To Be Needed? Ever think that of Older People?

@Hatley (164654)
Garden Grove, California
February 23, 2016 4:47pm CST
Most everyone wants to retire one day but you really should plan that before you get to retirement age. I was forced to retire f rom the library at age79 and i felt discarded, thrown out like an old worn out shoe. Did you younger people ever think we old fogeys need to be needed?I felt so isolated as we moved to a new apt complex just as I was retired. I found the old mylot and i found i was needed to give advice to just talk with others and I really did well 'there too, making at times thirty dollars a m onth, We all want to be needed no matter who we are.
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@celticeagle (118255)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Feb 16
I think I might be a bit different than the average. When I was a small child I was made to stay in the house with my 96 year old great grandmother and to keep her entertained while my grandmother was working in the garden. I often made up stories and pretended I was reading from the Reader's Digest. I also insisted on helping my grandfather paint the house and garage. So, I have a different respect for those 'old fogeys' than the average person might.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
I have sensed that Celtic Eagle. I found mylot as I could not take headqu arters up on comng back to work as my left arm was and is pretty useless.so I mylotted and had a ball and still am lol.
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@celticeagle (118255)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Feb 16
@Hatley ...How did you hurt your arm? Glad you still enjoy Mylot. I do too for the most part.
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@AmbiePam (49078)
• United States
24 Feb 16
I love older people, and can't imagine why others don't have the same respect and admiration.
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• United States
24 Feb 16
They better not force me to retire cause as long as I am engaging in both mental and physical exercise plus being around other sentient beings, I will keep improving and never deteriorate before my time
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• United States
24 Feb 16
Aw that is just darn bad luck, so sorry @Hatley
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
@enlightenedpsych2 yes t really was as the headquarters wanted me back but i was no longer able to do what was needed so I c ame here to mylot
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• United States
24 Feb 16
Well there is a bright side, right ? You can now read all the books you want without having to reach way up high or get a step ladder to find or put away , yes ? @Hatley
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• Grand Junction, Colorado
23 Feb 16
That is awful that someone made you feel that way. I'm glad that you found mylot and were able to give out advise and feel needed again. No one should be made to feel unneeded or unappreciated. Many retired people turn to volunteer work to feel needed/appreciated again, many non profit organizations are in desperate need of volunteers. I hope to go that route when I retire, volunteering to a worthy cause.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
yes I did s ome voulenteering too but my left arm made it pretty near impossible o connue so went back to the old ,mylot
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• Grand Junction, Colorado
24 Feb 16
@Hatley that's awful about your arm and I agree with celticeagle vitamin supplements are needed to strengthen your bones. I'm glad you found and still enjoy being on mylot.
@AnneEJ (5013)
• Dollard-Des-Ormeaux, Quebec
24 Feb 16
I retired early, but I have always found something to keep me busy.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
when I had that all and smashed my left shoulder jo in I became unableto lift mylef arm high enough to shelvebook nor even comb my hair Iwas ambidextroud but no more.so I found mylot, and i helped other s and I did well s meimes making a dollar a da y on the old mylot lol
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@Teep11 (7067)
• United States
23 Feb 16
It's nice to be needed. We want to feel appreciated and felt as if we have worth.I'm sorry you felt that way when you retired. You're writing so that keeps you going @Hatley.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
yes I love it that here i can share what i write and so metimes even help someone too mylotting is reall y fun
@salonga (28016)
• Philippines
24 Feb 16
Yes we do want to be needed, we do want to feel we still belong and old age should not hinder that.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
Yes we all want to be needed to make a difference and it should not ever really stop
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@DWDavis (10771)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
24 Feb 16
I understand what you mean, but I am looking forward to being not quite so needed. 80+ kids a day needing your reassurance, attention, and approval, before you even get to the teaching, can be exhausting, but I wouldn't trade it for anything right now.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
I was the same way when I was a nurses aide I might have complained b ut I loved it and it was my life them
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@mammots (3279)
• Philippines
23 Feb 16
Its good that you found mylot Here in my country our grandparents are very much valued. They are most often tasked to take care of the little ones and they enjoy it.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
yes know in some c ountries we old folks are valued here we get shunted off into retirement centers oh of course that was not the thing with me my son had lost his job co uld not find ano ather one for months and i was retired and brokes had to go smeplace so here it was lolbut my lot has been my salvation really
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@mammots (3279)
• Philippines
24 Feb 16
@Hatley Thats the saddest reality about growing old in the US. After working so hard for almost all your lifetime you'll just be placed in a home and be forgotten
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
@mammots but at least my son comes to see me every week and my best friend also phone s me most ever y day.
