If someone doesn't like you, what would you do?

@Drosophila (16730)
Ireland
March 21, 2016 11:37am CST
If someone doesn't like you, what would you do? I was having lunch with an acquaintance. She told me one of her colleagues dislikes her. She's a bit perplexed, as she can't recall ever done anything to cause this. She asked me what I'd do in her shoes. Well, to be honest, I've always thought, since I don't "have to" like everyone. It is ok for people to return the favour and not like me. That's their prerogative. So I wasn't very helpful as you can imagine. But now am curious, what would you do, if someone doesn't like you?
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@jaboUK (53403)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar 16
It would be water off a duck's back to me, though I'd probably avoid the person if possible.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
That's true, no need to hang around if there's no official business
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@Asylum (48282)
• Manchester, England
21 Mar 16
There will always be a number of people who dislike us whatever we do, which is a simple fact of life. There are no doubt many people who dislike me, but personally I just do not care.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
That works to a degree, until you're forced to work with people you don't like I guess.
• United States
21 Mar 16
I just donĀ“t bother with them as I recall. I mean what is one to do, get all up in their face? lolz
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
LOL! totally! they might well like you after that.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
This by the way is the most true and hilarious comment! You had me in stitches for ages LOL
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• United States
22 Mar 16
@Drosophila No the called security on me lolz
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@fishtiger58 (30372)
• Momence, Illinois
21 Mar 16
We as humans can't simply like everyone who crosses our path. So I don't let it bother me and move on.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
That's basically my outlook too, then she asked if I ever wondered why people don't like me.. I was liker erm..
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@fishtiger58 (30372)
• Momence, Illinois
21 Mar 16
@Drosophila I could probably come up with a few reasons some folks don't like me but usually I don't care. lol
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@fishtiger58 (30372)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Mar 16
@Drosophila Thankfully I don't have to worry about the working world anymore. I'm retired we pay our own bills so I do what I want. I have my friends and family and am satisfied with that.
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@LeaPea2417 (19167)
• Toccoa, Georgia
21 Mar 16
I would just try to be as nice and pleasant to the person and hopefully one day they may change their mind about me.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
Is it possible they might not like you because you're nice? I always wonder deviously
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@LeaPea2417 (19167)
• Toccoa, Georgia
22 Mar 16
@Drosophila That is possible, I guess.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
@LeaPea2417 Have you ever had "irrational dislikes of people"? I know I have, some people on first glance I just don't like. Don't know why, but just don't like.
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• United States
21 Mar 16
At my age I am sure there are several who don't like me and - to be truthful - I couldn't care less. Life's too short to worry about such things, here are bigger fish to fry.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
Mmm fried fish.. I should have that for dinner. xD
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• United States
21 Mar 16
@Drosophila LOL - see, I gave you a suggestion!
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
@AbbyGreenhill Oh ya! Fried fish is definitely the way to go for dinners, but I think grill is better
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• India
21 Mar 16
I agree with u, people have the right not to like me. If someone doesn't like me, I will maintain a distance with that person. I will not think much about the issue, rather I would think about those who like me.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
That is very true, emotionally invest in people who cares about us, as opposed to those who dont
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
22 Mar 16
I cannot stop someone from disliking me. May be s/he is just looking at my negative traits and is in the habit of disliking others also. I won't bother if someone is disliking me. I know that it is not possible to please everybody in this world, so there might be some people who may not like me.
@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
Have you ever disliked someone with 0 logical reasons at all? I know I have. Don't know why.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 16
@Drosophila No I won't dislike anyone without any reasons.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
23 Mar 16
@dpk262006 very principled person! I don't know some people I like without a good reason, whilst others I dislike without a good reason too
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@destimona (1931)
• Luxembourg, Luxembourg
22 Mar 16
Good discussion. If someone doesnot like me, I will never go behind them, or try to communicate with them. If we love someone more than they deserve, they will definitely hurt us more than we deserve. Happiness is in with being someone who loves us not being with someone we love According to me.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
That's interesting. I have the oppositive experience. As long as I did everything I could for a relationship, whether that means if I love or been hurt more than I deserve. At the end of it, I don't feel any regret. I have tried staying with someone who loved me and I don't return the feeling. It's not great at all.
