Does Age & Money matter or just "LOVE" is enough ?
@kartikashetty7 (27)
Mumbai, India
March 16, 2016 10:58am CST
In short was just wondering does age ,money and finding a guy who is stable with an empire ready for his to-be-wife the only right choice that a girl looks for ? I personally would rather go for a guy who is humble,a great human being and would be hard working earnest so that we together build our empire .
rather than going for guys my other friends going for who are not matching their vibes but have heavy wallets and would take them to a life filled with comfort ,stability and leisure !!! But where is the Love i wonder like its supposed to happen ?
Are we marrying people nowadays just as a guaranteed source of comfort and are all this vanishing ?? chemistry , love at first sights ,chemistry ,sparks ,loving for the person and not for his/her money !!!
i hope and pray not !!! Because when our coming generations ask "how you met my father /mother " .......i hope we don't have to be answering " Looking at the green bag boogie " !! lets pray !! lets hope !! Lets Love !!
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Mar 16
I think a relationship full of money and not much else is going to fail. I have a friend where her husband is a great provider who makes a lot of money-she is miserable! The only thing she loves about him is he is a great provider. She loves to help people and he doesn't so she hates that about him, he is controlling, he is not close to God like she is, he thinks he's better than other people who make less money than him and he doesn't want a close relationship with family like she wants.
My husband and I are the opposite of that couple. We have no money, my husband doesn't make much but we are very much happy. We both love the Lord, we both love helping others, we both enjoy spending time with our family, and we both trust each other in everything.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Mar 16
@kartikashetty7 Yes true love absolutely exists! You just have to be patient and it will come to you. Searching for the wrong things, the wrong kind of people or in the wrong places won't get you there though-which is where a lot of people get it wrong.
True love can overcome any obstacles.
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@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
16 Mar 16
the kind of relationship you have with your husband are the rare examples that keeps my faith in true love alive !! Touch wood and god bless to all those couples who love each other for the qualities ,strengths and weaknesses in each other .
And not for just money . If your friend also would have understood the importance of love which most of my peers also fail to acknowledge ,maybe so many fake relations would have been saved from the disasters .
just the hope that there are true self-less love stories still existing creates again a new found hope that love is alive !!
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@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
16 Mar 16
@LovingMyBabies Yes i have got m true love too after being too patient !!! But its just that people would keep telling you that its better to go with somebody who gives you security life-long of money at our house !!! But i have chosen somebody who is rich by heart and more rich of his actions to make me smile . Because i feel together we can build our own cute empire than going for an empty estate with no love ! that would be the worst decision ever !! Just sadly most of my friends and cousins have made wrong choices - they went with men who have money . And i seriously pray that somehow love arises between them so that at the end they don't sob alone ! hoping for the best !
just thank you for the assurance that i got that love still matters somewhere else too !!
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Mar 16
Not always. When I met my husband and fell in love with him he came to be with me on a bus, with no job at all and not even a vehicle to drive in! We are still together after 12 years and still in love-I don't care about the fact that he has never had money and never will...Love is so much more than just money.
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@skysnap (20154)
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16 Mar 16
@LovingMyBabies You know what he is very lucky to have you. I can tell you from my experience I have not met single woman who can accept that. When I went on dating with few, the first question that was pitched to me - how much money can you afford to spend on your girlfriend. I realized the day that if anyone asks me such questions, I am better off single.
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@skysnap (20154)
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16 Mar 16
@kartikashetty7 In theory every person wants to be around who has some sort of resources and social leverage. That is natural. However I noticed one thing, as a man we get insulted on how much we make if we have car and house and all that. In return do we get something that is in comparable to the hard work it required to earn that money. Often the answer is no. So I guess new generation of men will either shut up their inner self and randomly marry on the basis of non existing love but merely on physical attraction or use logic and remain single.
@patrice7 (1191)
• United States
16 Mar 16
Hello kartika! I can totally relate to your sentiment as nowadays, more and more people are choosing stability over love first. The increasing requirements for daily living plus our innate desire and appreciation of beautiful and luxurious things may be some of the reasons why people are marrying for money.
We can only hope and pray that love is developed within the relationship as time goes by. So that the children from this type of relationship will not suffer from the consequences of marriage without love and respect.
@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
17 Mar 16
@patrice7
Infact i have seen cases where the kids true realise that there is nothing called as love ,respect amidst their own parents .
