Am I Offensive To Women?

Photo taken by me - Dermot Glennon pretending to be offensive to women
Preston, England
February 26, 2016 12:54pm CST
An important venue for me as a performance poet was Manchester’s Green Room Theatre, where I debuted in 2003. Sadly the venue closed about ten years ago after its 25th anniversary party which I attended and barely a month later I also attended the last night party there. I wore a tee-shirt depicting burlesque queen, Dita Von Teese, as I am a burlesque fan, occasional promoter and co-performer and I have been involved in burlesque cabarets at The Green Room itself. I was enjoying the party in the company of fellow poets when a rather humourless lady walked up to me and slapped me in the chest. She actually pinned a sticker to my burlesque tee-shirt with the words ‘this is offensive to women’ on it and walked off without a word. I was tempted to pursue her and argue a defence but I felt it would be fruitless to challenge someone walking round clutching such stickers just looking for people and things to be offended by. I later heard from a friend that such stickers were common a few decades before but they hadn’t been seen for years until this lady’s effort to revive the tradition. I was going to throw the sticker away but fellow poet, Dermot Glennon cheerfully stuck it to his own face and walked round with it all night. I wonder what my angry assailant made of someone taking cynical pride in being offensive, though in fact Dermot is a very nice, decent person. Arthur Chappell
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@jstory07 (66908)
• Roseburg, Oregon
26 Feb 16
Something is only offensive if you make it that way. People can take one remark made in so many different ways.
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• Preston, England
26 Feb 16
not even a comment but a tee shirt of a woman who is actually fully dressed in the image portrayed
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@jstory07 (66908)
• Roseburg, Oregon
26 Feb 16
@arthurchappell That makes no sense at all.
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@vandana7 (64694)
• India
26 Feb 16
@jstory07 ...And offense can only be taken if we want to...I really appreciate the poet's sense of humor. When she sees that it is not working she would stop.
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@vandana7 (64694)
• India
26 Feb 16
I'd say that is weird...she needs help...some people simply want to live others lives.
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@drannhh (15226)
• United States
26 Feb 16
yes @vandana7 I think her attention seeking was a cry for help.
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@1wldngl (3991)
• United States
26 Feb 16
I'm sorry but that's hilarious. I would be getting a good chuckle out of that one, indeed. I sure hope he stuck it on his forehead. Had I been taking a drink I would have spewed. Great story. I can picture the lady, all haughty with her nose in the air and a sour expression on her face. Maybe a high necked collar and shapeless long dress with boots? What a picture in my minds eye. HA!
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• Preston, England
26 Feb 16
it is quite funny though also sad that she has such an attitude to life
@1wldngl (3991)
• United States
26 Feb 16
@arthurchappell Yes, a sour attitude makes for a sour heart indeed
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@1wldngl (3991)
• United States
26 Feb 16
@arthurchappell HA!! And now I see that picture. I didn't get that to load before. Is that your friend? Hilarious!
@paigea (22189)
• Canada
26 Feb 16
I am guessing I wouldn't find the tee shirt offensive if she was clothed. I am easily offended but I make a point of Not looking for things to offend me.
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@jaboUK (53917)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 16
That was an excellent response to that narrow minded woman. Well done to your friend.
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@mom210 (6762)
• Atlanta, Georgia
26 Feb 16
I kind of wonder if it was some kind of strange way of hitting on you.
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• Preston, England
27 Feb 16
there's a thought @mom210
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@mom210 (6762)
• Atlanta, Georgia
29 Feb 16
@arthurchappell Some people have odd way of showing affection, you just never know.
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• Preston, England
29 Feb 16
@mom210 always possible - not the best chat up approach though
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@PainsOnSlate (20254)
• Canada
28 Feb 16
She shouldn't have been at the event if she is so sensitive. But,,,you didn't show us the-shirt but I looked them up on line and liked them all especially protect the skin you're in...
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• Preston, England
28 Feb 16
good logo - mine which has now worn out was just an image of Dita without any accompanying message
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• Calgary, Alberta
27 Feb 16
Oh Radical Feminist, They Hate Saudi Arabia for not allowing women to wear what they want but for some crazy and lunatic version they hate women who embraces their sexuality and wear sexy outfits. What is wrong with embracing a woman's sexuality. Feminist dont complain when shirtless men are being sexualized on TV but they go crazy when a woman in miniskirt shows up on tv and complain she is being sexualized for Men's gaze.
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@JudyEv (123138)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 16
That seems really strange. I like your friend's response though. That would have got right up the woman's nose.
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@drannhh (15226)
• United States
26 Feb 16
I had regarded you more as an equal opportunity offense giver, offensive to all? But the woman who "touched" you was a bit offensive herself, wouldn't you say? Sticks and stones...but words, and now IMAGES? What is the world coming to. No humor!
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@Vjvals (933)
• Roseville, California
26 Feb 16
Too sensitive. I bet she'd get ya on a thought-action as well.
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@Drosophila (16713)
• Ireland
26 Feb 16
wow she got a bee in her bonnet
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@Jessicalynnt (47846)
• Centralia, Missouri
27 Feb 16
honestly the behavior of that woman is offensive to women, I dont want my gender judged by such a .... judgey person.
@Daljinder (21539)
• India
27 Feb 16
Weird thing... Maybe she was trying to prove a point to someone else...
@Platespinner (16492)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
27 Feb 16
Some people are easily offended and rather than address the issue rationally like to label people (literally in your case, it seems). Which in itself is pretty offensive (at least from my point of view).
@LadyDuck (156721)
• Switzerland
27 Feb 16
I do not find Burlesque offensive to women, while I find offensive that someone touch me without permission, thing that she did.