I am worn out: I hope tomorrow is a better day.

@marguicha (80296)
Chile
February 29, 2016 5:45pm CST
I have been trying to help some of my elder daughter´s problems. I had my two daughters for diner on Friday, but it wasn´t enough. So, we were talking and trying to resolve an economic mess she got into while I also made lunch and diner for the 3 of us. Fortunatly, at night, my best friends came to pick me up and I slept at their home. On Sunday we went to their house in the mountains and I could rest some. We will have to wait some time to see if the problems can be solved. If not, both me and my youngest daughter will have to lend her all our money to help her out. The trouble is that I am not in a possition to lend money. I have a cancer that is for the moment on remission but we don´t know for how long. And then I will need all the money I can get hold of. My eldest daughter decided she would "invest" for her retirement. But what she did not understand was that in order to invest, you have to have money. She has some, but not enough. And she thought that the Bank would lend ler noney, forgetting that Banks are not charity. If you ask for a loan, the interest is BIG. This is more a rant that a rational post. I´m sorry, friends, but I will have to cool down before I tell you everything
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@allknowing (55107)
• India
1 Mar 16
It is not easy to handle this since you too need to have funds.Childlren should not burden their parents. In fact it should be the other way around.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
1 Mar 16
She just came to tell us how brilliant she had been. She did not ask us for help. But we know more and if she gets into heavy debt with a Bank, she could even lose her house.
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@allknowing (55107)
• India
1 Mar 16
@marguicha The problem as I see is that your daughter perhaps thought you are fine as you have handled your issues well and so loading you with her own you would be able to handle. This scenario should change.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
2 Mar 16
@allknowing My two daughters think that I am cured even if I tell them that I am on remission. They have been on denial since I was diagnosed with the lymphoma.
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@Asylum (46809)
• Manchester, England
1 Mar 16
In order to be certain of some return a bank usually requires security for a loan, which does not include investments.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
1 Mar 16
The Bank might even ask my daughter to put her house as a security for the loan
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@Asylum (46809)
• Manchester, England
1 Mar 16
@marguicha That is always a dubious risk unless you are certain to be able to repay on time.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
2 Mar 16
@Asylum I would buy an apartment for rent if I had the money. But she got into a pice of land and I don´t have the life span to wait until it can be sold. And you can rent an apartment to help pay for the morgage, but the land is just there
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@LadyDuck (118309)
• Switzerland
1 Mar 16
I am sorry you had a hard day. Oh my, that was such a big mistake, Banks only lend money to those who do not need money. This is a serious problem.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
2 Mar 16
My daughter traveled to where she is buying and got better terms. But still, it is a lot of risk.
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@LadyDuck (118309)
• Switzerland
2 Mar 16
@marguicha Yes, there is a lot of risk, I hope she can solve this problem.
@sharon6345 (106162)
• United States
1 Mar 16
You will figure it out as soon as possible. I will not loan her the money if your bills needed it.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
1 Mar 16
It is not easy for a mother to see her daughter lose half of her life´s savings in a moment. I will tell all of you how this developes.
@sharon6345 (106162)
• United States
1 Mar 16
@marguicha That is good. Thanks.
@rina110383 (21957)
1 Mar 16
Your cancer treatment is far more important than whatever economic mess your daughter is currently facing.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
1 Mar 16
That´s what I told her when, yesterday, as she was strightening out part of the mess (the easy part), she was naive enough as to ask me if I was interested in investing.
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@rina110383 (21957)
1 Mar 16
@marguicha Focus your energy on getting well. Let your daughters sort out their own issues.
@TheHorse (51518)
• Pleasant Hill, California
2 Mar 16
I'm surprised she didn't understand that banks loan you money to make money. I hope your health stays good.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
3 Mar 16
My health is good under the circumstances. I am not getting any younger. As for my daughter, she has undone part of the mess she got into. I don´t think she can do better, but anyway, it is not as big a worry.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
1 Mar 16
Problems, problems. I know today was not good for me either my friend. I hope tomorrow is better for you there.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
1 Mar 16
I will try to take it easy, Tiara. It seems my daughter has solved in part the problem she got into, but there is still a lot to do.
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• Philippines
1 Mar 16
you have the right to rant here, that's what mylot is for anyway. i hope your troubles would lessen or end soon. Im sorry Im not much of a help.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
1 Mar 16
I hope this problem is solved in a reasonable way.
@jaboUK (50114)
• United Kingdom
1 Mar 16
She sounds financially naive. I hope you manage to sort it out.
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@marguicha (80296)
• Chile
1 Mar 16
VERY! My younger daughter gave her a lesson last Saturday while we all cried and I also cursed! My youngest daughter knows about that as she is a judge and must know about my country´s economic law.
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@Lucky15 (33714)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
I understand. You just have to let those makes you feel heavy. :)
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