Exactly like you mentioned they also realise the void and try to follow similar lines while searching their partners and the chain of lack of love and meaningless relations just keeps extending .
I hope it extincts somehow and people realise that happiness lies Within and not in the luxurious things around .
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@LeaPea2417 (36442)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Mar 16
I do think a marriage should be based on love. My husband and I were in love when we got married and we have been married 28 years and we are not rich.
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@LeaPea2417 (36442)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Mar 16
@kartikashetty7 That is very true :)
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@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
16 Mar 16
I feel you are rich ,much more rich than those sitting in their rooms with a stranger (or room-mate ) but no existence of love !!
And i hope you are blessed forever with this wealth of love and more because that is what matters the most ! We all need an amazing flashback story to remember when we are 85-90 yrs old and sit with the person we love !!! that's so much better than a bank full of money and a stranger beside you .
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
16 Mar 16
Different school of thoughts here..
If I want something material, I'll get it myself. There's no point waiting for some dude to deliver.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
16 Mar 16
@kartikashetty7 to be honest, man is the most unreliable thing for cash-flow.. xD
I'd rather rely on myself for that.
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@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
16 Mar 16
@Drosophila I guess as far he is reliable for contributing in a happy, loyal and lively relationship , that is all that matters !!
cash flow is something is just needed for basic survival which both together can achieve like a team . But all this is possible if they are in it together with all their hearts in it !!
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@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
16 Mar 16
so true !! Men are not our doors to get what we want . The fact that you have this empowered attitude is amazing . And women like us know we can strive to get what we want by ourselves .
Our parents and peers need to accept this too that we love and marry because we wish to be with that person and not because we want a lifelong insurance cash-flow.
hope the change arises in perception for all !
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@rina110383 (24495)
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16 Mar 16
Age doesn't matter.
Money? No, because I can very well take care of my expenses. However, I would like a man who also has savings, not necessarily rich. But, he must be hardworking, responsible and knows how to handle money.
Why? There bills that need to be paid and expenses to be incurred once we get married.
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@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
17 Mar 16
@rina110383
But i doubt that anybody with little trace of heart and humanity would leave a guy just because he didn't save enough.
If suppose the guy is 2-3 younger to the girl and he has just started his savings . It would be unfair to leave love because of his current state and break him or her .
Irrespective of the fact that the guy or girl have considerate savings atleast we wont leave them stranded and go for somebody else as its seen nowadays !!!
Its like a job deal which offers more ....but its not ... its a human being who if we work as a team can do wonders together
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
25 Mar 16
Hi Kartika,
I think love is not enough for a relationship to work. There are many couples who love each other but could not help but parted ways. There are many factors that determine a successful relationship and love is just one of those factors.
In my environment, many young people get committed early in life. Just after they graduated in high school, we will hear news that is like a bomb that someone is already having a baby. When asked why have a baby so soon, they answer is that because of love. Then after many years you will find couples separated because they can no longer srand with each other. Love is nothing if the wallet is empty. Couples cannot live together just by showing affectionate gestures toward one another.
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
17 Mar 16
Yes I believe love is flying out the window. No one seems to want that only what a person has instead.
@jillybean1222 (6408)
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16 Mar 16
i never even thought about what sort of income my husband had when we dated & married. i was a career woman and never thought about relying upon a man for my money. HOWEVER.... now that time has passed, i realize that money is (sadly) important! i wish we had more. i ended up being a stay at home mom & now we struggle all the time. it sucks.
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@kartikashetty7 (27)
• Mumbai, India
16 Mar 16
Its alright if there are times when we are short of cash . We at-least have a rocking team-mate right who will stay forever beside us We can always work harder if we think we need a little extra than we planned but its so much better than living with somebody with whom we wouldn't even want to live the next day !!
so a better partner is always better than a richer partner !
@123TikTalk (36)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Mar 16
To answer your question, if Love will be enough? Well,it's definitely very hard to have a stable life now a days. In my opinion Love is certainly not enough. Lets admit it money is an important factor in our every day living. What will you do if you have nothing to spend on food or even a drink? Lack of money ignites a lot of problems. Will love feed your empty stomach? Or solve your financial problems? I don't think so. Although I can't imagine myself being with someone only for his money cause I think that would make me miserable, I would still prefer to be with a guy who can provide stability for our future, and with the characteristics you mentioned.