@destimona (1931)
• Luxembourg, Luxembourg
22 Mar 16
@Drosophila Its totally a different perspective. Opinion differs. Anyways, wish you to have happy time with your loved ones.and also wishing you to have a wonderful Easter.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
@destimona Indeed it does! that's what makes life great! the diversity of it all! Thank you for your warm wishes, I also wish you a great Easter and lots of chocolate!
@MGjhaud (20749)
• Philippines
22 Mar 16
i remember a meme on Facebook saying ; theres a chance that you dont like me but theres a bigger chance that i wont care. anyway, i would be civil. it doesnt really matter if someone doesnt like me at work as long as im doing my job right and im not hurting anybody.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
That is very true, as long as they don't try to cause issues for you! Then it's live and let live I guess.
@MGjhaud (20749)
• Philippines
22 Mar 16
@Drosophila even if they create an issue about me, i wouldnt really give them the satisfaction.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
@MGjhaud well i guess they can create trouble for you at work.. like bad mouthing you and so on. Had it happen to me
@annierose (17690)
• Philippines
2 May 16
I will not force myself for someone who does not like me. We cannot please everybody.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
2 May 16
Indeed, definitely no point forcing ourselves onto other people.
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@annierose (17690)
• Philippines
2 May 16
@Drosophila There are really times when we meet someone and from the very start we automatically get the feeling and thought that we do not feel comfortable with that person. I have a classmate for 4 years and we have been in good terms. However, our personalities are different so we do not get along much.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
2 May 16
@annierose indeed, I think sometimes spending time with people who obviously don't like you is a waste of time.
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@LdeL0318 (6467)
• Philippines
22 Mar 16
You can just simply ignore the person. If someone doesn't like me then I don't like them either.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
sometimes it could be a misconception then, they could just give off the wrong vibe
@LdeL0318 (6467)
• Philippines
22 Mar 16
@Drosophila Bit it isn't always necessary to explain yoursef to others.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
@LdeL0318 absolutely! unless you like the person of course, then ya different story :D
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• United States
30 Mar 16
Knowing they don't like me for whatever reason - I'd just go on with my day and exclude them unless I must have to speak to them. I don't care if people like me or not.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
31 Mar 16
that's pretty much what I'd do, no point hanging around where one is not wanted.
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• United States
31 Mar 16
@Drosophila much agreed! But there are people who want to do everything for the person who dislikes them to accept them. Or wants everyone to like them - not me!
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
31 Mar 16
@infatuatedbby oh ya, agreed! life is too short.. there's too many annoying people to waste time on xD
@Daljinder (21025)
• India
26 Mar 16
If we hadn't met and that person still dislikes me. In that case I would give him or her the chance to get to know me. Since we are forced to work together, we can't escape each other. I have been cordial with the persons I don't like (that is a great feat for me. Since I seldom keep my mouth shut if they step a foot out of line) then I can be civil with the person who doesn't like me too. If after that the person still dislikes me then it's their loss. They lost a great opportunity to know an awesome person like me.... See, I can be modest too. What's there not to like?
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
27 Mar 16
HAHAHA you're very patient with people for sure
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@Daljinder (21025)
• India
27 Mar 16
@Drosophila You learn patience when you had to deal with children. Adults have nothing on them....lol
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
27 Mar 16
@Daljinder I don't have children so woot!
