Vocally Thanking Our Husbands

@SIMPLYD (73084)
Philippines
February 28, 2016 9:38pm CST
I am not used to vocally thanking my husband and him to me also . It seems a given one already to just let it be when our husbands helped us in some of our chores and vice versa . The next day while preparing for work , out of happiness for the wonderfully spent holiday at home in my below post , I said “ thank you ” when he told me he has already washed the dishes we used for our breakfast that morning . And I not only thank him , but I also gave him a hug and a smack kiss. He smiled . I think , from now on , I should be vocal too in thanking him for whatever he did for me . Do you usually , vocally thank your husbands or partners ?
Yesterday , February 25 , was a special non-working day here in the Philippines , in commemoration of the EDSA revolution . Since this week , my in-laws are...
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@LadyDuck (108967)
• Switzerland
29 Feb 16
I always thank my husband and I appreciate when he tanks me for what I do for him.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
I am happy for you because you are both. vocal. Hubby is not but he makes it up though his actions though . But still i would like to hear the words from him.It means a lot to me .
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• Manila, Philippines
1 Mar 16
@LaDyDuck, you are luckier for having that kind of partner in life.
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@LadyDuck (108967)
• Switzerland
1 Mar 16
@iamshane487 Yes, I cannot even think at my life without him, it is so long that we are married.
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@sofssu (14749)
29 Feb 16
I always thank my husband vocally and hug and kiss him every time. I almost always add a god bless you to it.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
Oh how sweet of you . I have started doing that , so i must continue it because i know in the long run he will emulate me.
@sofssu (14749)
29 Feb 16
@SIMPLYD He keeps telling his friends about how much I thank him.. I have noticed over the years that he has become more helpful and concerned.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
@sofssu That's the good result of you thAnking him alwaya. It motivates him to be more helpful and concerned . From now on i shall be doing that also .
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@Shavkat (42859)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
I think some Filipinos are vocal on what they feel. Personally, I am not a vocal person. But I do it through actions.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
My husband is like you . He never is vocal . He does it by action . I think men are like that .
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@KnehKnah (3508)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
Some say that actions speak louder than words. But, know what? Nothing beats words.
@KnehKnah (3508)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD I also have male friends who say they find it difficult to say to their wives, "you are beautiful!", "I'm glad I am your husband!", "wow! you look stunning in that dress!, lest say, "thank you!" to their wives. Their wives say, "if only my husband tells me how I look..., I will be very happy!", "he never thanked me, even if I stayed awake all night just to finish his polo!"... He never tells me he loves me... The bottomline? Most wives want a vocal husband.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Feb 16
She has never and shall never. I know she has a very high state of "Ego" and considers me to be lowly. She assumes that it is my duty to serve her and I am really upset about all this. I mean, at times, it does really become hurting when you go all out beyond your capacities and you do not even get a smile on the other's face.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
Are you kidding again or that is true ?
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@sugartoes (31196)
• Greencastle, Indiana
29 Feb 16
@thesids wow that's not a good relationship to be in with out affection in a relationship it's not really a relationship in my book that's just 2 people living together which isn't good. that can be very hurtful & damaging to the other party that don't feel the affection
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
@thesids But maybe she expresses it in her action . Sometimes , one should initiate in being vocal , like you should start being one , so she will take the cue and be the same also .
@KnehKnah (3508)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
Oh, that was so sweet of you, my dear Ms. Bikolandia! I am sure you made your husband very happy! Me? am used to thank my dearly beloved, especially when he makes my sleep so comfortable by fixing my pillows & tucking me in with a warm comforter. He also adjusts the aircool machine so that it gives me just the cold air I prefer. Plus, no tv or loud music please. As he sees me awake, he asks if I want to eat & what. If I don't like to eat, he just sits near me & starts telling stories. If he sees me not interested anymore, he tells me he is going to the sala to watch tv & will just be back once he feels sleepy too. I love this man!
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
Thank you for saying that . But your husband is not ony generous with his thank you but also loving. You are so lucky to have him as your husband .
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@jaboUK (48827)
• United Kingdom
29 Feb 16
It sounds like you have the perfect husband @KnehKnah
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@KnehKnah (3508)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD Yes, my dear Ms Bikolandia! My dearly beloved loves me so much even if I am already remiss of my obligation as a wife. He says, he understands. As to until when, I have no way of knowing yet. I hope it will be for until I am still with him. When am gone, I repeatedly told him, I want him to marry again.
