I Miss Her! Part Four
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (158680)
Boise, Idaho
January 21, 2016 9:25pm CST
Another aspect of this bizarre story is that I established a relationship with her daughter and with her mom while I was staying there. I am embarrassed and mortified. I wonder what they must think of me. Her daughter tried to email me one time and she felt bad and missed me. She had to stop because of her mom. It is all so sad and unneeded. Where she got this idea and why she would believe for one second that this person that she had known for thirty plus years would steal from her is so weird. This is why I can't seem to put this to rest. Every once in awhile I think of her, remember something we did together or some silly thing we said and I just can't believe she would come up with this scenario. Why? I know she has had a hard life but who has always been there for her? Me! I know she had a lot of stress with her daughter being sick and her stupid job but, I was there for her and was helping relieve these strains Or, I thought I was. To just suddenly turn on me like this is so weird. Was she mad that I left? I was still there for her.
I wish I could lay this to rest and move on and, for a time I can. But then I start thinking about it again and wondering. It's like this weird dream you keep having Can't figure it out but it keeps coming back to you. Thanks for listening.
If you missed the other parts here is Part One:
Those who were members of this site back in the early days may remember in 2009-10 when I posted a blog about the demise of a freindship after being accused of...
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
23 Jan 16
no i know how things can bug us years later, I have a a few lost friends that things ended odd or poorly and I dont know why, or I do know and couldnt fix, or they made the rift no matter what I try. it's sad, and it still hurts.
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 16
It's hard to move on when I still wonder what in the world made her think I would do such a thing. It is insulting for her to think this to begin with. I just don't understand.
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt ...And she may not even get how much this hurt you. She may not understand at all.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
25 Jan 16
@celticeagle and you may never know. but I can emphasize, my best friend chose frienship with my x over me...she was my cousin. blood family. that one floored me, and to this day she will hardly talk to me. I finally gave up and stopped trying, the only person hurt was me
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
23 Jan 16
Wow, I was hoping for a happy ending or at least a comfortable parting but I see that isn't going to happen...yet. I won't suggest it will ever get better, but you have to know, you were the accused and she didn't trust you. It's on her shoulders to make things right. You can go through the rest of your life knowing you did nothing wrong but she chose to think you are guilty, so it's up to her decide which way this goes. I went through something similar when my youngest child was told by my best friend to not listen to his dad....what?..it ended a long and happy friendship.
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 16
You are so right. When she contacted me the second time I thought she had realized how outlandish her accusation was. I thought she would apologized and that would be it. She justified herself all over the place and never apologized. I told her this and she felt all that justification was her apology. But, there was never a '"I'm sorry". See how twisted and weird this is? She wanted our friendship back and the fun we had but she still thought I could have possibly stole those items. What kind of friendship is that? Nothing I want to be a party to.
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@jaboUK (64362)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 16
I can understand how difficult it is to put this to rest, the injustice of it must really hurt you. Especially if you don't know if her mom and her daughter think you capable of stealing.
I don't know what else to say to you - sending you a hug.
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
I thank you. I needed the hug. I get too caught up in my thoughts I think.
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
27 Jan 16
@celticeagle One of the symptoms of depression is ruminating over things. Try to let this go.
@Tampa_girl7 (48886)
• United States
23 Jan 16
I hope that you can get some closure one day.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
23 Jan 16
OH dear I have read all four parts starting here and from 1-3. She has hurt you terribly and even if she said she did not believe it to be you the damage and harm has already been done. You are still hurting terribly for her to even think that of you. You were a loyal honest and decent friend but she has broken that trust.
Hard as it may seem this is a chapter in your life that is truly over now there is no going back. You will always have it in the back of your mind that she could accuse you of something like that again.
I am so sorry that you are left feeling hurt and still missing your friend. I hope that perhaps by some chance she reads this and realises what pain she has caused you. Having given so much of you to her and her daughter you know deep down you are right and she is wrong. I hope you can try and get over it and heal yourself. It is a horrible thing to be accused of. I don't know what to say to you but have a hug from me too.
Try not to dwell on the bad things about your friendship and think of the nice times you did have. I am sure there are others who value your friendship.
Big Hugs
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 16
She wouldn't have any reason to read this. She is pretty weird cookie. I don't understand I recall a lot of good memories we had. This just seems to fuel my continuing to question why she would think this of me. It really bugs me! Surely over all these years she knows I wouldn't do such a think. I stayed at her home in other places over the years and nothing like this ever came up. It is just so bizarre.
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
23 Jan 16
I read all parts of your story and it really hurts when you are accused of something you didn't do. And what hurts more is when the other person doesn't even apologize after all those years. Hmmmmm
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jan 16
If your friendship is one that is important to you, you need to put this ugly incident aside. Would it ever be 100% as it once was, probably not. But, if you cherish her and her daughter, it may be worthwhile for you to try again.
My friend was shocked and it showed on her face, the day I approached her in a parking lot and gave her a big hug. She didn't know what to say to me. Like I said, our relationship will never be what it once was, but we are friends.
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 16
No, it would never be at 100% again. I would never feel comfortable. And what she wants from me I could never give her again. It was the comfortableness I felt with her that allowed me to be silly and funny. I couldn't go there again.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Jan 16
I had that happen once. prayed about it and that worked.
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
I don't pray. I have meditated on it. Still no answers.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
25 Jan 16
After reading each of these parts I have to conclude that you are spending too much time thinking about the past. I am a little older than you and I know that when there is more behind us than in front of us we tend to think back. However too much time has lapsed and too much distrust sown, so it is time you moved back into the present and worked out some great activities that will fill your days with pleasure and make you feel young at heart again.
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
27 Jan 16
very well said @41CombedaleRoad. We must live for each day
@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
She still thought, when we communicated last, that I might have stolen from her. So, to me, there is no reason to even try.
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
27 Jan 16
Try to let this go. There is no good reason for her mistrustful thoughts and she does not empathise enough to see how she hurt you. there are nicer people out there to befriend
@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 16
I no longer want to be either. I helped her in a lot of ways. Her daughter too. It's her loss. I think I was a good friend and never once did I appear to be a thief. I don't steal!
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