Just When You Think It's Safe to Look Up

@Raelove (16813)
Saco, Maine
March 27, 2016 3:44pm CST
Not long ago, I was sitting in my car waiting for my sister to come out of the grocery store when out came a girl wearing painted-on jeans and a decidedly annoyed expression on her face. She was carrying a purse in one hand and a huge cup of iced coffee topped with whipped cream in the other. Just as she was approaching the truck she was riding in, she turned around and started walking back toward the store. Seems her husband (or boyfriend) had come out, and I thought she was just going back to meet him or maybe help him carry what he'd bought. Imagine my surprise when she walked right up to him, threw her drink at him, and started berating him in front of everyone going in and out of the store for being too slow!!! I sat there watching all this from the comfort of my car, from the time he got splattered with the drink to when they were in the truck leaving. She called him every name in the book, with a few expletives thrown in for effect, and he was clearly in shock over it all, as he kept asking her "What did I do?" I've seen lots of confrontations on TV, but seeing one taking place in real life just a few feet away was vastly different. I had no idea how this would all play out in the end, but I drove away before that couple did, so I'll never know. One thing I do know is that at least one man in the world had his day ruined that afternoon! (Public Domain Image)
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@rebelann (41425)
• El Paso, Texas
27 Mar 16
That probably wasn't the first time she'd been abusive to him, what I don't get is why he took it.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
Hard to understand. But there are abused men out there. We just don't hear about it as often.
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@rebelann (41425)
• El Paso, Texas
28 Mar 16
Very true @Raelove and what I really don't get, given all the help people can get, is why anyone stays in an abusive relationship.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@rebelann I don't understand it either. Fear keeps a lot of people from reaching out for help, I guess.
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Mar 16
Goodness she must have a very hot temper to react that violently and in public yet
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@jstory07 (67191)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Mar 16
I have never acted that way in public.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
Oh, she was awful! I think a lot of it was showing off, too. She was doing a tough act to get attention. Seemed like overkill to me, but who knows? She may have had a gripe against him. That just wasn't the place to air it out.
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 16
@jstory07 nor I and never aired any grievance with my hubbyin public either we rarely fought as we talked things over
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• United States
28 Mar 16
@Raelove 1. Painted on Jeans? 2. Her behavior does sound extreme! Is it possible that she was a bit upset because of how 'exposed' she felt?
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
I doubt it, Bernie. At the risk of sounding judgmental, she seemed like the type of girl who liked to call a lot of attention to herself in more ways than one, the first being a really bad attitude!
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• United States
28 Mar 16
@Raelove She sounds like she needs a mental health assessment and likely a stay on a Psych Ward!
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@Berniezeitler She needs something!
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• United States
27 Mar 16
What childish behavior. If I were the man I would have left her standing in the parking lot.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
Who knows how some people process things like this? Hard to tell what I would have done had someone treated me like this. Glad it didn't involve me!
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• United States
28 Mar 16
@Raelove Toss a drink at someone because they took too long. Wow, I keep playing that scene over and over in my mind.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly You had to be there. I'm sure that I once again sat there with my jaw hanging. She kept screaming at him something about "what took you so long?" I will never forget the sight of that guy walking back to his truck trying to wipe the whipped cream off his face and shirt.
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@Corbin5 (106592)
• United States
27 Mar 16
That is a very pitiful scene to have to witness. Not a pretty sight at all. Hope that incident did not escalate into something physical.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
I hope not. She was clearly playing the tough chick. If she had a gripe, that's one thing. But this public display was not necessary.
@besweet (7230)
• Greece
27 Mar 16
You can never know what's going on inside a relationsip, but it is almost certain that they have many issues to solve.
@jstory07 (67191)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Mar 16
Something had to have made her mad.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
Maybe. But he seemed just as surprised at her behavior as everyone else did. And she clearly was acting out. Throwing the drink at him was a bit much.
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• United States
28 Mar 16
Now you'll be wondering what provoked that!
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
Yup! I can't imagine what could have happened between the time she came out and then the time he came out of the store. Whatever it was, she wasted a perfectly good iced coffee on it! Or maybe that was it: the coffee was lousy.
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• United States
28 Mar 16
@Raelove I thought the same thing, better cold than hot. Maybe he flirted with someone in the store.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@AbbyGreenhill I'm not sure. All she kept saying was that he was too (f-word) slow. Let's put it this way: they weren't a good match!
