes. We all had different flights to return home. I gave Dr. James a kiss on the cheek. He did so to me, hugged me, then ran his hands down the front of my silk top!
How awful! I turned red and backed away. Was I wrong in not saying something to him in front of his sweet wife? I told my husband and left the room. The party was over.
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@DianneN (246613)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@LadyDuck I didn't tell my husband until we returned to our room for the same reason. He was aggravated and perturbed, but is a very peace loving man. He would never have physically done anything, but he has an astounding vocabulary and may have left some harsh words - or not.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48908)
• United States
22 Jan 16
It would have been hard to resist the urge to smack him.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Good god, I'd have wolloped him one just out of reflex
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
@DianneN yep! His wife looked so sweet! That makes me 2x the doosh
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@DianneN (246613)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@Drosophila You are too funny. She was a true lady, in every sense of the word.
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
Sometimes you need to call the out...this situation I don't know what I would have done. At my daughters wedding, my brother inlaw was inappropriate. I wanted to cause a scene, but decided not to spoil my daughters day. I hold my brother inlaw at arms length now. He doesn't get a second chance.
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@DianneN (246613)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@Morleyhunt I don't blame you! Some men! It is worse when they are in the family!!!!!!
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
@DianneN he was almost to drunk to stand up, but my husband backs me up...I try to keep him at a distance. We decided that in the interest of family harmony I have kept my mouth shut, but if ever he steps over the line again....all bets are off.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
21 Jan 16
@DianneN So,all said and done he proved he was just a dirty old man!
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
21 Jan 16
@DianneN Such a thing to mar your memories of the tour.
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@DianneN (246613)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@silvermist It won't mar my memories of the trip. It will make me remember it all the more.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
21 Jan 16
Was he even a real doctor, that is what I would have been thinking. Too bad you couldnt have given him a good telling off.
That is absolutely appalling.
I would not have had the composure to not say anything.
He would have been running from me but that is my personality.
I am not saying you should have done anything different however, we all handle things differently.
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@DianneN (246613)
• United States
21 Jan 16
He was a real doctor, but now I realize he was also a dirty old man and once a dirty young man, too, it appears. I doubt that he touched his female patients, or he would have lost his license years ago. Then again, who knows? I just couldn't let his sweet wife know what he did. Ignorance is bliss, I guess.
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@vandana7 (98787)
• India
22 Jan 16
Without resorting to such public exposure how do we restrain such behavior. After all, this is the least she can do to get it out of her system, and possibly prevent another person being troubled. Personally though, I might never have given a hug, or kiss on cheek, just a handshake or our simple namaste. But that is cultural difference. Hugs are only for little children, less than 4 year old.
@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
In the past I have ignored dirty old men and their touching, now, I will probably be vocal, in my old age...if it ever happens to me in my old age.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
OH I am so sorry that happened to you. You showed great control but spared him from being outed. I wonder how many more people he had done that to or will do that too. My advice is that you should have kicked him in the nuts then he could have treated himself from his little black bag. What a jerk!
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
Only you can decide if you're wrong or right.
If he's a genuine doctor (which he may not be) it may be worth putting in a complaint to whatever his governing body is.
If he did that to you I'm sure he's done it before and will do it again...maybe if you said something officially he'd be disciplined.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
@DianneN I've thought about it and I think you should complain somehow.
He may do much worse to someone who is maybe sedated in his doctors surgery.
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