Anxiety/depression suffers?

@DaintyD (1102)
March 9, 2016 11:45am CST
Good evening all, I was just wondering do any of you suffer with anxieties and/or depression? I myself suffer with both, and what u find mist furstrating is trying to explain the conditions to those who do not suffer. They will tell me u have no reason to be upset, anxious and I'm being silly. They can not begin to understand and often misinturpitat me believing in weak. Additionally how do you deal with everyday life? Simple tasks often taken forgranted can be so scary and complex to suffered for various reasons.
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@avi256 (4531)
• Pune, India
9 Mar 16
We all suffer with anxiety and depression . Some are able to recognize it, some do not and some ignore it.
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@DaintyD (1102)
9 Mar 16
@avi256 s, as with everything we all have some element of that within us. Some however a lot more than others. I am generally able to live a normal life with mine - however I know of people who can't leave the house, eat or drink due to theirs.
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@TheHorse (75152)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Mar 16
That's an interesting point. We can suffer from either and not recognize it. If it's not debilitating, we just live with it. Or take it out on others. We could be happier and calmer and not realize it.
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@DaintyD (1102)
9 Mar 16
@TheHorse Yeah that's just it, everyone suffered from time to time it's natural.
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@TheHorse (75152)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Mar 16
"No reason" is the last thing a person suffering from anxiety or depression needs to hear. Some good listening, or maybe even a challenge to try something simple yet scary ("Come with me to the corner store--let's see what happens") would be far better.
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@Auntylou (4316)
• Oxford, England
9 Mar 16
@TheHorse you are right. We have to be able to really see that person's anxieties, not just say there is nothing to fret about
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@DaintyD (1102)
10 Mar 16
@Janet Anderson That's correct, but people who don't suffer don't generally understand that
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@TheHorse (75152)
• Walnut Creek, California
10 Mar 16
@Auntylou I think we can help them by being there, listening, and being "safe." Often that involves giving no advice at all.
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@yukimori (9098)
• United States
9 Mar 16
What I've found is that people who tell you that you have "no reason" to be upset or anxious are generally going from their own experiences, which are typically "normal." While the responses usually come from ignorance, that doesn't make the fact that they're invalidating your experience any easier. I've occasionally told people that tell me similar things ("Cheer up, you don't have anything to be sad about!") point-blank that it's damn disrespectful for them to make statements like that, because my feelings aren't invalid. They might be different than that person's, but that doesn't make them "wrong." It pisses me off so much that people treat mental health issues like they're so trivial... or on the flip side of the coin, like they're something to be ashamed of. Honestly, getting on an antidepressant did wonders for me... but I never would have considered it if it wasn't prescribed to treat my chronic pain. We just happened to stumble upon something that worked really well for the undiagnosed depression issue. Anyway, my advice would probably be to speak with medical and mental health professionals to find a combination of medication and/or therapy that works to help you get the symptoms under control. It might not be something that will ever "go away," but a good therapist can definitely help you figure out ways to deal with attacks and build coping skills for everyday life.
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@Auntylou (4316)
• Oxford, England
9 Mar 16
Wise remarks @yukimori Glad you have had good results
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@avi256 (4531)
• Pune, India
10 Mar 16
Exactly, trying to be over sympathized with people suffering for depression is more an insult to their emotions.
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@DaintyD (1102)
10 Mar 16
@avi256 This is very true, never say you understand when you don't -
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@skysnap (18248)
9 Mar 16
I suffer from this alot. Especially the anxieety and the depression part. I have not recovered from it. I try hard. I can't go long distance these days because of this. I am going to try harder now.
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@DaintyD (1102)
9 Mar 16
@skysnap I don't think you can really recover,, you can have tones when it's worse or better, you can learn coping techniques but not recover.
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@skysnap (18248)
9 Mar 16
@DaintyD yeah seems like it. it's kind of embeded into DNA now. no way to get over it.
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@DaintyD (1102)
9 Mar 16
@skysnap It's so sad isn't it, but so true - taking antidepressants is now common as taking vitamins. Even so many young children are taking tablets like smarties it's not on.
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@kevin1877uk (36985)
9 Mar 16
It's hard to explain to anyone who never suffered with it is hard, they will never understand. Myself I had a breakdown some time back, I'm ok now and gotten my life back. I do have low's at times still but now, well still the beginning of the year I said to myself it time you turned over a new leaf. Since then I've tried to stay positive which not been easy and have a better outward look on life.