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@jstory07 (57516)
• Roseburg, Oregon
29 Feb 16
house,
I thank my husband every day. He is a good man and does a lot for me.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
That's very nice of your husband and also of you to be thanking him everyday . Is that him in the picture doing some fixings of the car ?
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@dpk262006 (52366)
• Delhi, India
2 Mar 16
@jstory07 - you have uploaded a very nice picture. I loved it.
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@iamshane487 (1178)
• Manila, Philippines
29 Feb 16
My parents are not the vocal people.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
But i suppose they express their grtitude by action?
@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
People who are not vocal with their appreciation and gratitude make it up by theirloving ways.
• Manila, Philippines
1 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD yes I can see their feelings through actions my friend and it feels like I inherited it from them.
• United States
29 Feb 16
i thank mine all the time, though i rarely get the same'n return.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
Don't worry , you are not alone on that . My husband just hugs me , but not thank me .
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• United States
1 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD 'least he hugs ya, hon :D that's more'n i get 'round here. i think that once folks've been married fer some time they tend to take fer granted what the other does. we jest presume they know what it means to us.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
2 Mar 16
@crazyhorseladycx Precisely , my dear .
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@just4him (81742)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Feb 16
I used to when I was married.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
Wow, so you too . It's so nice when both the couple are loving and appreciative of what each one do , be it in action . Though , i still prefer it is voiced out , right ?
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• Jacksonville, Florida
29 Feb 16
I do say thank you to my husband all the time. Even though we should help each other out-it is not a requirement so if he does help me I want him to know I appreciate it. Being appreciated goes a long way. =)
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
Oh , that's so nice of you . Yes, we appreciate it when husbands help us , without us telling them to. That's why when they do it , we should be appreciative be it in action or in words .
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@trivia79 (7947)
• El Segundo, California
1 Mar 16
wow! that sweet! that seems like a teen moves but it's lovely! how long arre you two have been married together?
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
Well, that's how we should be in a relationship - to be loving and caring to each other . Just like the teens , as you said. We are going 26 this July 2016 .
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@trivia79 (7947)
• El Segundo, California
2 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD hmmm... advance congratulations! i can see you will post it too haha
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
2 Mar 16
@trivia79 Hmm , maybe . But that will still be many months more . July 20 , to be exact .
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@shaggin (23774)
• United States
1 Mar 16
That is something that I make sure to do all the time. I thank my man for anything he helps me with. I am truly appreciate of any little thing he does to help me out. I think its important for them to know that they are appreciated. Last night he spent hours getting the oil covered with cat litter that leaked all over my cellar. I will make sure to thank him today and am thinking of buying him Chinese food for dinner as an extra thank you.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
2 Mar 16
You are a sweet wife . I am sure , your husband is so happy of you being so appreciative of him , in words and action .
@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
3 Mar 16
@shaggin Oh i am sorry for the loss of your husband . But i am happy to know you now have a new love of your life . You deserve him . With this new one , is he also appeciative of you vocally thanking him . Is he also vocal with his appreciation of things you do?
@shaggin (23774)
• United States
3 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD Now and then he thanks me and tells me he appreciates me but I think I am just more vocal about it. I always want to make sure he feels appreciated for anything he does. I think guys tend to just not be as affectionate that way and thats ok.
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@MGjhaud (20832)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
its important to do it once in a while if you're not that vocal. same as conplimenting them. it'll somehow spice up your relationship even though you've been together for years.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
Yes, that is true . I have a non-vocal husband , but always in action would he express it . I want both , so that's why i am starting to be vocal too of saying thank you and my compliments to him . But actually , i am a vocal person , i say what i think should be said but not saying thank you to my husband . I will see to it that i will keep it that way , from now on.
@MGjhaud (20832)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
@SIMPLYD thats good. may you both have longer years together.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
@MGjhaud thank you for saying that .
@rina110383 (21987)
29 Feb 16
I'm single and I don't have a partner. In case, I'll have one in the future, I'll do the same. Nothing is sweeter than letting our partner feel appreciated for every thing he does, no matter how small it is.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
That's true . Just remember , us women have to do the initiative to do things such as saying thank you . They will eventually get the cue and be that also . And indeed partners should be appreciated , be it in action and in words. But it's better when it's both .
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@rina110383 (21987)
1 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD I'll make a mental note of these relationship tips you shared. I know I could make use of them in the future for my relationships to work out. Thank you.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
2 Mar 16
@rina110383 You are welcome . Take it from an experienced married woman .
