Dirty Old Man!

@DianneN (66517)
United States
January 21, 2016 8:38am CST
This is Dr. James, M.D. (first name) and his wonderful, lovely, church going, choir singing wife. We met them on our tour of Turkey, and spent some time dining and shopping together. I had developed a horrible cough, laryngitis, etc. which traveled around our group. Being a medical doctor, Dr. James always traveled with his little black bag. I let him examine me, and he gave me meds which cleared me up within three days. He caught the same thing. My husband noticed him staring at me over dinner and when out and about. Actually, so did I. There is no harm in looking. On our last evening of our trip, at a dinner dance with the group, everyone gave hugs, kisses, and said our goodbyes. We all had different flights to return home. I gave Dr. James a kiss on the cheek. He did so to me, hugged me, then ran his hands down the front of my silk top! How awful! I turned red and backed away. Was I wrong in not saying something to him in front of his sweet wife? I told my husband and left the room. The party was over.
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@LadyDuck (131134)
• Switzerland
21 Jan 16
I know how you felt Dianne, this is something that happened to me and I did the same, I said nothing, even if those men deserve a slap.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
I think we were too shocked at the time to make a rational decision, except I had just hugged and kissed his wife goodbye. She was right next to him saying goodbye to my husband.
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@LadyDuck (131134)
• Switzerland
21 Jan 16
@DianneN I agree, I was too shocked to have a reaction and I also wanted to avoid a strong reaction from my husband.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@LadyDuck I didn't tell my husband until we returned to our room for the same reason. He was aggravated and perturbed, but is a very peace loving man. He would never have physically done anything, but he has an astounding vocabulary and may have left some harsh words - or not.
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@Drosophila (16774)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Good god, I'd have wolloped him one just out of reflex
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
I should have! He deserved it big time!
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@Drosophila (16774)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
@DianneN yep! His wife looked so sweet! That makes me 2x the doosh
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@Drosophila You are too funny. She was a true lady, in every sense of the word.
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@PainsOnSlate (19771)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
In the past I have ignored dirty old men and their touching, now, I will probably be vocal, in my old age...if it ever happens to me in my old age.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
Lol!!!!
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@AnneEJ (5084)
• Dollard-Des-Ormeaux, Quebec
21 Jan 16
You probably did the best thing. After all, making a scene would not have helped, and you probably will never see him again.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
I agree. Thanks, Anne.
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@marlina (66572)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
Is he aware that his photo is here?
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
Nope.
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@salonga (28078)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
He really is not just old but dirty. Good that you did that to him. If I encountered such I'd slap him right there and then and would tell everyone around what he did.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
22 Jan 16
I just couldn't with his wife sitting there. I respected her too much, but I really wanted to smack him hard!
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@salonga (28078)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
@DianneN How sad for a respectable wife to have a maniac husband.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
22 Jan 16
@salonga That is so true. I wondered if she knows how he is and turns a blind eye.
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@SIMPLYD (76557)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
Oh my ! That's one dirty old man indeed ! I really don't know how i will react if ever i was in your stead . Maybe i will just do just what you have done , tell my husband about it .
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
22 Jan 16
That was all I could do at the time. Sheesh!
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@SIMPLYD (76557)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
@DianneN And i think you don't want to create a scene by getting angry at him .
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
22 Jan 16
@SIMPLYD I didn't want to upset his poor wife.
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@silvermist (17124)
• India
21 Jan 16
@DianneN So,all said and done he proved he was just a dirty old man!
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
Nice, but dirty.
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@silvermist (17124)
• India
21 Jan 16
@DianneN Such a thing to mar your memories of the tour.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@silvermist It won't mar my memories of the trip. It will make me remember it all the more.
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@Morleyhunt (17861)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
Sometimes you need to call the out...this situation I don't know what I would have done. At my daughters wedding, my brother inlaw was inappropriate. I wanted to cause a scene, but decided not to spoil my daughters day. I hold my brother inlaw at arms length now. He doesn't get a second chance.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
Things like this need to be put in perspective. Him, I will never see again. Your BIL is another story. Egads!!!!!!!
