She is up for a few weeks

@ricki_911 (19949)
Toronto, Ontario
March 2, 2016 9:36pm CST
My friend is up for a few weeks but I am not initiating anything. She cancelled last Tuesday. She is basically being negative and all sulky. All she wants to talk about this abusive manipulating girl she is dating. She claims to be unhappy yet stays with her. She sees no reason to be with her when I asked why she stays. Yet, she will talk to me today then drop off the earth for weeks. If I send her a message or any anything she wont reply. She hadn't replied to me in a few weeks, then talks for a few days then disappears. I really don't need this around and the fact she says one thing and does another.
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@T_gray (7805)
• Salina, Kansas
3 Mar 16
That's not good to have someone like that in your life. You deserve better then that
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@ricki_911 (19949)
• Toronto, Ontario
3 Mar 16
I completely agree especially when she has done it a handful of times right now. She needs to get herself straight and happy no one else can be able to help her.
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@T_gray (7805)
• Salina, Kansas
3 Mar 16
• United States
3 Mar 16
Seems like she's using you when she needs you and then ignores you when she's occupied with the girl she's dating.
• United States
3 Mar 16
@ricki_911 Yeah she's known this girl for 8 months and how long with your friendship right?
@ricki_911 (19949)
• Toronto, Ontario
3 Mar 16
@infatuatedbby At least 4 years now. My point exactly she will drop anything for this girl. I joked with another friend and said its because shes dating this girl. But still this girl is rather unhealthy, and clearly not happy with her life so why continue to date her and loose everything in your life.
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• United States
3 Mar 16
@ricki_911 It is crazy how a person can totally flip someone around. I hope she realizes your friendship is more important then this new girl she's dating.
• Pensacola, Florida
3 Mar 16
Then cut her out of your life. You are the one in control here, not her.
@ricki_911 (19949)
• Toronto, Ontario
3 Mar 16
I have been ignoring her. I gave her one last chance a couple weeks ago and she just did the samething.
• Pensacola, Florida
3 Mar 16
@ricki_911 Just remember it's your choice to have her in your life, and like wise out of your life as well
@ricki_911 (19949)
• Toronto, Ontario
3 Mar 16
@lexiconlover That is very true. I didn't see completely how she acted like this. I was always busy working, and running around. But when I was working full time and less hours I started seeing it more. But then I thought its not that big of an issue (like I am over reacting over it).
@MGjhaud (20865)
• Philippines
3 Mar 16
she seems troubled. maybe its better to stop asking how shes doing and just wait for her to come back. less effort on your part. dont make yourself oblige to check on her.
@ricki_911 (19949)
• Toronto, Ontario
3 Mar 16
Yes, that is what I have done. She seems rather unhappy, and irritable. I am sure she is not say half th.e story.
@MGjhaud (20865)
• Philippines
4 Mar 16
@ricki_911 well shes responsible for her life, no matter how u encourage people and literally help them, but if theyre not helping themselves up, u cant really do anything about it.
@jstory07 (71078)
• Roseburg, Oregon
3 Mar 16
You need to stay away from a person like that.
@ricki_911 (19949)
• Toronto, Ontario
3 Mar 16
Yes, the last email she sent she was saying how she just wants to be home doing her working and catching up on things. Instead she has to drive her sister to and from work, and be up here. She keeps say she is depressed but then wont fix it. My point of view if you are unhappy change it. All her life consists of it work, and this girl. I asked her to go out this weekend with my coworker and she never answered. This girl she is dating is running her life, and loosing everything but this girl like this girl wants. I love a week of different scenery, and different routine gives me a little break.
@ricki_911 (19949)
• Toronto, Ontario
3 Mar 16
I have cut her off, and she is a very negative and unhappy. I told her once she gets things straight only she can change things. If she is not willing to leave this girl to make her ownself happy.