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@Susan2015 (20597)
• United States
28 Mar 16
She sounds like she needs some help for anger issues. He needs to get away from her!
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
Oh yes, anger with a capital A!
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@Susan2015 (20597)
• United States
28 Mar 16
@Raelove We all get mad at one time or another. But berating and throwing things isn't normal to me.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@Susan2015 No, and especially in public! Sheesh.
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@rosekiss (30272)
• Eugene, Oregon
28 Mar 16
That really had to be embarrassing for him. She sounds a little unstable if you ask me. It makes me wonder what the other people thought that were coming in and out of the store. I think if I had seen someting like that, I would have been stunned seeing it. I do feel sorry for the guy, as what she did was totally uncalled for.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
I was completely stunned. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. I remember thinking that her reaction would have been extreme no matter what he did, which couldn't have been much considering they were in a grocery store!
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@rosekiss (30272)
• Eugene, Oregon
28 Mar 16
@Raelove He could have called the police, and who knows, but that maybe she would have got arrewted. It is amazing that he didn't though.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@rosekiss They left the parking lot the same time I did, so I will never know what happened. And I don't want to!!!
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@besweet (7230)
• Greece
27 Mar 16
I feel sorry about her boyfriend/husband after reading this.I am sure it wasn't a pleasant scene to watch.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
No, it wasn't. Stuff like this usually doesn't happen around here much. Or else I'm not there to see it. This time, I was in the right place at the wrong time!
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@besweet (7230)
• Greece
27 Mar 16
@Raelove I hope at least that it ended there. This guy must have felt humiliated, no one should be treated like that (publicly or privately).
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@besweet I agree. Makes you wonder how many more people suffer at the hands of cruel people.
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@LadyDuck (157732)
• Switzerland
28 Mar 16
My goodness I have assisted to some dispute between man and woman but nothing like this.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
That's not the only incident I've seen at that store. I also saw a woman being pretty hard on a little boy who had done something "bad." She was hysterical, and I stood off in the distance to watch and make sure she didn't hit him. She finally took him into the store, so I left. I remember hoping all the way home that things didn't escalate once she was back out. I've not been lucky lately as far as seeing disturbing things.
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@LadyDuck (157732)
• Switzerland
28 Mar 16
@Raelove I agree that those are disturbing scene, but people seem to be more and more ready to make their discussion in front of strangers.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@LadyDuck Well, considering all the "private" conversations I've heard on cell phones in public, this isn't much different. Still disturbing to those of us who were brought up to have manners and respect.
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• United States
28 Mar 16
How utterly classless.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
Totally. Was a real downer.
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• United States
28 Mar 16
@Raelove At least dont do this in public
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
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@UncleJoe (9966)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
28 Mar 16
It's obvious that the guy doesn't beat her enough!
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
Good Lord! I suspect he's the one being abused.
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@UncleJoe (9966)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
28 Mar 16
@Raelove I agree. A good smack might straighten her out. Throw your coffee on me and see what happens. LOL
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
@Shiva49 (13040)
• Singapore
29 Mar 16
I have heard/ seen few blow their top outrageously in the open and they are just not bothered about people around them - siva
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
29 Mar 16
No, this woman certainly wasn't. She was putting on a good show to prove how tough she was.
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@sugartoes (40759)
• Greencastle, Indiana
28 Mar 16
how rude to act that way in public & for something so stupid & him asking what did he do was beyond what I would have said.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
It all seemed so surreal.
@allknowing (65263)
• India
28 Mar 16
That is an indication that what we oldies considered as discretion is non existent
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
You're right there.
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@mammots (3279)
• Philippines
28 Mar 16
That's something new. Its usually the man doing that to the woman.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
28 Mar 16
I have actually never seen a man treat a woman that way. And this woman proved that it's not always the man who's at fault.
@Dena91 (4256)
• United States
27 Mar 16
It's a wonder no one called the police on her. Glad you were safe in your car. I've never witnessed someone throwing their drink on another, just some yelling with choice words. Have a blessed evening.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
Real violence is scary to watch, as you can't predict how far it will go.
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@jaboUK (53939)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 16
More fool him for standing for it.
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
Yes, if he puts up with it regularly. I agree.
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@amadeo (65993)
• United States
27 Mar 16
You have all the fun.All my years here never seen anything.I guess must be missing something.She or he was po
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@Raelove (16813)
• Saco, Maine
27 Mar 16
LOL. I know, huh? You just never expect these things...