My son is difficult but he's sweet
January 28, 2016 8:05pm CST
As a mother I find myself constantly wanting to pull my hair out. My son isn't an easy child, he is actually quite difficult. He has to learn everything the hard way. Just the other day he decided he didn't want to get dressed for school or eat, so I had to hold him down to get him dressed. He whined that I was hurting him, because he was constantly pulling his arms and legs out of his clothes as I was trying to get them in, I told him if he'd cooperate it wouldn't hurt, I'd never intentionally hurt my kid, but he was being difficult and I had to have him dressed for school. He then refused to eat and put his coat on, and here in Ohio it has been pretty cold, but I had enough. I told him if he didn't want to eat he could go hungry, and if he didn't want to put on his coat he didn't have to,I figured he'd learn that his actions have consequences, and he learned. About a second of being outside he decided he wanted his hat and coat on. He makes things more difficult than they have to be. Something that could have been over in 2 minutes took about a half an hour, because everything was a fight, and he went to school hungry, because he decided to be stubborn. When he got to school his teacher asked how he was and he said "Not good." Then she asked why, and he told her he was hungry, and I told her he refused to eat. She was very understanding and told him that they have snack, and that when we don't eat we do get to be hungry, and that maybe next time when mommy tells him to eat he'll eat. The rest of the day went relatively smoothly after that, but my point is it really didn't have to be that difficult, he made it that way. He learns everything the hard way. He does these things that infuriate me, but at the end of the day I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world, because his good qualities far outweigh the bad. My son is always the first to stop and see if someone is OK, he hates seeing someone hurt. A year or so ago I had him enrolled in soccer, and he refused to play, he'd stand in the middle of the field and glare at me, and no matter how much bribing I did he wouldn't play, and I would get so frustrated with him, but then a kid fell down on the middle of the field, and my son stopped to see if he was OK and then helped him up, he was the only one to stop. Then just last week we were at birthday party for his friend, and said little boy was on the floor crying, and I look over and Brayland walks over and checks on him, and helps him up off the floor. I don't care if my son grows up to be a pro athlete, I don't care if he's stubborn, but I do care about whether or not he's a good person, and he is. He is one of the sweetest most caring little boys I know. Despite his moods and his difficult behavior, he's a good person, and that means more to me than just about anything else. My son is stubborn and difficult, but that's because he knows what he wants, and he doesn't want to settle for anything less, and while at this point in time those things are a pain to deal with, in the future they could possibly work in his favor, of course he's going to have to learn how to rein in the temper, and learn to compromise, but right now he's learning. Yes he is difficult, yes he's stubborn, and he does have to learn things the hard way, but he's also the same kid who stops what he's doing to check and make sure those around him are OK, and knowing that makes me proud. If my son thinks I'm sad he comes over to me and he'll climb on my lap and give me hugs and kisses and he'll give me one of his amazing smiles, and despite how crappy I feel, he can make my day brighter. No matter how mad I may get at him, he knows how to make it disappear in minutes. I don't think I've ever been able to stay angry at him for more than 5 minutes. At the end of the day I'm so proud of him. I know that while my son may be more difficult than most, he's also more caring than most, and that makes me prouder than just about anything else. I have a smart son and I have a caring son.
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29 Jan 16
Me too, I wasn't sure how they'd react, but thankfully she seemed to understand. Everyone is so quick to condemn parents anymore. I get tired of fighting with him over everything all the time, so I've come to the conclusion that if he's going to refuse to do something as long as it doesn't hurt him I'm just going to let him have it his way, and show him why exactly it is I have him do the things I have him do. We wear coats because it's cold, we eat when it's time to eat so we won't be hungry later. It seems to be the only way my stubborn kid learns. I haven't had much trouble with either of those things since.