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@dpk262006 (52366)
• Delhi, India
29 Feb 16
To me saying 'thank you' to our respective partner seems very formal. We could our thankfulness to our partner through gestures and by appreciating his/her deeds. I do not miss an opportunity to appreciate my partner, whatever she does for me.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
See, most men likes to express whatever theynfeel through actions . It seems words makes it hard for them to say.
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@dpk262006 (52366)
• Delhi, India
2 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD - May be you are right.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
3 Mar 16
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@azrapa (65)
• Ireland
3 Mar 16
I have always been vocal in thanking my partner. It's my way of letting him know how much I appreciate him and the things he does for me, even if it's just helping me put out the rubbish. Of course our loved ones know that we appreciate them, but it never hurts to be vocal. Sometimes hearing it is actually comforting, even if you already knew it from the bottom of your heart. I think it also shows that you're not afraid to be expressive of your thoughts and emotions in front of them which shows how much you love and trust them.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
4 Mar 16
Very well said , my dear and i totally agree . So, is he vocal too ? That's why i initiated thanking him vocally , hoping that someday he will be vocal too already , not only through his actions like hugging , smiling and kissing .
@azrapa (65)
• Ireland
4 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD He is not the vocal type unfortunately, but I understand him. In general he's not the type of person to be expressive of his feelings, I mean, I've only seen him cry twice and it was already of something extremely serious. But like what I've said above, he makes up for it through his actions, which I appreciate just as much :)
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
4 Mar 16
@azrapa Just remember , men are not as vocal as the women . They are more of action . Anyway , as long as we can feel their love for us, then that's okay .
@artemeis (4012)
• China
2 Mar 16
I'm vocal alright, even more so if I have to pick up his socks strewn in some corner of the house other than in that laundry basket of ours. LOL! I know what you are gonna say but let me assure you, the term give and take is not like our internet data plan - unlimited. I just do not want to appear to be untidy or negligent in front of my in-laws who are staying together under one roof. Fortunately, they know their son better than me and they are equally vocal with me. For me, I am quite automatic when it comes to common courtesy but I felt that I should hold back a little these days since there's always a chance he might take it for granted.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
2 Mar 16
Indeed , courtesy comes automatically to us , except before with my husband . I can relate on being vocal with those things too . Much more , in the morning when he gets up from bed , with his electric fan ( we each have a stand fan ) still running ! And also his bed part still unmade . But like you said , because of that it seems he is immuned to my being vocal about it . And hopefully , having taken the initiative of being vocal of my appreciation , he will soon follow , because i like word to go with actions .
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@artemeis (4012)
• China
8 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD I suppose great minds think alike here. Like you, I just don't like to be taken for granted but hey, aren't we supposed to be elegantly mystifying and unpredictable which makes our men hunger for more "hints" so that they don't have to hit the wall every other time?!
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
9 Mar 16
@artemeis Sometimes i give hints . But it seems he don't get the hint , so i tell him .
@ridingbet (33265)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
yes I think saying Thank You is a good way to show our appreciation too, not just actions. that is why the staff nurses often ask me, "Ma'am Ingrid, why do you always say Thank You?" If you are used to saying that, it is no longer an issue anyway.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
And if you really are used to ying thank you to express your gratitude , then it is really easy for one to say it . But it has to be said with the appropriate facial expression .
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@ridingbet (33265)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
@SIMPLYD indeed, because Thank You can also be uttered with cynicism and that is worse than not saying Thank You at all. With eyes rolling and a smirk, that is sarcasm.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
2 Mar 16
@ridingbet One might not as well utter the words "thank you" , if the facial expression is that .
@shshiju (8841)
• Cochin, India
29 Feb 16
You have done a great thing . That will make magic in your relationships.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
Than you . I know thiis small gesture can really make our relationship lasting and also colorful.
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@shshiju (8841)
• Cochin, India
29 Feb 16
@SIMPLYD Wish you a healthy relationship.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
@shshiju Thank you .
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
wow he would surely appreciate that and motivate him to do better as your partner. I think you are both lucky to have each other.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
Thank you . That's what i am trying him to do . To imitate me in saying thank you and even sorry as the case may be . I want us to be more vocal with each other not only through actions . But i think , my man is really just an action man .
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• Philippines
29 Feb 16
@SIMPLYD at least hes an action and not with words.
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@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
@Letranknight2015 But i still want to hear it said though . So i have started now.