My friend and her two fathers - the conclusion

@boiboing (12219)
Northampton, England
February 9, 2016 10:10am CST
My previous two posts told you about my friend Lorna and her hunt for her birth father. Once she found him, he rejected her totally. This was about 8 or 9 years ago. In the meantime Lorna's mother died of Ovarian cancer, believing her sickness to be some kind of karmic payback for having cheated on her husband and kept the secret from her daughter all those years. Lorna has made some progress getting to know her aunt and her cousin, and learned that her birth father was no longer claiming that he was nothing to do with her. The problem had been that he has an insanely jealous wife who blew a gasket when she found out he'd fathered a daughter – despite it being many years before they met and married. It turned out that the email he had sent Lorna when she first approached him was actually written by the jealous wife. Two weeks ago Lorna was staying with her 'daddy' – the man who brought her up as his daughter – when she received a call from her bio-aunt to say that Nigel had died of kidney complications caused by his diabetes. Daddy could see she was upset but she couldn't tell him why under the circumstances. She told him that somebody very dear to her had died and he said "Well we've all got to go sometime". This was absolutely not what she wanted to hear. Shortly before he died, Nigel told his sister how much he'd always wished he had a daughter instead of just his three sons. She pointed out that he had a daughter – Lorna – and he said that maybe the time had come to stand up to his wife and meet her. He asked Vicky (the aunt) to engineer a meeting next time he was visiting her. Sadly he didn't live long enough for that to happen. The jealous wife is now in such a bad temper that she's even blocking his sister from the funeral and refusing to talk to anybody. I do wonder if the 'meeting' story is true or if it's just the kindness of Vicky trying to leave Lorna with a good feeling about the father she never met. Either way, I hope she believes it whether it's true or not. So that's it. Thanks for sticking with me through all three episodes of this true tale. The names are all changed but the story is entirely true. I guess it's up to you to decide if it's a happy or a sad ending.
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@Drosophila (16742)
• Ireland
9 Feb 16
I wonder if the jealous wife part is true. Really it's difficult to tell.
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@boiboing (12219)
• Northampton, England
9 Feb 16
Yes, I'm sure it is.
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@Drosophila (16742)
• Ireland
9 Feb 16
@boiboing ya maybe she could try to get to know her half-brothers? Mmm such a sad case
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@jaboUK (52717)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 16
The aunt sounds a nice person, even if she made that bit up. It seems a sad story to me. A happy ending would have her father welcoming her into his life, and him not dying, of course.
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@kiran8 (15364)
• Mangalore, India
9 Feb 16
To me it sounds like a sad story although I have not gone through the previous two discussions I can understand what your friend is going through ! I guess it is best to see the positive side and move on ..
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@Jessicalynnt (47798)
• Centralia, Missouri
9 Feb 16
if it isnt true, it's a really nice attempt to leave Lorna with something better, if bittersweet.
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@MALUSE (36947)
• Germany
9 Feb 16
One must wish the plague on the woman's father's wife.
@boiboing (12219)
• Northampton, England
9 Feb 16
I don't curse anyone like that. I don't think I need to. She will make her own misery.
@Fleura (7053)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 16
Well I guess that partially answered her question about family health problems! I wonder if he really did want to meet her. Has she ever had any contact with her half brothers or has their mother blocked that?
@shshiju (10197)
• Cochin, India
10 Feb 16
It' truly a sad story. It's Loma's right to know about her birth father.
@LadyDuck (141407)
• Switzerland
10 Feb 16
It does not really matter if it is true, it is important that she believes that his real father finally wanted to meet her. I am sure this is important for her.
@JudyEv (115607)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb 16
This is a sad story. It is strange the twists and turns that can occur in a situation.