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@Auntylou (4316)
• Oxford, England
9 Mar 16
Glad you are back on track and feeling better
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@DaintyD (1102)
10 Mar 16
@Janet Anderson Very kind works there :)
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@DaintyD (1102)
10 Mar 16
@kevin1877uk That is just the point I was trying to make. Many people who ha be not suffered brush it under the carpet like its nothing. Comments like everyone feels like that, don't be silly, it will get better bla bla bla. None of this helps does it lets me honest. I also have been throu some very rough patches with it, but I'v been throu some positive ones too. I'm pleased you are doing well and I hope you have a supoort network who have the pacients you need x
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@Auntylou (4316)
• Oxford, England
9 Mar 16
Sorry you suffer these conditions. My brother was bipolar and one of my sons gets very down. he is taking small steps and I am hopeful at the moment
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@DaintyD (1102)
9 Mar 16
@auntylou Don't be sorry, it's be and I accept it. I just at time have to remind myself that it's in my head and the feelings will soon pass. I do however know people who's lives are controlled by the suffering - and often they are neglected due to this.
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@DaintyD (1102)
9 Mar 16
@auntylou I'm sorry to hear of your sons suffering and your brothers too. Bipola is to often misdiagnosed as depression there for pacients do not received the supoort and treatment they need. So sad really. I'm pleased he is taking small steps, and I'm sure he will continue to do so
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@Auntylou (4316)
• Oxford, England
9 Mar 16
@DaintyD I am glad that it is not hurting your life
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@EddieHands (37791)
• United States
10 Mar 16
I used to have depression. I don't anymore. I just have laziness now. I just need to sleep better. I am sorry you are doing through this. I had a deep sadness depression when I was younger. I finally got out of it, but now I suffer from laziness.
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@DaintyD (1102)
10 Mar 16
@wise wizard I'm sorry you went throu that hard time, however I'm pleased you have gotten out of it. Getting back to your normal life after is extreamily hard, but every little step counts.
@apickett (123)
• United States
8 May 16
I'm glad you are feeling better now. I hope you can start sleeping better.
@LeaPea2417 (23260)
• Toccoa, Georgia
9 Mar 16
Luckily, I am not anxious or depressed.
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9 Mar 16
Anxiety and depression are part and parcel of today's hectic lifestyle, be it work, parenting, finance, relations and the list goes on. We all try to deal with it in some way or the other. Some get out of it pretty soon while others take time, all depending upon the type and severity of the anxiety/depression. Good faith and a positive attitude goes a long way in tackling both.
• United States
10 Mar 16
i've a son who suffers from this 'n we're still seekin' ways that can help him out. 's a parent 'r friend, e'en a co-worker, 'tis hard to watch the struggle. when i get stressed out i find somethin' to keep my busy physically. preferably outdoors.
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@DaintyD (1102)
10 Mar 16
@crazyhorseladycx I'm sorry to say the seeking will never end, your constant okay be looking for new ways, thinking up new reassurance lines and looking for triggers. I'm pleased he has such a devoted mother such as yourself
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
10 Mar 16
I suffer badly from anxiety and depression. I have it so bad, that it is the cause of my high sugar level.
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• United States
11 Mar 16
I take it one hour at a time realizing that certainly everything is NOT in my power but that I have the strength to over come the not so good and reap reward from the really great. It is all about perspective and how one understands the down time in which anxiety can be a tremendous force we are not sure how to wreckon with . . .
@DaintyD (1102)
12 Mar 16
@enlightenedpsych2 I get what you mean, easier for some than others. I work in mental health so have a good understanding of it.
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• United States
12 Mar 16
@DaintyD I do too but solely on my own now, as group practice failed tremendously about 16 years ago
11 Mar 16
I suffer depression and most of my friends tell me that they also do and I have to get over it. But when I ask them how they feel when they are depressed, they just tell me that they are just crying and sad. But for me, I often feel really empty and useless. Not sad most of the time, but I feel like I am an empty shell. Can't think of anything, can't do something. Like a glass of milk emptied out and thrown out at the back of the house.
@DaintyD (1102)
11 Mar 16
@rianel_lewrej That's also how I feel when I'm depressed, empty and numb. I feel i like a useless waste of space and the world im would be better without be because I serve no purpose.
11 Mar 16
@DaintyD Yes. That feeling of emptiness and uselessness. It's like unending when you started feeling that.
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@DaintyD (1102)
11 Mar 16
@Rianel_Lewrej Yeah, nothing can shift the feeling.
@apickett (123)
• United States
8 May 16
I have been dealing with anxiety issues since I was a child. I now have many irrational (but very real and rational in my head) fears due to the anxiety disorder. I also suffer with depression. It is very frustrating indeed and I'm so sorry for anyone who has to deal with it.
@AkoPinay (10112)
• Philippines
2 Apr 16
There are many reasons why we are depressed. I read that Contraceptives can cause drepression. Drinking Ginger tea everyday could help.