Why do people do this?

United States
February 26, 2016 1:24am CST
We have some friends that every time you invite them out to dinner, movie or whatever, they always bring their adult children or other friends along with them. Is this common? I'd never think of asking other people to tag along or I'd at least ask if it was ok first. What do you think?
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@sharon6345 (118264)
• United States
26 Feb 16
If I were to invite a friend I would first ask if they had child care to go out for the night. if not I would tell them another night would be best. I don't invite people with kids to my house though. I take pride in home and some people don't teach their kids how to act indoors. I don't want anything broken here at all. I am not moving anything from the tables either.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
I'd understand if they had little kids, but these are grown adult kids that no longer live at home.
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@Marty1 (31956)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
27 Feb 16
We don't have too many friends with young kids. Just my nephew who is a quiet angel. And my cousins kids who are all sweethearts exceptsometimes one can't come as he is in the navy for training so his parents wouldn't have to pay for college. His mother was very upset but he insisted he would not have them pay for college.I admire him!
@sharon6345 (118264)
• United States
28 Feb 16
@Marty1 That is a good choice and I wish him the best with it.
@Platespinner (16533)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
26 Feb 16
Not something I would ever do, and something that I would find decidedly rude.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
Me either.
@Marty1 (31956)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
27 Feb 16
Well, I do think they should ask but maybe their babysitter bailed out at the last moment.
@MGjhaud (20749)
• Philippines
26 Feb 16
well i guess its common if youre friends are married and have kids. normally they would tag along kids. if friends bring other friends without ur knowing, i somehow dont like it too. it'll change ur plans sometimes or cant share too much in front of an unknown person or someone u havent invited.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
I'd be OK with it if they had little kids, I'd understand, but not grown adult kids.
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@Susan2015 (20154)
• United States
26 Feb 16
Unless you invite them, they should not just assume they have been invited.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
I agree
@Marty1 (31956)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
27 Feb 16
@susanz if they can't get a baby sitter they should at least ask. Or have a time like my parents did when my sister and I were re little.my dad went out every Wednesday night and my mom watched us and moment out every Thursday they both went without us kids. Sometimes my dad had to work so my neighbor who went out with my mom and aunt and my godmother her husband would let me come over their house as I was friends with their kids. He would watch us kids because he was watching his kids and he is on e of the most Christian men I know! Never drinks or swears. Just a sweetheart like my dad!
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@avi256 (4093)
• Pune, India
26 Feb 16
There could be two ways of looking at it. Either they are too close to you so they dont shy away from bring others along. Or may be they are opportunist, who want to make best use of occasion.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
After a while we just got used to it and just let it go.
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@avi256 (4093)
• Pune, India
27 Feb 16
@lilnana1111 Do we have chocice?
@AkoPinay (11666)
• Philippines
26 Feb 16
Here in the Philippines only those unprofessionals or uneducated Filipinos do that.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
I'm not sure why these friends do it?
@LadyDuck (147089)
• Switzerland
26 Feb 16
In our country this is not common and it is considered extremely rude. None of our friends would bring their adult children without asking first.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
Well at least I know it's not just me, I feel it's rude too.
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@LadyDuck (147089)
• Switzerland
26 Feb 16
@lilnana1111 Yes, it is rude, if you wanted to invite also their children you would have mentioned. Some people do not know what good manners are.
@Marty1 (31956)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
26 Feb 16
@lilnana1111 I agree it is rude too. The situation never happened to me but I would feel offended if they didn't ask first. Maybe the person who invited them didn't like their older children or friends It could ruin a whole night!
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@anh101 (1382)
27 Feb 16
I dont go with mom or any relatives when they have an eat out. Actually, this happens a lot in our country, no matter where, city or countryside. Bringing children can be seen most in newly married couples who has kids under 10. Most of the children dont want to join eat out with parents's friends also when they start understanding things. For newly meet couples, the girl mostly bring along some of her friends if the boyfriend invites her for the first eat out. This may be still happening but will be no more soon since people becoming more individual (Please take this as an Asian thinking) But i was once again learning a new thing that in your country people also bring children with them when they have eating out (actually i didnt think that)
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• United States
27 Feb 16
No, most people in our country don't bring their adult kids with them, unless they are invited.
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@anh101 (1382)
27 Feb 16
@lilnana1111 yeah, thats good. Me too, if i am a mom i wont bring them either
26 Feb 16
I think if i wanted to bring someone extra, I'd mention it first.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
Yes, that's the right thing to do.
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• United States
26 Feb 16
they bring folks 'long with 'em?? how truly odd's that? fer myself, i'd find that a bit beyond rude :(
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• United States
26 Feb 16
I think it's kind of rude too.
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@Daljinder (21027)
• India
26 Feb 16
In our culture it is considered disrespectful when someone asks you to just bring only this number of people with you... lol So, basically everyone is invited... so get prepared...
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• United States
26 Feb 16
I'd understand it if it was their culture.
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@mk6195 (65)
• Bilaspur, India
26 Feb 16
Yes the civilized way is to ask if they could bring a someone along first. Its also because the host will be making arrangements for Invited people and will be embarrassed if not able to serve all the people well.... In India its customary to bring their friends and family and we welcome it with open heart... Therefore when we Invite 10 we prepare for 20..........
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@DianneN (74051)
• United States
29 Feb 16
I never heard such a thing!!!!! When I make plans for dinner or dinner and a movie with friends, it is with them only. If they had guests, they wouldn't make plans, but rather choose a different day. I think that is not only awful, but rude as well!
@jaboUK (53408)
• United Kingdom
27 Feb 16
That's very inconsiderate of them - I would make it clear next time that you are only inviting them
• United States
27 Feb 16
I think you need to make it clear exactly whom you are inviting when you make the call. This is absurd.