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@Morleyhunt (17861)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
@DianneN he was almost to drunk to stand up, but my husband backs me up...I try to keep him at a distance. We decided that in the interest of family harmony I have kept my mouth shut, but if ever he steps over the line again....all bets are off.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@Morleyhunt I don't blame you! Some men! It is worse when they are in the family!!!!!!
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@Mike197602 (13379)
• Worcester, England
21 Jan 16
Only you can decide if you're wrong or right. If he's a genuine doctor (which he may not be) it may be worth putting in a complaint to whatever his governing body is. If he did that to you I'm sure he's done it before and will do it again...maybe if you said something officially he'd be disciplined.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
He is an official doctor. I am sure he's done it before. However, I couldn't call him to task in front of his wife. She would have been more mortified than I.
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@Mike197602 (13379)
• Worcester, England
21 Jan 16
@DianneN I've thought about it and I think you should complain somehow. He may do much worse to someone who is maybe sedated in his doctors surgery.
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@EddieHands (35457)
• United States
22 Jan 16
@Mike197602 Yes I think he should be reported!
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Was he even a real doctor, that is what I would have been thinking. Too bad you couldnt have given him a good telling off. That is absolutely appalling. I would not have had the composure to not say anything. He would have been running from me but that is my personality. I am not saying you should have done anything different however, we all handle things differently.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
He was a real doctor, but now I realize he was also a dirty old man and once a dirty young man, too, it appears. I doubt that he touched his female patients, or he would have lost his license years ago. Then again, who knows? I just couldn't let his sweet wife know what he did. Ignorance is bliss, I guess.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@DianneN I could.
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@Tampa_girl7 (22665)
• United States
22 Jan 16
It would have been hard to resist the urge to smack him.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
22 Jan 16
I was so shocked that I slithered away. Holy moly!
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@jaboUK (52057)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 16
You did right in my opinion - why upset his wife? (I hope she never stumbles across this post)!
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
22 Jan 16
She won't - lol!
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@fawkes62 (1354)
• United States
21 Jan 16
I don't know what I would do in that type of situation, but I probably wouldn't say anything either. At least you will never have to see him again.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
That is exactly how I feel.
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@boiboing (12261)
• Northampton, England
21 Jan 16
I'm not sure it's entirely appropriate to 'out' him on a public website - though he's a dirty bugger and deserves it.
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@vandana7 (58901)
• India
22 Jan 16
Without resorting to such public exposure how do we restrain such behavior. After all, this is the least she can do to get it out of her system, and possibly prevent another person being troubled. Personally though, I might never have given a hug, or kiss on cheek, just a handshake or our simple namaste. But that is cultural difference. Hugs are only for little children, less than 4 year old.
@scheng1 (24850)
• Singapore
22 Jan 16
I think his wife probably suspects but dare not accuses him outright without proof. Too bad that he treated your cough. If not, your husband could have give him a good talking to.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
22 Jan 16
I agree with you on everything!
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@garymarsh6 (12739)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
OH I am so sorry that happened to you. You showed great control but spared him from being outed. I wonder how many more people he had done that to or will do that too. My advice is that you should have kicked him in the nuts then he could have treated himself from his little black bag. What a jerk!
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
LOL!!!!!!!!! Coulda, shoulda, woulda
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@Elizaby (3510)
• Pensacola, Florida
21 Jan 16
If you noticed he was staring (or googling) over meals I probably wouldn't have gotten that colse to say goodbye and hopefully you don't don't see hi on future trips
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
Looking is fine, but not what he did. I doubt that our paths will ever cross again, and if so, my husband will deal with him!
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@Marcyaz (35954)
• United States
21 Jan 16
How terrible to think he was nothing but a dirty old man.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
And we had such a good time throughout the trip with him. He was fun and bright.
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@amnabas (9952)
• Karachi, Pakistan
21 Jan 16
That's strange how could he .... I think the old men are Unpredictable.
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@DianneN (66517)
• United States
21 Jan 16
I certainly wouldn't want my husband to be so "unpredictable"!!!! Not that my husband is an old man! Lol!
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