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@Dextoi (2429)
• Philippines
23 Mar 16
If someone dislikes me, I just let them be as long as it's not affecting me on what I usually do. I don't do things to be liked by people; I just do the things I like and what I believe is good for me and for most of the people. Working in the library has pros and cons for me. I am sure that not all all of the people around me likes me. Especially on times when I just get so annoyed easily. We have policies in the library and I just have to stick to it for its integrity. But sometimes, I just have to scold a student for some reasons and I think some would really feel bad about it. But, policies are policies, without those, the library would be a total mess. That's one of my experiences.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
23 Mar 16
This sounds like you hate the policies more than people. xD So you've never disliked people without a reason?
@Dextoi (2429)
• Philippines
24 Mar 16
@Drosophila I guess so... Most of the time, I just ignore people. But if they do something really annoying, that irritates me. Without the policies, I guess I would have a lot of friends. I think.. haha
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
24 Mar 16
@Dextoi hahaha! yep well you can maybe suggest change to policies?
@dodo19 (31998)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Mar 16
Honestly, it's their choice. I don't have to like everyone, and not everyone is going to like me. It's just the way it is. I will still be courteous to people, even if they don't like me.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
That's a good outlook, we should be courteous in our dealings with folks
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@dodo19 (31998)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Mar 16
@Drosophila exactly. We should treat others the way we would like them to treat us.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
@dodo19 Indeed! It's a shame this simple yet elegant way of social conduct is not observed by more people.
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@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
18 Apr 16
How to deal with your enemies. Do what other people do? Stick your tonque out at them? Seriously, work is made more difficult when there are people that don't like you for whatever reason. I would say do your job and they should do theirs not your job if that is at all possible.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
19 Apr 16
these are not necessarily enemies.. just people who for whatever reason don't like you, could be your face, your hair, your words... after all there are 99 reasons why someone might have a problem with you, it's just futile to dwell on it. work does suck if the other person can't be professional and work with you. Had that happened to me in my last work place.. I end up gritting my teeth and tough it out as much as I could. But never again lol.. the guy was a nut job!
@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
19 Apr 16
@Drosophila I agree we can always do our job even though we don't like someone. I know what you mean people in business don't always act like they are in business or do their jobs right. We must though if we want to be responsible right? There must have been a good reason you felt that way about that person. I would do extra for someone that I could work well with (also customers) while only do what was required with abusive type characters. In some cases we were allowed to refuse service completely.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
19 Apr 16
@Bluedoll yep this guy was a manager and a work place bully. If I have to do this again, I'd follow the internal procedure to get the guy fired.
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@TheSojourner (17479)
• United States
27 Mar 16
Since we're dealing with people's perceptions, we have little control over what they think or do. We may have some influence but only if they allow it. I've come to a point in my life where I'm better at letting go when someone does not like me but when they decide to wage some sort of offences at me, I usually fight back. I need to learn how to let that go too!
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
27 Mar 16
oh I usually don't do that well either.. am very much of an eye for the eye
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• United States
28 Mar 16
@Drosophila I tend to be that way to. You get what you give. But there's a competitive side to me which inside can get pretty ugly. But I don't play to win. I will try to get ahead. And that's when I can get rather ugly so I try to avoid those times at all costs.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
28 Mar 16
@CoralLevang oh I so know what you mean, I'm quite competitive too.. it's like I must do better than my competition, so ya not always winning friends and so on. :)
@rina110383 (24145)
21 Mar 16
I can't please everyone, best to ignore it.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
21 Mar 16
would you be curious why? that's what's perplexing my friend.
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@rina110383 (24145)
21 Mar 16
@Drosophila No. I don't want to use a single brain cell of mine thinking of the reason why someone doesn't like me.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
@rina110383 Fair play, some people are not worth the brain activity, some people are though
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@DianneN (74465)
• United States
22 Mar 16
We can't like everyone, nor can everyone like us. At my age, I can pick and choose. Let it go and move on.
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@Drosophila (16730)
• Ireland
22 Mar 16
That's true, moving on and not wasting time is key
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@DianneN (74465)
• United States
22 Mar 16
@Drosophila Definitely.
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