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@jstory07 (67105)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Feb 16
I need all people that are older than me with respect. They have lots of knowledge to share with all of us. I used to like the stories that my Dad told me. History is what he was telling me and very interesting.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
My mom told me lots about her childhood and my grandpa did the same he lived wth us and I loved that. for a person who only went to the 8 th grade he was in credibly intelligent
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@jstory07 (67105)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Feb 16
@Hatley Life is education to
@Tampa_girl7 (25693)
• United States
24 Feb 16
I think that we all need someone in our life.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
yes indeed we all need someone me I have myson and my b est fr iend too .
@Platespinner (16494)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
24 Feb 16
A good reminder! However, at the moment, I'm still in a phase of life where I wish I was needed a little less!
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
yes I remember when I w as a nurses aide how I had to wor k extra shifts b eca use someone w as ill or just did not show up. b ut I did love m y j ob.
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• Midland, Michigan
24 Feb 16
Wow you did well here when you first began. I bet that was nice especially after not making much anymore on bubblews? Even when people do plan on retiring, they may not plan as well as they could. Many consider their finances, but they don't consider what may happen if they can't live in their own homes any longer or have to rely on their children for housing, or support of any other kind. I'm resigned that I may need to work until I'm seventy, although maybe it won't need to be quite that long. Just long enough to get fully out of debt. I may still have my mortgage payment, but if that's all I have it may work okay.I'm hoping that before then, I can have that payment cut in half at least to make things more manageable. I'm glad you're enjoying yourself here, Patsie, but sorry about the loss you took when ousted from your job.
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@Morleyhunt (19750)
• Canada
23 Feb 16
Everyone needs to be needed, but I have days I wish I was not so needed.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
when i was younger I used to wo rk as a nurses aide so I know jus what you mean sometmes i had o workl an extra shift they were short of help
@AmbiePam (49078)
• United States
24 Feb 16
YOU are priceless. You definitely give out great advice, and you are a joy. We just need to hide any money you make from this site.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 16
es I know I justpaid two months phone b ill withe the 20 dollars I made from mylot last month. that missing one hundred dollars ssi money is going to make a problem getting my cable bill paid.Now I keep my handbad on em and at nght I put my billfold under my pillow.
@sharon6345 (125806)
• United States
24 Feb 16
That is exactly how I felt when I had to leave my job. I was very young and told I could not work again. I got on disability which is a very low amount and could not make it last. Now,I learned to hustle and survive and it is great.
@rashkhan (144)
• Delhi, India
24 Feb 16
I live with my in-laws and I am happy about it. I feel we need them more than they need us at this age. I love to see my kids run around their grandparents listening to stories and their life experiences. I believe when kids spend time with parents, grandparents kids learn a lot about family, what its like to stay connected. These experienced old people are like the roots of our family tree, if detached the tree would not survive. They knit each and every member of the family and extended family closely. They are and will always be needed for their unconditional love and their experience.
• United States
24 Feb 16
I couldn't wait to quit work which we did when I was 53...I worked 35 years and it was time (15 years ago) to stop work, move south and enjoy life.
@silvermist (20100)
• India
24 Feb 16
@Hatley You have put forward a very important aspect of old age.We all want to be needed.(By the way,you do not sound like an old fogey).
@nanette64 (17612)
• Fairfield, Texas
24 Feb 16
I was forced into retirement at 55 because of spinal injuries @Hatley . I do work part time from home for the local newspaper but other than that, I live alone with my critters and just pass each day as it comes.
@Jessicalynnt (47872)
• Centralia, Missouri
24 Feb 16
honestly I have no doubt you could still do that job just as fine. everyone needs to be needed, you are right