I don't know if I should be hurt or angry!

United States
March 5, 2016 2:03am CST
My heart hurts, I just found out that a family member misunderstood something that I said and instead of asking me about it, he refuses to talk to me. It's been driving me crazy for a couple of weeks trying to figure out what's going on, finally someone else had to tell me. How are you supposed to work out a problem, if the other person won't even talk to you. Well after the tears and hurt, now my feeling are turning to anger., and I very rarely get angry. How do you deal with someone like this? I have no clue.
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@sharon6345 (101971)
• United States
5 Mar 16
I leave them alone and when they are ready we can talk. It works all the time.
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• United States
5 Mar 16
I've done my part, the ball is now in his court.
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@sharon6345 (101971)
• United States
5 Mar 16
@lilnana1111 That is all you can ever do. I wish you the best now.
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• United States
5 Mar 16
@sharon6345 Thank you!
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• Philippines
5 Mar 16
Let him have his space and then when he's in the mood to talk, that's when you explain.
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• United States
5 Mar 16
Thanks, I guess that's what I'll have to do, unfortunately he's the kind that can stay mad for years and not talk to you...sigh.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 16
@lilnana1111 its his lost, it could cost him his heart attack
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@GardenGerty (91157)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Mar 16
I sometimes feel that people WANT to misunderstand and get mad, so they do. If he wanted a resolution he would speak with you.
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• United States
7 Mar 16
You might be right.
@IvySaysHi (4216)
• United States
5 Mar 16
I either find a way to talk to them or I just ignore them back. depends on if I love em or not
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• United States
5 Mar 16
It's just amazing out out of control something so little escalated into such a big mess.
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@LadyDuck (122389)
• Switzerland
5 Mar 16
This person shows to be a bit stupid. How can someone refuse to speak to you for a misunderstanding? Just ignore the person.
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• United States
5 Mar 16
Looks like I'll have no choice.
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@boiboing (12524)
• Northampton, England
5 Mar 16
I would either ignore the person for being so stupid, or ask another member of the family to step in and explain.
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• United States
5 Mar 16
A couple of family members have tried talking to him and explaining, but he won't listen.
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@SIMPLYD (75375)
• Philippines
7 Mar 16
The best way , is for you to talk heart to heart with the person on why he refuses to talk to you , At least , you two can give your sides . It cannot be remedied when it will not be talked about . Perhaps it's about time that it be talked about .
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• United States
7 Mar 16
Yes, that would be nice, but it's a little hard to talk to someone when they won't talk to you.
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@SIMPLYD (75375)
• Philippines
8 Mar 16
@lilnana1111 Just wait for that time when he / she is already a bit open already .
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@alchemistrx (2590)
• Philippines
5 Mar 16
I give him a silent treatment but if he wants to talk, ill talk.
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• United States
5 Mar 16
I don't have to give him the silent treatment, he won't talk to me.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 16
@lilnana1111 Just let him be. He'll come around soon.
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@zebra2222 (4895)
• United States
6 Mar 16
It is almost impossible to deal with it if the other person will not talk to you. Otherwise, you need someone who can communicate with that person how you feel about the matter.
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• United States
7 Mar 16
You hit the nail on the head, he is impossible.
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 16
It's obviously something that won't resolve itself, and if he won't talk to you perhaps a family member could explain the misunderstanding. Just remember that he is probably hurt too at the imagined slight, (or whatever it is), so anger is only going to make things worse.
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