If someone doesn't like you, what would you do?
March 21, 2016 11:37am CST
If someone doesn't like you, what would you do? I was having lunch with an acquaintance. She told me one of her colleagues dislikes her. She's a bit perplexed, as she can't recall ever done anything to cause this. She asked me what I'd do in her shoes. Well, to be honest, I've always thought, since I don't "have to" like everyone. It is ok for people to return the favour and not like me. That's their prerogative. So I wasn't very helpful as you can imagine. But now am curious, what would you do, if someone doesn't like you?
26 people like this
• Delhi, India
22 Mar 16
I cannot stop someone from disliking me. May be s/he is just looking at my negative traits and is in the habit of disliking others also. I won't bother if someone is disliking me. I know that it is not possible to please everybody in this world, so there might be some people who may not like me.
• Luxembourg, Luxembourg
22 Mar 16
Good discussion. If someone doesnot like me, I will never go behind them, or try to communicate with them. If we love someone more than they deserve, they will definitely hurt us more than we deserve. Happiness is in with being someone who loves us not being with someone we love According to me.
22 Mar 16
That's interesting. I have the oppositive experience. As long as I did everything I could for a relationship, whether that means if I love or been hurt more than I deserve. At the end of it, I don't feel any regret. I have tried staying with someone who loved me and I don't return the feeling. It's not great at all.
22 Mar 16
i remember a meme on Facebook saying ; theres a chance that you dont like me but theres a bigger chance that i wont care. anyway, i would be civil. it doesnt really matter if someone doesnt like me at work as long as im doing my job right and im not hurting anybody.
2 May 16
@Drosophila There are really times when we meet someone and from the very start we automatically get the feeling and thought that we do not feel comfortable with that person. I have a classmate for 4 years and we have been in good terms. However, our personalities are different so we do not get along much.
26 Mar 16
If we hadn't met and that person still dislikes me. In that case I would give him or her the chance to get to know me. Since we are forced to work together, we can't escape each other. I have been cordial with the persons I don't like (that is a great feat for me. Since I seldom keep my mouth shut if they step a foot out of line) then I can be civil with the person who doesn't like me too. If after that the person still dislikes me then it's their loss. They lost a great opportunity to know an awesome person like me.... See, I can be modest too. What's there not to like?
23 Mar 16
If someone dislikes me, I just let them be as long as it's not affecting me on what I usually do. I don't do things to be liked by people; I just do the things I like and what I believe is good for me and for most of the people. Working in the library has pros and cons for me. I am sure that not all all of the people around me likes me. Especially on times when I just get so annoyed easily. We have policies in the library and I just have to stick to it for its integrity. But sometimes, I just have to scold a student for some reasons and I think some would really feel bad about it. But, policies are policies, without those, the library would be a total mess. That's one of my experiences.
18 Apr 16
How to deal with your enemies. Do what other people do? Stick your tonque out at them? Seriously, work is made more difficult when there are people that don't like you for whatever reason. I would say do your job and they should do theirs not your job if that is at all possible.
19 Apr 16
these are not necessarily enemies.. just people who for whatever reason don't like you, could be your face, your hair, your words... after all there are 99 reasons why someone might have a problem with you, it's just futile to dwell on it. work does suck if the other person can't be professional and work with you. Had that happened to me in my last work place.. I end up gritting my teeth and tough it out as much as I could. But never again lol.. the guy was a nut job!
19 Apr 16
@Drosophila I agree we can always do our job even though we don't like someone. I know what you mean people in business don't always act like they are in business or do their jobs right. We must though if we want to be responsible right? There must have been a good reason you felt that way about that person. I would do extra for someone that I could work well with (also customers) while only do what was required with abusive type characters. In some cases we were allowed to refuse service completely.
• United States
27 Mar 16
Since we're dealing with people's perceptions, we have little control over what they think or do. We may have some influence but only if they allow it. I've come to a point in my life where I'm better at letting go when someone does not like me but when they decide to wage some sort of offences at me, I usually fight back. I need to learn how to let that go too!
• United States
28 Mar 16
@Drosophila I tend to be that way to. You get what you give. But there's a competitive side to me which inside can get pretty ugly. But I don't play to win. I will try to get ahead. And that's when I can get rather ugly so I try to avoid those times at all costs.